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My mom just e-mailed me that the girl she works with just broke off her engagement. She was getting married in Feb. My mom just got the invitation last week. How horrible is that?

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I know someone who just broke off her engagement too. Must be really hard but these things often work out for the best.

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I don't know anyone who has ever done this and hope I never do. How sad but hopefully for the better for the 2 parties involved

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I had a really good friend who was supposed to get married a month before me and she broke off her engagement. It was really hard for her to come to my shower etc..
But he was a real jerk anyway and now she is dating a really great guy.. so sometimes you just never know...But it is really sad...
I knew a girl who we have mutual friends( she is my friends friend) she got married and 9 months later got a divorce. But she is the type of person who never looked beyond the dress ...she was more focused on having a wedding more than getting married....

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FI's cousin broke off her engagement 2 weeks before the wedding. Everything was done. Her parents gave the final balance to the hall, all the vendors were paid, RSVP's were done, seating charts done, and 2 weeks before the wedding she and the guy decided things just werent working out.

But sometimes its better that they realize it now then later...its so sad

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It is sad, but I have say I have so much respect for the person who broke it off! What a horrible position to be in... a mature rational thought out decision I am sure! I remember the first day I wrote out a check for the wedding.... My heart was beating and I thought- you better know what you are doing.... Breaking off an engagement, IMO, is sooo much better than a painful divorce later on!

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I just talked to my mom and she said that the girl actually looks happy now. I guess its for the better. My mom said its better now than 10 years later with 3 kids

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I know someone who broke off her engagement and is now married with three children. She is very happy. This always happen for the best.

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My friends broke off their engagement and then eventually got married and now they are happily married for 2 years and have a beautiful baby girl
As my mom says all the time 'things happen for a reason'

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wow--that is sad, but often times it is for the better. it is completely heartbreaking though. I can't imagine! But as everyone says--better now than later. it's easy to say that when you're not the one going it through it though!!

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How long were all these people dating before being engaged? Its sad when a couple can't figure it out before planning a wedding they are not meant to be.

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Its better that she did it now, than she went ahead with it to save face then be miserable later on. A moment of shame or a lifetime of misery. Everything happens the way it is supposed to.

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I feel like it takes a LOT OF COURAGE to break off an engagement. All eyes are on you, you don't want to disappoint so many people, caught up in the momentum of planning and it is awfully embarrassing! But in the end, she did what was good for herself- I agree, how long was she dating? how old was she? If she thought there was better for her out there, there is.....

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I'm really not sure about my mom's friend but I think they have been dating at least 3 to 4 years. I know that the girl had a lot of trouble with her MIL so that probably added fuel to the fire.

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They are great women to be so courageous and make decisions like that under so much pressure. I can just imagine the look my parents would of had had we broke off a wedding after the hall was paid for That definately takes a lot of courage and it is definately better to do this before the wedding. Divorce is very ugly. Hopefully the new year will bring them peace and happiness.

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My good friend broke off her engagement a few years ago. It was sad. We already had the shower and the invites were out. She then sent out cards saying, 'we regret to inform you, the marriage of X and Y has been cancelled.'

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What does someone do if you had your shower and send out the invites. Do you send back the shower gifts? I wouldn't even know what dto do? I can't ever imagine getting that far into the planning and then breaking it off.

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How sad for that girl-but at least it happened now instead of ending in divorce.

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It is sad, but better than getting married and getting a divorce. I know someone who spend alot of $$ on a wedding and after 1 year got divorced. She married her high school sweetheart who she knew for like 10 years. It's better to be sure although I'm sure it is a sad time for the both of them.

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Better to break the engagement before than to get divorced. Its sad.