I hate my FSIL right now..........

Original post by ckleinismine

Dec 27, 2007 03:33 PM

She got engaged and decided to set a date 3 months after my wedding. WHY? WHY? WHY? could not they have waited until the following year.

How do you guys feel about this?

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AMGBride2008 Posted: Dec 28, 2007 10:08 AM

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FH's twin sister is getting married 3 months BEFORE us.... I'm not bothered by it... but if it were MY sister instead of FH's sister, I'd be pisssssed! Because it's FH's sister, I wouldn't let it bother you.

KarinAmanda Posted: Dec 28, 2007 12:55 PM

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ditto ...

my oldest brother got engaged 6 months after us and they decided to plan their wedding for less than 4 months before ours. i was a little bit upset because ours was going to be the first wedding in either of our immediate families (the children) but what can you do, right? im happy for them and we are both getting married ... so thats all that matters. I think FH was more bent about it than I was. He's my brother, as long as he's happy!

Jflod710 Posted: Dec 28, 2007 01:24 PM

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its not a big deal... we had my brother and cousins wedding only a month apart, and people went to both.

longislandlibrarian Posted: Dec 28, 2007 01:59 PM

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yours is FIRST!!!!!! so I wouldn't worry about it! Plus your day will be special for all of its own reasons!!!
but I know what you mean I probably would have been like O NO REALLY? that CLOSE? when I first heard it.... but just calm down take a deep breathe.. and say.. 'I will be the FIRST Beautiful Bride that year' hehehehe GOOD MONTRA

LegoBride Posted: Dec 28, 2007 04:21 PM

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I am hoping you on the YOURS IS FIRST train. Your wedding is long before hers and its going to be fabulous so do not worry. Three months is a long time.

Ann 52409 Posted: Dec 28, 2007 04:35 PM

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I really dont think it's a big deal. It's after your wedding and its 3 months away which is a good amount of time.

bemyyoko Posted: Dec 28, 2007 06:24 PM

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I don't think she'll be stealing any of your thunder... if anything, you'll be keeping most of hers... if that makes sense...
most people will be focussed on your wedding until it's over, so those three months are the only ones she really gets to be the center of attention... sort of...

My MOH is getting married a few months after me, and I couldn't be happier for her. In fact, so many of my cousins have gotten engaged over the past few months that there will be tons of weddings in 2008 for our family.
Who cares?

You are getting married in 2009 which is over a year away as it is, it's a little unfair to expect people to push their weddings to 2010. You only 'own' the one day, not the week, or the month, and definitely not the whole year.

also, since she's FH's sister... i'm sure she's not set on stealing your thunder. i understand why you're upset... but i don't think it's fair to hold it against her... be upset, let it out here, and then move on.

your wedding will be FABULOUS!!

KristiAnn923 Posted: Jan 17, 2008 01:58 PM

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I know that seems bad and yes, it is annoying but its not that big of a deal. Yours is first

One of my FH's groomsman decided after we got engaged, booked our hall and asked him to be a groomsman that he was going to propose to his girlfriend in February of this year. Heres the kicker, he wants to get married the same month as us and at the SAME place. Needless to say, he had to back out of our bridal party because of his own wedding but how annoying is that. I'm over it now, but I was pissed!

coley1027 Posted: Jan 17, 2008 02:04 PM

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i dont think its that big of a deal. i can understand where youre coming from though, and id probably be a bit annoyed myself at first. but sooner or later everyone is going to get married and you cant control when they want to. its not like theyre rushing to beat you too it so i wouldnt worry to much. besides us brides make it a bigger deal then it really is.. to everyone else its just two wedding days in a period of 3 months. no one is going to care, so i wouldnt spend my time worrying.

2009wedding Posted: Jan 17, 2008 02:25 PM

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I know what you are going threw. My cousin got engaged a year later after I got engaged and now her wedding is three months before ours. I was very upset about it and still am. She keeps trying to steal my fh and I's ideas. She has everyone asking me questions about my wedding ( her brother, her brother's girlfriend who I never met, and my grandparents) I keep all my wedding plans to myself now cause eveytime she finds out about it she tries to do something better. So I know what you are going threw. Don't be to upset about it unless she starts going after your ideas. Your wedding will be great. Hey everyone seems to be getting engaged now in my family all I can do is be happy for them and see what happens. If you need to talk or vent FM me.

tye85 Posted: Jan 17, 2008 02:33 PM

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I dont think its a big deal, our wedding n his sisters wedding are 6 months apart and its fine!!

bluegreen08 Posted: Jan 17, 2008 02:42 PM

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Posted by bemyyoko

You are getting married in 2009 which is over a year away as it is, it's a little unfair to expect people to push their weddings to 2010. You only 'own' the one day, not the week, or the month, and definitely not the whole year.

I agree. One of FH's groomsmen proposed to his fiance a month after we got engaged, and they set their date TWO WEEKS before us (knowing we had set a date).

At first I was a little disappointed since we were engaged first, but they didn't do it for spite -- his fiance is a teacher so they were limited to the summer. They wanted June/July but their church was booked until August. As long as they will be back from their honeymoon in time to go to our wedding (which they will) we're fine. If anything, it's fun to have someone else planning along the same timeline, and it will be a trial run of sorts for us, since we're getting married 2 weeks later.

We don't own 2008, and I wouldn't dream of telling them they had to wait a year just because we got engaged a month before they did. We don't even own our month. If they wanted to get married our weekend we would have said something but they knew better than to do that!

I totally understand your feelings, and I think we've all felt that way at some point. Hopefully it wont bug you as much once you get used to the idea -- 3 months after you isnt nearly as bad as 2 weeks before