we were just going over a list of guests just so we have an idea and my fh only has about 26 people on his list and that is if they all bring a guest included. and then theres my list which is 86 so i kind of feel bad bout me having more people in attendance then him it doesnt bother him but it bothers me . what do i do??? i feel really bad bout this. do i cut my list down a little or keep it the same that it is. thanks ladies!!
You shouldn't feel bad! It's not your fault that his list isn't as long as yours. My list isn't as long as my FH's but how can I ask him to cut out people that he wants to invite to our wedding? I simply can't!! These are the people in his family that will become MY family... so, in essence, this is OUR family... whether they're from my side or his. That's how you have to think about it. This is a celebration of 2 families coming together!
I've learned you can't feel bad! I had the same situation, I realized you're inviting who you invite because you care about them and and they love you! Like the poster above said, two families are becoming one!! You can't cut people to make it even...you'll probably then feel bad for NOT inviting people!
thank you girls!!! you always make me feel better
thank you girls!!! you always make me feel better!
don't feel bad, I have more family than my fiance does, not by much, but I do have more, then group your friends and make the mutual friends, after all, you are getting married and anyone in your life is in your fiances life too!!! What my fiance and I did was divided up the remainder of guests after family and friends and went that way, you can try doing that with him!!!
Don't feel bad! Your two families are becoming one so they're all your guests together! I have a huuuuge Italian and Greek family. We have people coming from Greece and italy and I have about double the guests my fiancé does. Were getting a sign for our ceremony that says 'as two families become one we ask you to chose a seat not a side!' :)
This also made me feel better thank you so much for posting this question and supporting each other.
i agree the girls here are great!
