I feel really bad. I am in one of my best friends weddings 2 months after mine, so obviously we are both a little strapped for cash. We went down to RK bridal in the city for find our BM dresses and we both picked ones we liked for the girls (we both have 12 BM). She called me to make sure that I was getting my dress from there and wanted to know the price b/c she was strapped for cash. I know that these dresses will only be warn once, so I called about 15 places to find the best deal. I finally got a place that will get me the dress for under $100 no tax:)
A few weeks after we went to RK she called and asked if I would mind paying a little more money (I assumed a little was no more then $50) if we got her dresses from a store in Westchester where she was getting her gown. I told her I didn't mind (the dress at RK was $117). Saturday I called her store to give my measurements and when I asked how much of a deposit they wanted they told me $125, so I asked how much the dress was....$250!! More then double the cost of the original dress. When my friend called me later on I told her the dresses were double the price and asked if she would mind if I got mine from the cheaper place (same designer). She got very upset with me and explained to me that she laid this on the line when she asked me if explained to her that the dresses were double and she got offended b/c she said she asked me if I would mind spending a little more on it and was worried if I ordered it from somewhere else that it would be on a different die lot. I told her not to worry about it that it wasn't that big a deal and I would just get it from her place. Now I know that she is upset that I even brought it up, but I just didn't realize how much more it was. I feel bad b/c I know how much people have been stressing me out. I just told her not to worry about it. What do you guys think?? I don't want to say anything else about it, but I know she is a little upset w/ me.
boobobunny
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My sister and I are both getting married this year...and since the bridal party is basically the same we agreed that the BM dresses should not cost more than 175.00 base price. But truthfully no matter how many weddings are coming up....a considerate bride needs to consider her BM's $$ situations. My sister and I asked each BM what is the max $$ they want to spend on a dress. Most said 200. So we decided to go a little lower...knowing that 2 bridemaids are trying to get pregnant and they would have to pay more $$ for the extra material.
I wouldn't feel bad about bringing this up....because if the shoe was on the other foot, she might feel differently.
KRyan1026
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Posted by Blu-ize
Did you talk to her yet? You need to clear the air regardless of the outcome.
I spoke to her last night, she is still really upset that I brought it up (she did know how much more expensive it was) and told me it wasn't her intention to cause us financial hardship. She also offered to pay the difference in the price of the dress. I explained to her that it wasn't the cost of the dress, but the point that we found the exact same dress for 1/2 the price. Plus, she asked some of the other BM opinions and they didn't realize it was double either (everyone assumed it would be about $20 - 30 more) and are also a little confused. At the end of the day, she still wants us to get it from there and get our alterations there (I think they may be included in the price) b/c she is afraid they may be a different color and have a different bustle (spelled right?) if we get it somewhere else. I told her not to worry about it that I would order from where she wanted me to. At this point it's done, but now a lot of the other girls have called me b/c they are upset we are paying double. No one cared if the dress was $250, but since we can get it cheaper they don't understand. So now I made 1/2 the BP upset. Nothing I can do at this point. I think she is ok w/ it now and we are all getting the dress and alterations from where she wants us to.
