I feel like the Bride on the top of the cake chocking her fiance!!!!!HELP

ok.... i am in general a calm and peacful person, but my FH is going to drive me crazy!!!

We are about a week away from the wedding...all he is doing is driving me nuts... we have to do this, and that, go here and there.. i said i know.. got it under control.. i run around every day.. on my lunch, before work, after work, on the weekends.. no problem.. i am just a person that likes to always be on the go.. well today is no different.. i am going crazy in the office today.. because i have only a few days left before i leave.. but i managed to call the Swan Club, give them my final head count, and reveiw the balance.. i call my FH, to tell him, ( and we have the $$, so its not a surprise) and he just like bumps me off the phone, that he has another call to take..

Well i was like ok, fine, bye... and i just got really steamed!!! I am busy in the office too, and on top of that doing all this extra stuff... and that is what he says!!!! Meanwhile when he wants to go and do stuff for the wedding, no matter how tired i am, i go with him... i guess all the wedding stuff is finally getting to me, between that and not sleeping, and when i do have crazy dreams... ok well i just needed to vent!!!!! thanks for listening... I guess i will just try and let this one go by..but i am still po'd!!!!!

Re: I feel like the Bride on the top of the cake chocking her fiance!!!!!HELP

I feel your pain - my FH is the worst! I started to freak out a few weeks ago about all that's left to do, and he volunteered to take on more to help me out, etc. and that's where it ended! I gave him a short list of things and he's finished maybe 2 of them, only after I keep on his butt about it!

I did all the girl stuff on my own - BM gifts, etc., but yet I still have to go with him for his groomsmen gifts - I wish I had the extra help by my side!

4 weeks to go and I'm barely hanging on! LOL

Don't worry, it will all fall into place. Maybe you can calmly tell him you really need his help this last week?

Re: I feel like the Bride on the top of the cake chocking her fiance!!!!!HELP

My wedding is also in a week and I have been trying to get in touch with my FI today also to give the final head count to Chateau Briand. I cannot get a hold of him. I know how you feel.

Plus I had taken a half a day off work today and came in late and I am swamp. I feel like everything is on me.

We just have to take it one step at a time and we will be alright.

Re: I feel like the Bride on the top of the cake chocking her fiance!!!!!HELP

Ladies I know where you are and I feel you...try as you might not to stress too much do as much as you can and take it one day at a time, it will all work out and fall in to place. Men have a strange way of handling their stress, we talk about it they bottle it up. Give him a short to do list and make sure to stay on top of him. It both your wedding and you should not feel as if you are in this by yourself.

All the best

Here are some calm and stress free vibes for you all *************'''''''*******************

Re: I feel like the Bride on the top of the cake chocking her fiance!!!!!HELP

My Fh is driving me nuts although it is not weddig related. He called me today with an attitude and expected me to leave work and go home and just wait for a package! Although this is something that he is not willing to do! He knows what my job is and how many hours I work (I am an event coordinator) and on weeks with an event I work between 60-70 hrs. Men can be SOO unreasonable!

Re: I feel like the Bride on the top of the cake chocking her fiance!!!!!HELP

you guys are cracking me up.

I got annoyed at FH yesterday because we decided to change our flight out to Hawaii and leave 2 days after our wedding instead of the next day.

After going back and forth, the travel agent and I decided it's best to keep the flight the way it is. When I call to tell him? He says, 'See if we can leave at a later time instead - rather than 2 days later'. ARGH!

Then he asks me to call the furniture store and confirm our order. Why can't he call! I'm busy at work too!
(As I post on this board! LOL!)

Re: I feel like the Bride on the top of the cake chocking her fiance!!!!!HELP

Oh man -- I hear you!! My FI hasn't done mch to help -- I've been on top of everything -- which has been good & bad. It's a pain to be stuck taking every little detail, but then again, if I do it get's done right ( ) and things get done faster - since compromises usually take time to work out.

Anyway - the other night I was losing it. My BMs are both from far away (one's coming in from Germany, one's from Alabama) and my Dad is really sick, so that's stressful anyway and has understandably absorbed my mother's attention. My sister meanwhile basically told me at one point to shut about the wedding because she was sick of hearing about it (back in the days where I was giddy with joy -- not exausted with stress).

Anyway - to say I'm feeling a little alone and miserable over bearing the brunt of the planning is an understatement. I finally vented to my best friend on the phone how much I'm looking forward to her coming in because I'm losing it and I really need a friend because this wedding that used to make me so happy and excited is making me miserable -- and it's turning into the biggest inconvience for everyone around me and I feel guilty for having it with my Dad so sick, and I think maybe it was a mistake to bother because no one will appreciate it -- everyone only seems to resent the fact that I'm having a wedding...

And I was also PMS... so you can imagine how miserable & alone I felt....

Well anyway, my FI overheard, and has been really sweet. He's gotten all of the RSVPs from his side (including one which required major work because the invitee's phone was out of service). And just recently I told him -- 'please-- we HAVE to get the RSVPs and the tables done -- so you have to help me because I don't know your side..' I even started a draft seating chart to make it easy on him, because he's famous for 'later- later - later..' He stopped what he was doing and took care of it right away.

The best though was when he turned to me and said 'Honey, I'm sorry you're doing all of this. You know me, I take 45 minutes just to figure out what I'm gonna order off a menu -- I'm no good at making decisions. I'd end up creating even more work for you. But I really appreciate everything you've done and I know you've worked really hard. It's gonna be awesome....' Then he promised to make time to help me wrap favors..

Yikes... Sorry Tami -- my answer to your vent turned into a vent of my own.... But like I said -- you are not alone, I know exactly what you mean.

Re: I feel like the Bride on the top of the cake chocking her fiance!!!!!HELP

Dora, I'm glad he heard you.

Sometimes it pays to speak up and let it all out.

Re: I feel like the Bride on the top of the cake chocking her fiance!!!!!HELP

WOW! I thought i was the only one feeling this way..it is good to know it is not just me.. thanks for your telling me your stuff... it kinda makes me feel better.. but he is still gonna get a talking to when i get home!!

I love this board!! thanks guys!!!!

Re: I feel like the Bride on the top of the cake chocking her fiance!!!!!HELP

that is actually going to be our cake topper!