My Fh and I just got into a huge fight, I was jokine around with him about bis BM having to wash his clothes for him after his bachelor party, he flippoed on me telling me I an alcoholic who drank at my parents house and how I better be f--kin around with him because he is going to ask his BM if what I was saying is true...
I feel like I should leave him because what I was saying was a complete joke and he was taking it completely serioulsy..
its three weeks before my wedding and I feel like I want to leave him.. PLease help...............please
Beanie571
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You poor thing! Just breathe. I'm sure you are both nervous, but try not to take it out on each other.
Spend some time apart tonight - and regroup.
qtdimps23
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wow. im sorry hon. just breathe and try having a talk with him. did that really happen and he just doesnt remember? maybe hes just embarassed and got defensive. try talking it out an keep in mind why you said yes to marrying him.
bettybcafe
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Didnt you just have an argument not to long ago? Whats going on with him?
FutureMrsBeck
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Hey, I'm sooooo sorry you're feelin liek this! The only advice I can offer you is to cool down first before you do or say anything else to him. You need to think if this is something that you've been feeling for a while or if this is the only time you've felt that way, because when you get married the problems don't suddenly get better. Go with your gut and try to figure out ifyou're just angry now, or if there's been a little voice in the back of your head for a while telling you that this isn't right. Just give yourself some time to cool down before you make any decisions though, good luck and I know you'll do what's best for you. Here's some hugs and prayers!
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I don't know what to do I was totally joking with him...he just ran out of the house totally screaming at me when I told him I was joking with him and I didn't want him to take it seriously, now he is telling me he is going to have a serious talk with his BM about lying about him and that I am a f ucking liar about telling him what me and my (pregnant!) sister are talking about....we were just laughing about or bachelorette//bachelor parties...I have pics of mine which FH saw and he has none of his because none of the men had any....should I just walk out....go to my aunt's who lives right next door? He is making me hysterical and our wedding is 23 daYS away
HamptonsBride
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sorry you guys are fighting...sometimes they get mad at things we think they shouldn't and vice versa....but take some time to cool down and think about stuff...and think of why you wanted to marry FH in the first place and fell in love with him...i know when we fight there are times when I think...it'd be sooo much easier to stay single...but once everything is fine again i know i was thinking that only because we were fighting...good luck!!
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It sounds like you're both stressed and taking it out on each other. Maybe something happened today that would make him lash out at you? Regardless, give it some time and wait for both of you to cool down. It sounds like he just blew this out of porportion. I hope it all works out.
Aug07OFCbride
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im really confused. but im sorry to hear about this argument. don't freak out, its just an argument and it could just be all of the pre-wedding stress. take a breather, let him take his and come back together and talk it out. explain that you were jk.
GL!
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This is an extremely stressful time for both of you!!!!!!! You have to keep it together as much as possible! Talk to him and tell him how you feel!! XOXOX Kitty
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Posted by HamptonsBride
sorry you guys are fighting...sometimes they get mad at things we think they shouldn't and vice versa....but take some time to cool down and think about stuff...and think of why you wanted to marry FH in the first place and fell in love with him...i know when we fight there are times when I think...it'd be sooo much easier to stay single...but once everything is fine again i know i was thinking that only because we were fighting...good luck!!
soooo well put.....talk it out dont jump to angry impulses...remember its just a fight
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wow...
something is up with fh...maybe you can approach him calmly and say something like 'soory if I freaked you out before...i was jsut joking around...is everything ok with you? do you want to talk?'
sorry!
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Take a deep breath and try to calm down and clear your head. The last thing you should do is confront him while your angry. YEs what he said is harsh. Very possible that the two of you are stressed and nervous about the big day. It is a big step. I dont know if leaving tonight is such a good idea cuz that may cause more of an argument. Regroup and see if he would sit down and talk to you without yelling. he obviously got upset for a reason... now the question is why. Good luck
Marchbride07
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Thank you
He is gone until god knows when...
Marchbride07
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I just wanted to thank everyone for the hugs...FH apologized to me this morning for overreacting...I do really love him a lot but lately he has been very moody...maybe he has jitters, i don't know...he also feels like he doesn't make enougn money and has been stressing about that...I don't know, but he apologized, so we are taking it from there..
Thank you for the support..
TnOiOnL
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its just the jitters babe... this happens to EVERYONE. ive NEVER said i wanted to leave my FH until VENDOR SHOPPING
its so overwhelming, the closer we come to the wedding day, the more fights we get into and the more i THINK i dont wanna do it.. its just that EVERYTHING is finally getting to you. AND him.
itll be over in 3 short weeks and you'll be in marital bliss with no more worries
Cpt2007
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I'm glad things turned around a bit. Try to keep thinking about the happiness you are about to share. That will get you through!
