I hate my FSIL right now..........

She got engaged and decided to set a date 3 months after my wedding. WHY? WHY? WHY? could not they have waited until the following year.

How do you guys feel about this?


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I don't think it is a big deal. At least it is not 3 days before yours. Unless she is doing the same theme/colors as you, I wouldn't worry about it. Your day will be your day and her day will be hers.

I do know how you feel....My MOH got engaged after me but is getting married 8 months before me....at first I was upset that she was getting married the same year as me, but I don't own the year and she is just as happy as I am to get married. After the idea settles it really was fine...I guess we all get territorial over our weddings!

As long as FSIL isn't taking ideas from you I wouldn't worry about it. Things could be a lot worse...be happy for them....I am sure they are happy for you guys!

Id be pissed if it was BEFORE my wedding, but who cares if hers is after???? As long as your first, then you dont have to worry about people comparing yours to hers... they will be comparing hers to YOURS!

I have a friend that just got engaged and is having the wedding in 08.... While i was pissed about this and having to 'live up to' her wedding... They will have forgotte about hers by the time mine rolls around

I think little34 is right...we all tend to get territorial about our weddings.

I don't know your fsil, but I find it hard to believe that she picked her day deliberately to piss you off.

In the grand scheme of life, it really isn't that big of a deal...unless of course, you guys all socialize with the same group of people. But if you don't, then it's going to be all different people at the wedding.

Don't sweat it sweetie...

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Posted by FuTuRe MrS MaZz

Id be pissed if it was BEFORE my wedding, but who cares if hers is after???? As long as your first, then you dont have to worry about people comparing yours to hers... they will be comparing hers to YOURS!

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I completely agree!

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Posted by FuTuRe MrS MaZz

Id be pissed if it was BEFORE my wedding, but who cares if hers is after???? As long as your first, then you dont have to worry about people comparing yours to hers... they will be comparing hers to YOURS!

I have a friend that just got engaged and is having the wedding in 08.... While i was pissed about this and having to 'live up to' her wedding... They will have forgotte about hers by the time mine rolls around

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i have to agree with her.. it's BEFORE your wedding.. so you have nothing to worry about...

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Posted by kabo0831

she is trying to steal your thunder, im sorry that is just wrong

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TRUE. Ok there is someone that knows where I am coming from.

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Posted by kabo0831

she is trying to steal your thunder, im sorry that is just wrong

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Definitely disagree...Weddings are weddings...your wedding is yours and hers is hers...she is allowed to get married on whatever day she would like just as you are allowed to get married whenever you would like. I think it is kind of selfish to assume that people should revolve their plans around our own wedding plans...I would be upset if someone asked me to do that or got mad at me for choosing my date.... I could see you being upset if it were before your big day, but since it is after, I really don't see a problem at all. Don't stress over the small stuff! Your day will still be amazing!


By the way, im not trying to minimize your feelings, i just don't really think its fair to be angry with her...

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Posted by lmt245

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Posted by kabo0831

she is trying to steal your thunder, im sorry that is just wrong

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Definitely disagree...Weddings are weddings...your wedding is yours and hers is hers...she is allowed to get married on whatever day she would like just as you are allowed to get married whenever you would like. I think it is kind of selfish to assume that people should revolve their plans around our own wedding plans...I would be upset if someone asked me to do that or got mad at me for choosing my date.... I could see you being upset if it were before your big day, but since it is after, I really don't see a problem at all. Don't stress over the small stuff! Your day will still be amazing!

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100% ITA

your wedding is one day---you don't have control of the entire year of 2009....3 months later, is a good amount of time. and not for nothing but think about how great it feels to be engaged and wanting to plan your wedding.......why should she postpone her wedding until 2010 just because you have a wedding in 2009?

i think if you step back from this you might see how unreasonable you sound.

**edited because i thought i read three days after...
three months after is not a big deal. Even if it was three months before i dont see a big deal...

You guys can do the wedding planning together. Did you speak toher and see why she did it that month??
I have three friends getting married in Sept, and one getting married in December , I would have LOVED to not gotten married before them since they were engaged first, but as a teacher, I am delt the cards of June/July and july aug are too hot for most of my guests... so i could only pick THOSE months to get married...

You should talk to her...It may seem overwhelming at first but honestly... take a step back and see it though..

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Posted by MJDoc12

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Posted by lmt245

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Posted by kabo0831

she is trying to steal your thunder, im sorry that is just wrong

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Definitely disagree...Weddings are weddings...your wedding is yours and hers is hers...she is allowed to get married on whatever day she would like just as you are allowed to get married whenever you would like. I think it is kind of selfish to assume that people should revolve their plans around our own wedding plans...I would be upset if someone asked me to do that or got mad at me for choosing my date.... I could see you being upset if it were before your big day, but since it is after, I really don't see a problem at all. Don't stress over the small stuff! Your day will still be amazing!

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100% ITA

your wedding is one day---you don't have control of the entire year of 2009....3 months later, is a good amount of time. and not for nothing but think about how great it feels to be engaged and wanting to plan your wedding.......why should she postpone her wedding until 2010 just because you have a wedding in 2009?

i think if you step back from this you might see how unreasonable you sound.

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i completely agree. i don't think having her wedding three months after your's is a big deal at all. if she said she was having it like w/in the same month or something maybe that would bother me, but you really can't tell her when she can and can't get married. there are so much more important things to worry about. try not to let the little things get to you.

3 m onths after??? What's wrong with that? Here's the real deal. You're getting married in 09 so people will have weddings both before and after you. I'm sorry but it's the truth. 3 Months later is not a big deal at all.....it'll be ok just take a deep breath