People who think that their kids should be at my wedding.
We've been engaged for 2 years and from the beginning I said NO KIDS. FH's dad is one of 15 children and his mom is one of 9. If we invite all kids I'll have a small army. Now everyone is insisting we have their kids.
My family has a very small invite list 60 (out of 280 invites) and we are not inviting kids because I didn't want to invite my family and not his (FH family is 130 people not including kids). My mom was upset, but agreed it was the right thing to do.
Am I wrong for not wanting kids there? It's an adult reception!!!!!
RadioLau
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It's your wedding!!! You can do whatever you want.
kissy27
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Not wrong at all! we felt the same way! The only 3 kids that were invited were both our nephews (infants, but didn't come to reception) & our FG who was 3!
I honestly don't think that a reception is a place for kids! Stick to your guns!
roxyspark
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I agree with you. This party is for you and FH. Some people want to have children at there wedding and some don't. People need to respect your wishes.
autumn
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Not at all, I told FH that I didn't want everyones kids at the wedding. If acouple of our FG/RB has to stay, then they have to be in the bridal suite the whole time. FH and I's wedding isn't going to be a jamboree filled with kids.
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Dads 1 of 15??? Moms 1 one of 9??? Yeks! I too would have a strict no kid rule too! Look this is your wedding and you gotta take a stand. If your inlaws really want all those rugrats to come, they can pay for a second wedding with all of them there. A friend of mines mom had the same problem, she didn't want kids, so her inlaws threw a seprate ceremony and reception for her husbands family only and all their kids. Her husband had 6 brothers, 4 sister, 3 stepsisters, and 1 stepbrother. Yeah kinda nuts. He was the youngest of them all! And they all had kids! Ranging from 2months to 17. Needless to say thats how his family dealt with her choice. She said the first ceremony was far better, than the one with countless numbers of kids. Because all his first, second and third cousins and their kids were all there.
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You are not wrong at all! The only children that are going to be at our wedding is FH's 2 neices and 2 nephews who are all in the BP, and his twin 13 yr old cousins because they are the only cousins he really has. Try not to lose it. It is your day and you can do what you want!
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your not wrong at all!!! The only kids that are coming to my wedding are my soon to be nephew and niece, but they are in the WP...other than that NO KIDS!!!
Your day, your way!!
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Glad to hear I'm not a brat. I just can't imagine all those kids there, plus paying to have them there!
FH mom isn't upset...it's his family complaining. What I don't get is 5 yrs ago when his cousin got married in Jamacia no kids were invited. In fact everyone had to find babysitters for a week while all the adults went on vacation. No one complained then!
We are having 4 kids, only because they are in our bridal party. We put them in there on purpose since we are super close and we knew we would have the no kid rule. The 4 kids in our wedding are the FH godparents kids too, not like we just picked 4 kids out randomly. We go on vacations and they are the only family that have come to NY to visit since we moved here.
I think my biggest problem is the FH's bro is getting married in April 2007 and they are inviting all first cousins. The bride has a large amount of kids she wants to invite so every kid is.
Why don't they understand every wedding is different? AHHHH...thanks for letting me vent!
pigs222seal
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Your not wrong at all.....this is your wedding!!! Just make sure you and your FH understand and agree on this manner.
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Posted by pigs222seal
Your not wrong at all.....this is your wedding!!! Just make sure you and your FH understand and agree on this manner.
yeah, I'm lucky we 100% agree on this issue.
FrogGirl0917
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You are fine to be annoyed. We are only inviting our FG and RBs, and my FSIL said that she is having someone pick them up after pictures anyway
Beth1210
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I just don't get why people want to bring there kids-it sounds like more trouble then it worth
Katie&Chris2006
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Stick to your guns girl!
tzayas
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A little birdie once told me not too long ago to ENJOY these moments and not let anyone get to me!! Any ideas who that was???
It is YOUR wedding...well yours and his...but they will get over it. If they can't be understanding about it, that's just too bad for them. They are the one's who will regret it...not you.
XOXOXOXO
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Posted by tzayas
A little birdie once told me not too long ago to ENJOY these moments and not let anyone get to me!! Any ideas who that was???
It is YOUR wedding...well yours and his...but they will get over it. If they can't be understanding about it, that's just too bad for them. They are the one's who will regret it...not you.
XOXOXOXO
Little birdie.... i do wonder??? LOL
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we are also dealing with this situation, but we are sticking to our guns and trying not to listen to what everyone else thinks is the right thing to do. I do not think children should be there and some of our family members who are parents agree
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Posted by megsm3
we are also dealing with this situation, but we are sticking to our guns and trying not to listen to what everyone else thinks is the right thing to do. I do not think children should be there and some of our family members who are parents agree
Same here, I jsut do not get why they would want to bring their children to a Sat. evening reception, but fh's family was not happy about it, but we are sticking to our guns!!!
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I just don't get why people want to bring there kids-it sounds like more trouble then it worth
I have said it many times - they want to showcase how cute their kids are.
4/5 of the kids in my BP went home after the CH. The other one was my nephew and he slept in a crib tucked away in the corner.
The parents wanted a night out without worrying about chasing the kids all over the place so I invited the grandparents to the ceremony and CH and they took the kids home afterwards. In our case, there was no place (or reason) for a 3 year old to be awake until 1 am on a Saturday night at a formal affair. Shoot, the BP kids were all cranky and tired by the time they went home - a couple were crying. Imagine if they stayed all night? No fun for the parents AT ALL!!! I dont care HOW cute they look in a little suit or dress. JMO.
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you are so right in sticking to your guns on this one! i've witnessed first hand what having too many kids at a wedding can do... its NOT pretty! my best friend had about 40 kids at her wedding last summer ( shes babysat since she was 11, and she invited every kid she every babysat for!!), and it basically turned into a 5 year olds birthday party!! none of the older people could dance because the kids were running around in circles on the dance floor the whole time- it was rediculus!!! so definitely stick to your guns on this one- they'll get over it. i don't understand why they wouldn't want a night out without the kids anyway....
