i feel odd telling a 3rd 'party'they cant come.. HELP

Original post by xXxNovember08xXx

Mar 23, 2007 02:30 PM

FH best friend his Brother is engaged AND has a girlfriend

we sent the announcement to the brother and his FIANCE only...

She JUST im'ed me
'now my question is the announcement was for Scott and kat am I able to attend the wedding also just wondering'

I responded in SHOCK
'the wedding is more then a year and a half away I haven't even planned who inviting let alone the details'

w t f do i say?! bc she is NOT invited.. but i feel REAL weird telling her.. HELP!!!!!!

ps : she is ALSO not invited to FH best friends wedding....

i hope i didnt confuse anyone.

HELP

Julybride08 Posted: Mar 23, 2007 02:43 PM

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I wouldn't invite her either! She is a Girlfriend of a engaged couple. or like a roomate. Why would you invite her? She has no relationship with you. I would say no.

Teamhurldon Posted: Mar 23, 2007 02:43 PM

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sooooo, they're a lil' 'freaky'as in 'giggidy' freaky?.....

hmmmm

to each their own I say...lol

xXxNovember08xXx Posted: Mar 23, 2007 02:43 PM

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Posted by BubbasBride

So they are a swinging couple with a live in girlfriend??

am i getting this right?

and if i am, i don't have any idea as to what's appropriate in terms of invites

exactly.. and for 2 years she has NOT be invited to anything 'family' related... bc the parents of the brother... hate this...

everyone does not approve.

Julybride08 Posted: Mar 23, 2007 02:44 PM

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Posted by AMGBride2008

How SCANDALOUS!!! They're swingers?!!?!?

OK, this is what I would tell her, you haven't planned the guest list yet, but you're trying to keep it very small, family only.. that's all.

I agree. Tell her that. And besides it's over 1 year away.

BubbasBride Posted: Mar 23, 2007 02:45 PM

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i'm not one to judge....so party on to them!

but for you, i would view her like their roommate, and probably wouldn't invite. It's rude of her to ask you anyway. I agree with others, tell her you need to keep the numbers down.

By now she must be used to being shunned, no?

xXxNovember08xXx Posted: Mar 23, 2007 02:45 PM

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Posted by Julybride08

I wouldn't invite her either! She is a Girlfriend of a engaged couple. or like a roomate. Why would you invite her? She has no relationship with you. I would say no.

she thinks she is part of the family....

my best friend told her flat out, neither one of you will be part of my wedding...

i feel horrible but i just spoke to her ^ who said that... she told me to say the same.. to jsut tell her flat out she is NOT invited.

Teamhurldon Posted: Mar 23, 2007 02:46 PM

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tell her you dont want drama out of respect with the 'older' generations at the wedding, and you really hope she understands...

xXxNovember08xXx Posted: Mar 23, 2007 02:48 PM

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Posted by BubbasBride

i'm not one to judge....so party on to them!

but for you, i would view her like their roommate, and probably wouldn't invite. It's rude of her to ask you anyway. I agree with others, tell her you need to keep the numbers down.

By now she must be used to being shunned, no?

well thats why i quick responded 'the wedding is more then a year and a half away I haven't even planned who inviting let alone the details'

Julybride08 Posted: Mar 23, 2007 02:49 PM

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Do you talk to this girl? Like are you friends? Cause basically just think of it as like there roommate. ANd I wouldn't invite her. I would just tell her flat out that she is not invited. What is she gonna do not talk to you?

ant n tilde Posted: Mar 23, 2007 02:50 PM

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well i am sorry i made fun - i really thought i misunderstood.

thats a tough one - good luck with that one!

cbcf Posted: Mar 23, 2007 02:54 PM

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oh wow a group of swingers...

jk..i dont get a relationship like that but i am not going to judge

i dont think she should be invited- especially if she hasnt been invited to any family events and the parents dont approve= i wouldnt want the parents of FH's best friend to feel uncomfortable during the wedding cause this girlfriend of FH's best friends brother is there...

lol

but it was also rude for her to ask you...

MikeandJess Posted: Mar 23, 2007 02:56 PM

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Posted by debbieh

YES it is ALLL Confusing as you all are....

his name lets call him S
S has been engaged to K for 4 years now
S and K went on to a dating website met E, and E moved into THEIR HOUSE

S K AND E have been LIVING together for 2/ 2.5 years now

S brother is M
M is FH best friend.
M is not having E at his wedding
I am NOT having E at mine..

we sent out announcements to S and K ONLY

im so confused... what is wrong with ppl... and why are they making me stressed with their confusing relationships...

Are they from utah?

ant n tilde Posted: Mar 23, 2007 02:57 PM

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personally i dont think you should invite anyone that could make the rest of the family uncomfortable

i am trying not to invite my cousin's boyf of over ten years since he is a drug addict loser - and if he is there my aunt and uncle ( who are practically my second set of parents) would probably spend most of hte night in tears.

i am NOT comparing him to this 'unique' situation - i think everyone is entitled to their lifestyle but they shouldnt 'come out' to the public at your wedding

MJDoc12 Posted: Mar 23, 2007 02:58 PM

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wow! what a crazy situation!

its up to you, but i wouldn't want her there at the wedding....but that's just me. i mean it would be different if everyone approved...but even her own 'BF' won't allow her to come to their wedding!

i'd just tell her no...you'er not invited!

xXxNovember08xXx Posted: Mar 23, 2007 03:01 PM

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Posted by MikeandJess

Posted by debbieh

YES it is ALLL Confusing as you all are....

his name lets call him S
S has been engaged to K for 4 years now
S and K went on to a dating website met E, and E moved into THEIR HOUSE

S K AND E have been LIVING together for 2/ 2.5 years now

S brother is M
M is FH best friend.
M is not having E at his wedding
I am NOT having E at mine..

we sent out announcements to S and K ONLY

im so confused... what is wrong with ppl... and why are they making me stressed with their confusing relationships...

Are they from utah?

HAHAHHAHAAH no

xXxNovember08xXx Posted: Mar 23, 2007 03:03 PM

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Posted by ant n tilde

personally i dont think you should invite anyone that could make the rest of the family uncomfortable

i am trying not to invite my cousin's boyf of over ten years since he is a drug addict loser - and if he is there my aunt and uncle ( who are practically my second set of parents) would probably spend most of hte night in tears.

i am NOT comparing him to this 'unique' situation - i think everyone is entitled to their lifestyle but they shouldnt 'come out' to the public at your wedding

*sigh* its just real different

GinaZ Posted: Mar 23, 2007 03:38 PM

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Posted by debbieh

YES it is ALLL Confusing as you all are....

his name lets call him S
S has been engaged to K for 4 years now
S and K went on to a dating website met E, and E moved into THEIR HOUSE

S K AND E have been LIVING together for 2/ 2.5 years now

S brother is M
M is FH best friend.
M is not having E at his wedding
I am NOT having E at mine..

we sent out announcements to S and K ONLY

im so confused... what is wrong with ppl... and why are they making me stressed with their confusing relationships...

So basically they are in a three persoon relationship but you are only inviting two of them? Is that what it is?

Anyway, if you dont want ehr there- dont invite her. She will figure it out when she doesnt get an invitation.

megzzie Posted: Mar 23, 2007 04:08 PM

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Wow, this is a very interesting situation. I would just keep it as 'we didn't make up the guest list yet, but we are trying to keep it small, like family and close friends only.'

HTH, good luck!

madseason Posted: Mar 23, 2007 04:20 PM

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I would just say im sorry, but weve already had to cut the list already and FHBF and fiance have been long friends of ours ......or insert whichever comment you wish...but YOU DO NOT OWE HER anything!!!!!!!!!!!!

hth