Ok so For the longest I have been Venting about how neither one of us (fh and Myself) know alot of the people (I dont know any of them but like 5) FFIL gives me the list some of them dont have address so FH goes throught the phone book and they arent in there either! Ok if u dont send these people Christmas cards then they don't need to come here.
Ok heres the newest vent. He only gave us like Mr. xxxx Smith. So I dont know if these people are married or what. So Im trying to make the shower list and Honestly I dont want to invite any of them Cause I dont know them!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am making the list of everyone his dad gave us to FSIL so she can go through it and decide whos who. But honestly I dont know any of THEM. I feel dumb for them to come to my shower. How bad is that!
ChristineC68
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I wouldn't invite people I don't know to my shower. I think it should be for your family, close friends and close friends of the parents.
wenndypoo
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Yeah, that's bad!! I would feel weird having people at my shower I didn't know. They'd probably feel weird being there too.
You have a point about the addresses too. If you don't know where they live, or send them a christmas card, they don't need to be at your wedding.
I feel for you. That is so hard!
Good luck!
june262004
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It is really hard. But like its most of the people on the list.
june262004
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So do u think I should only invite like the 5 people I know? I really dont know his aunts that well His family isnt Half as close as my family is I don't know what to do.
wenndypoo
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Are the people you don't have addresses for his family? Would you be upset if you only had the 5 people you knew at your shower?
june262004
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His dads people are the ones we dont have address for or like distant cousins. Even My FH didnt know who they were at first until asked his dad who they were.
I wouldnt be upset if honestly those 5 people I did now didnt come LOL, We dont get along with his dad sisters and Brothers. and those are the only 5 i know. We are inviting them to the wedding and I would only invite them to the shower out of respect (I am almost 99% positve they wont even come.
wenndypoo
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Showers (and weddings) are hard, there are so many obligatory invites. Although I think it's customary to invite all female family members, I think in the case of the distant cousins and what not, you could be excused from not inviting them. It would be nice if you could only invite those you know and like! Would his parents be insulted?
Why, BTW, are you doing all this for your own shower?!
june262004
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Why, BTW, are you doing all this for your own shower?!
LOL. My moh and Matron of honor asked for a list and adresses. Thats all I will now of my shower.
Thanks for ure input.
wenndypoo
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My moh and Matron of honor asked for a list and adresses. Thats all I will now of my shower.
Oh good! Dump it in their laps!!
Good luck!
janwinterbridejoy
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i wouldnt invite people that werent close friends co workers or family to the shower
Sunny
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Posted by ChristineC68
I wouldn't invite people I don't know to my shower. I think it should be for your family, close friends and close friends of the parents.
I agree. Not only did I not want strangers at mine, but I HATE being invited to showers of people I don't or barely know.
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This was the biggest pain for me. First of all, we had a list of names with no addresses or addresses from like 10 years ago. So, we had to call & research & finally got all the addresses. Now my FMIL is bringing her 6 friends (5 who I've never met) to the shower. I honestly don't have a problem with it, I guess because my Fh will be there (yes, I've been told he's coming) so he knows them. But I understand your frustration, trust me.
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I feel for you. I just had to give my Mom addresses as well. FH's father has not given me ANY names or addresses yet for his side of the family (parents are divorced). I don't even have a # to go on. On the plus side I don't have to worry about inviting them...
