yesterday at christmas eve dinner at FILs I had to sit there while FMIL and FBIL went on and on about how FH is the most miserable person they ever met, he is never happy and he is a grump 24/7.
first of all, I find this offensive to ME bc I take it to mean that I am not making him happy
AND second of all, as I tried to explain to them, my FAMILY and all of our friends consider FH to be VERY happy and just QUIET. He is not the type to jump around and be giddy. He is just like his father and many men in his family. He is the 'strong silent type' but if you KNOW him you know when he is happy. . .
How can you say he is miserable and then look over and see him LITERALLY rolling around on the floor with his three nieces and making them all laugh hysterically.
And then, to top it all off - FH gets up from the table and EVERYONE else is sitting there and FMIL decides to discuss with me the color of FH's URINE and how he is going to DIE soon because he doesnt go to the doctor, no joke she mentioned she hopes that he gets to have children
um merry fricken christmas
Dana523
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OMG tilde how weird!!! errr dont worry, i kno that ant isnt miserable....he sure seemed to be a happy person fri nite!!!! merry xmas babe
Soon2beAlberti
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ew ***...i prob would have said something. I don't blame you for being upset...I would be the same way. we are alike in that way. if someone says FH is not happy or miserable I'd be offended as well thinking 'what? do you think I don't satisfy him? do you think I'm not the one?'
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Posted by Dana523
OMG tilde how weird!!! errr dont worry, i kno that ant isnt miserable....he sure seemed to be a happy person fri nite!!!! merry xmas babe
thanks day! MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!
Mrs. V 2008
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omg how awful! My fmil was on a roll last night also! she got on my case about money and the wedding..ignore her
jgl
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that stinks... i dont understand why people cant understand that not everyone is the same as them. my family makes comments about how FH is because he is more quiet and a listener. He will usually just listen and IF he has something to add to the conversation he will, if not he wont.. they just dont get it.
its hard for us because we have to hear it and know that there is nothing wrong with who they are or how they act but then we feel we have to defend them.. its no fun!
try to ignore them.. as long as you know there is nothing wrong with him that is all that matters!!!
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OMG Matilde I am so sorry
First of all, What is going on with the FMIL's latel???
Secondly, I have had this with my FBIL's also they go on and on about how they never thought he'd get married, he's mean, he's grumpy, blah blah blah
Then I have to defend him and say that he's not like that WITH ME LOL
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OMG Matilde I am so sorry
First of all, What is going on with the FMIL's latel???
Secondly, I have had this with my FBIL's also they go on and on about how they never thought he'd get married, he's mean, he's grumpy, blah blah blah
Then I have to defend him and say that he's not like that WITH ME LOL
i know!! i said that so many times. He is happy with ME he talks to ME and he laughs when he is with ME
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I'm sorry you had to go through that last night. As long as you are happy and FH is happy then that is all that matters! I feel bad for FH though, how does he feel that his family is saying all of this stuff about him?
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I was bitching and moaning because my future IL's ignore me and my family but I guess it could always be worse!
Sorry you're going thru this. Some people can't stand to see other people happy and she sounds soooooooo jealous to me.
She sounds like she is a toxic person and my best advice to you is to begin to distance yourself from her -- do you really want your future children around that?
If you HAVE to be around her, then someone has to put their foot down and let her know in no uncertain terms that she is not to put anyone down in front of you or you will leave-- and mean it!
HTH
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Ewww- w t f- thats ruse and strange to talk about her own son like that.
You obviously know him better than his own mother does!!
ant n tilde
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thanks for listening to me vent girls
and FH HATES when his family talks about him like that - it is even harder bc his brother is the golden child and can do no wrong, you know how every family has one of those
babieblueeyez96
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oh man im sorry to hear that :)
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ewww... FILs would never even think of doing that with me. im very quiet and shy but i defend him to the death. when ever FH and his sister get into it with each other, first i play ref to shut it down, but when it doesnt happen, i have to stop it b/c she gets mean FAST and i dont stand for it
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i'm just catching up on this now.....
as long as you know in your heart - he is a happy guy - everyone else can suck it!
kBr
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ughhh!
chrispar
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I'm sorry to hear that she said that. I would be upset yoo. Don't worry it is not at all a reflection of you not making him happy but I can totally understand why you would feel this way. Don't even let her get to you. Especially not now.
Future Mulligan
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does your FH live at home? maybe he IS grumpy living there with them
do you blame him?
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thats very annoying...! Maybe they didnt mean it the way you took it. I always complain about FH being miserable...never thought hey maybe I dont make him happy.
AR31
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how annoying... i would have been so upset and probably said something.. FMIL's thnk that FH's are still babies.. and can't grasp the idea that their grown up and about to be a husband..
