2 of my BM are going through some hard times right now. One has just called off her April Wedding, and the other is about to.
I feel sooo badly, especially since they have fittings coming up for the dresses for my wedding. I know this is going to be hard on them. Its also hard because I want to share things about the wedding with the rest of the BMs and I don't want to make the others feel worse.
Is anyone going through this??
LO13LO13
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i'm not going through this, but that stinks for all of you. i think it's ok to still share with them the details of your wedding, and ask them to do things with you, just make sure you are still there to help them through their tough times~
Bunnymonkey
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i think it is so great you are sensitive to this.
I think it is okay to ask them in certain situations 'Are you ok with this?' I'm sure they will appreciate your sensitivity and hopefully be honest about what it is they do need.
If this were me, I would do a preliminary lunch date before fittings and talk ONLY about their needs and emotions - make yourself available with no talk about the wedding. When the time then comes for fittings and wedding talk, I'm sure they will reciprocate and be there for you.
alibali
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i'm kinda going thru this.. but differently.
1. my sister/MOH -- getting married before me to a guy no one likes and everyone kinda wants the wedding to be canceled. 2. best friend/MOH -- with a guy that she'd give up anything for but he has repeatedly said he will never marry her or have kids (which is all she's ever wanted. 3. friend/BM -- been with guy for a while, waiting for him to pop question... he's not ready.. shes stressing. 4. FHs exgf & friend /BM -- upset that shes alone at 26 and her exbf is getting married to a 21 yr old and shes never gonna find 'the one'
i just have such a great bunch put together.. i just feel bad talking about wedding stuff with all of them so i tend not to.. hence why i'm always on LIW.
Mrs_B
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Posted by Bunnymonkey
i think it is so great you are sensitive to this.
I think it is okay to ask them in certain situations 'Are you ok with this?' I'm sure they will appreciate your sensitivity and hopefully be honest about what it is they do need.
If this were me, I would do a preliminary lunch date before fittings and talk ONLY about their needs and emotions - make yourself available with no talk about the wedding. When the time then comes for fittings and wedding talk, I'm sure they will reciprocate and be there for you.
