I hate Jealousy! I cant stand any more wedding talk!
myasmom
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I hate Jealousy! I cant stand any more wedding talk!
I am not sad abou this becasue I didnt expect any less. We had a beautiful wedding. Everyone has been emailing or calling and I have been riding that wave of satisfaction from all my planning
Well one of my mom's friends mentioned that one of my so called good frineds had a upset look on her face the whole night when she was looking at me..HAPPY. She had gotten married weeks before and I dont know why but all of our conversations since have been comparisons (her mainly) of the weddings. She dropped little comments of negativity of how her day was perfect...mine was too except for the delay with the DJ which was hidden by serving dinner early so everyone got to dance even longer. I mean, why would someone had wanted our day to be bad.
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I wouldn't take you mom's friends word as the gospel...was she watching your friend all night? Try not to let this bother you...You wedding was beautiful be happy about that and if others are jealous..let it be their problem NOT YOURS!
heidla
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It sounds like her problem not yours. As long as you and your husband were happy, what else matters.
myasmom
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oct.2004bride
There are other comments that she has said after the wedding that I ignored. Things like..I am so glad my DJ showed up..you must be so embarrassed..stuff like that. And your dress looked so much better in the photo..***?
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sorry to hear that
If i were in your shoes i would still fell bad for her...she obviously is jealous and needs to say these comments to make herself feel better.... I know it must be frustrating but obviously she has her own issues... Don't let her behavior bring you down!!! This is YOUR TIME! ENJOY IT!
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You know how some people are--they can't feel good about themselves unless they're putting someone else down. She might also be jealous that you managed to have such a great time at your wedding in spite of the DJ mishap, you know?
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I had one BM who was miserable the whole day and tried to make everyone else miserable. Her cousin, another BM, sent me a nasty email 2 days before the wedding and just 2 days ago sent me another VERY NASTY email asking 'what did we do to deserve all of this nonsense?'
Jealousy is EXACTLY what it is. But, there's normal jealousy versus hateful jealousy. It's unfortunate that you and I have to deal with hateful jealousy.
(and, thanks again for that white/ivory tuxedo vest help. I can tell in the photos that we got from our guests that it would have looked REALLY bad if my husband had an ivory vest!)
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oct.2004bride
There are other comments that she has said after the wedding that I ignored. Things like..I am so glad my DJ showed up..you must be so embarrassed..stuff like that. And your dress looked so much better in the photo..***?
eww that is just rude, let me just tell you i saw you post your dress before and i never really thought that i liked it. but then i saw it ON YOU and it was sooo gorgeous. the photo didnt do it any justice.
oh well, too bad your wedding was awesome and hers wasnt good enough.
dont listen to a think she says!
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Posted by myasmom
I am not sad abou this becasue I didnt expect any less. We had a beautiful wedding. Everyone has been emailing or calling and I have been riding that wave of satisfaction from all my planning
Well one of my mom's friends mentioned that one of my so called good frineds had a upset look on her face the whole night when she was looking at me..HAPPY. She had gotten married weeks before and I dont know why but all of our conversations since have been comparisons (her mainly) of the weddings. She dropped little comments of negativity of how her day was perfect...mine was too except for the delay with the DJ which was hidden by serving dinner early so everyone got to dance even longer. I mean, why would someone had wanted our day to be bad.
Unfortunately this has also happened to me. It's like two people who know each other cannot have very different but very good days.....I guess it is just another way of finding out who your real friends are. I would, however, make sure that those comments were truly said, and is not just someone else's translation of it.
Maybe they are just sad they they are done riding their wave
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i agree... some people just need to put others down to feel better, its wrong yet they continue to keep doing it..
myasmom
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Mrs. Brad..thank you sooooo much.
I was on the fence on dress too. But then I tried it on and when people stopped what they were doing I felt so confident
FrescaBride
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Myasmom.... I just posted on the new board for the Moms. It's funny I read your post. One of the ladies does not get along very well with her FDIL. She seems to have many problems along the way. I suggested to her to 'Look At The Source' when someone says or does something to you. I always do. When you look at the source you realized..why waste your energy, pay attention to it. or stop smiling because of someone. Once you look at the source, everything makes sense. People like her will always be like that regardless of whom she's interacting with. It's just her nature and her negativity...Let her swim in her own negative juices..look the source....look away and
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Mrs. Brad..thank you sooooo much.
I was on the fence on dress too. But then I tried it on and when people stopped what they were doing I felt so confident
awww, you're welcome. i really mean it too - you were gorgeous! dont let her get to you!
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I don't think you should consider this girl as a friend. Distance yourself away from her slowly. You have your new husband now. All she will do is compare, compare and keep comparing herself to you. Don't worry about her. You really don't need her.
myasmom
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Spitzergirl: I don't think you should consider this girl as a friend. Distance yourself away from her slowly. You have your new husband now. All she will do is compare, compare and keep comparing herself to you. Don't worry about her. You really don't need her.
You know what I dont anymore. Ever know how you hope for the best but each time you give the benefit of the doubt something bites you in the rump...I am through with her.
