I hate weddings!!! or rather wedding planning or whatever...
Why did I decide to to this???? I do not like anything that is traditional... Music... yeah no Cannon D, Here Comes the Bride and such for me I want 'out of the box'.. nothing aboout my wedding is on the traditional side....I don't like it, it is boooring to me.... I see all of these people doing traditional weddings but do you really like that stuff or are you doing it because it is expected? I have people telling me oh this is the proper way to do it... but I HATE IT!!! Now my grandmother is freaking out because i have done my pocketfolds in black and my cake in white and black... she is all like black is for funerals etc.... OMG I am sooo sick of this wedding and going in debt for something I hate!! I've even tried to talk FH in eloping and calling this monster off he was like H E L L no. Sorry I know this is a stupid rant but damn i can't even find ceremony music I like and it just ticked me off.
siffleuse319
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check out indiebride.com, it's been really helpful for me. Also, remember that a wedding is a family affair. Yes, it is about you and FH and no doubt, you get the final say in everything. But, unfortunately, once you mention the word wedding...it seems as if you've given everyone a ticket to give you their opinion. In the words of my FSIL...you should start practicing the line, 'oh, that sounds really nice. I'll definitely consider it' and then change the topic. Don't even bother to get upset about it, just delicately thank them for their input and move the hell on.....It's a day that must embody you and FH.
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I am sorry that you are not enjoying wedding planning
but I do think it is wrong of you to post that you think Canon D and all that is boring- there are a lot of tradition girls on here and thats insulting.
anamaree77
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I agree, what's boring to you may be interesting and classy to someone else and they may consider things 'outside' the box as trashy.....to each his own. I've come to the conclusion that NOTHING I do will make EVERYONE happy so from now on it's all about me and FH. Good Luck!
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Posted by siffleuse319
check out indiebride.com, it's been really helpful for me. Also, remember that a wedding is a family affair. Yes, it is about you and FH and no doubt, you get the final say in everything. But, unfortunately, once you mention the word wedding...it seems as if you've given everyone a ticket to give you their opinion. In the words of my FSIL...you should start practicing the line, 'oh, that sounds really nice. I'll definitely consider it' and then change the topic. Don't even bother to get upset about it, just delicately thank them for their input and move the hell on.....It's a day that must embody you and FH.
Ok loving indiebride.com TY!!!!
JodyLC
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Posted by futuremrsfab
I am sorry that you are not enjoying wedding planning
but I do think it is wrong of you to post that you think Canon D and all that is boring- there are a lot of tradition girls on here and thats insulting.
Sorry if i did insult anyone i was speaking directly from my prospective and what i like and am looking for... I have been to beautiful weddings that used traditional... it is just not what i want. I guess what it comes down to is i am not sure I really WANT a wedding, I am just not liking any wedding stuff i see and it is stressing me beyond belief. I mean even down to a dress I tried on 29 dresses .. and finally found one that I liked the brocade fabric of and had a seamstress rip it apart and make it into what i wanted... I am having issues making decisions on everything.....
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Posted by JodyLC
Posted by futuremrsfab
I am sorry that you are not enjoying wedding planning
but I do think it is wrong of you to post that you think Canon D and all that is boring- there are a lot of tradition girls on here and thats insulting.
Sorry if i did insult anyone i was speaking directly from my prospective and what i like and am looking for... I have been to beautiful weddings that used traditional... it is just not what i want. I guess what it comes down to is i am not sure I really WANT a wedding, I am just not liking any wedding stuff i see and it is stressing me beyond belief. I mean even down to a dress I tried on 29 dresses .. and finally found one that I liked the brocade fabric of and had a seamstress rip it apart and make it into what i wanted... I am having issues making decisions on everything.....
i feel the same exact way. I am not enjoying wedding planning and desperately wanted a barefoot wedding on the beach with few witnesses....I am extremely stressed and heartbroken but i am doing this for FH and family, i just want it to be over so i can go on with life! I am making FH pick and do everything as punishment so i dont have to deal with it
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Posted by futuremrsfab
I am sorry that you are not enjoying wedding planning
but I do think it is wrong of you to post that you think Canon D and all that is boring- there are a lot of tradition girls on here and thats insulting.
WRONG? no, it's not wrong to post your opinion. that's what these boards are for. (unless you are positing your opinion on a board-sponsored vendor--then your post will be removed)
indiebride is awesome, and i am with you on hating the wedding planning. i can't wait for it to be over so we can be on the HM. i also think the traditional songs are boring. we have about a week to decide on ceremony music and we're having a hard time, too.
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Posted by melonhead
Posted by futuremrsfab
I am sorry that you are not enjoying wedding planning
but I do think it is wrong of you to post that you think Canon D and all that is boring- there are a lot of tradition girls on here and thats insulting.
WRONG? no, it's not wrong to post your opinion. that's what these boards are for. (unless you are positing your opinion on a board-sponsored vendor--then your post will be removed)
indiebride is awesome, and i am with you on hating the wedding planning. i can't wait for it to be over so we can be on the HM. i also think the traditional songs are boring. we have about a week to decide on ceremony music and we're having a hard time, too.
It is the music that caused my breakdown this morning.. I want not traditional and I want just instrumental and i had been looking for hours and it just pushed me over the edge because some of my friends had kept suggesting traditional...Which made me feel it was what I had to do. i mean he is traditional in some of the Itailian aspects he has wanted but as for decor and music he is more into alternative rock leaning toward metal and gothic (decor) I am leaning toward fairy wonderland (deor) so I have been playing up the use of purples and black for decor but music drove me over the edge.
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What style of music are you looking for. Ive seen A Perfect Circle - Reholder used for a goth wedding. Also there are alot of instrumental songs made for rock songs.. check out itunes.
Ive also heard Enya; and Sting - Desert rose for ceremonies. That kind of soft music.
JodyLC
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this is what i have so far
when guests are arriving & seated - Halo 3 soundtrack it's really beautiful and dramatic.
recession - bittersweet symphony w/ lyrics
I need parents seating music
BP walk music - wanted colorblind by counting crows only an instrumrntal version.
My walk music
I don't need anything for unity candleor anything like that as we decided on a simple ceremony FH is not into that sort of thing.
LuvMyAlfonse
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So don't do traditional!!!
And stop telling people what you're doing - especially if it's 'different'.
For a wedding like yours - different and untraditional - it SHOULD be fun. It's not the same old - embrace it.
Stop telling your grandmother what you're doing.
If you want to share what you're doing because you're excited - share it with us - that's what we're here for.
Take a deep breath and relax - stress is self-created.
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BREATHE!!!! IT'll all be over soon!!! Do EXACTLY what you want! Its your day! Alot of times people don't understand the parts until they see the whole thing put together.
Grandpa has a set standard in his mind about weddings but I'm sure he's just old fashioned! Things change! Do what you want, deal with it later. AND TRY TO ENJOY IT!!! It goes by so fast and then its gone! Just remember its all about you and ur FH! that's the ONLY thing that matters! The rest of it is just a fuckking party!
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There's nothing wrong with adding your own personal touches to your wedding. A lot of things about weddings today have become very non-traditional. Your grandmother is from a whole different generation, so you can't really expect her to embrace it. I can understand that you would hope for the older family members to respect your choices. But, I agree with whoever said it, if you are looking to go 'outside the box' then the less people you share your ideas with the better. You know that saying about opinions and everyone having one...
But I also agree that just because something is not your taste does not mean it is not nice. That's just it...it may be boring to you because it's not your personality. But many people love all the touches of a traditional wedding. To each his own. It's a shame you're not enjoying the planning though. Maybe you can include some little traditions? Who was that again, gothbride? She had a lot of non-traditional touches and her wedding was absolutely gorgeous!! Try and keep some of the non-traditional things to yourself and make them more of a surprise...embrace it.
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I am a traditional girl but Here comes the bride for some reason reminds me of this stupid little ditty from a childhood movie and ruined it for me. Instead I an walking to 'Bless the broken Road' by Rascal Flatts- the karaoke version without words. Is there a special song that you and your FH like you could use for your entrance?
Stop discussing any 'controversial' areas of your wedding planning. If anything is 'traditional' talk that up if people insist on asking questions. The line 'That's an idea. I'll think about it.' has worked wonders for me.
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I love Bittersweet Symphony. I'm sure there are many other beautiful songs outside of the traditional bridal music that you can use for your ceremony. Bless the Broken Road seems to very popular too. And, I agree, is there a song that is special to the two of you that may be nice for the ceremony? I also agree with Jess, in the end it is about the two of you so you want it to be special for the both of you!
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Sorry to hear this. My advise is that you do what YOU want and then you might be happy about wedding planning. I am not doing what others are doing b/'c I feel they are tacky or 80's. I am doing what I like and want. I hope that you figure it all out!
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I can't even choose another song except canon d. (you try convincing an older church to do different songs. lol)
Oh well I gave up on that because while I want unique, I am running out of unique money.
The one thing that will always be unique to you is the one you are marrying. That is the truly special part. Everything else is just the icing.
I'm throwing my hands up about a lot of things now. With so little to go I realized I can't stress it all
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i am not the only traditional thing i am doing is cannoin in d for the BP cause i like the sound of it. I am walking into the church to cant help falling in love.....we are not doing the bride cuts the cake for the cake cutting song we are using ill be loving you by NKOTB, and we are not doing the regualr garter toss thinkg cause we dont have many single friends, instead we are tossing them but giving a prize to who ever catches it we are not making them put the garter on the person who catches the bo-k.......we are doing semi traditional i guess. lol
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I hear ya! I am realizing more and more that this wedding thing is about compromise. I have had to fight for so many things that I want and I am so tired of it. It is hard planning from Georgia. People, like family, have their ideas of how things are 'supposed' to be because that is what 'people' do. But I am not people. I'm me and I am trying my hardest to make this wedding reflect our personalities. There are some things that are beyond my control b/c of of money restrictions. So I am trying to bring our personalities in in the details. Like colors, music, decor, etc. As for music I think I am leaning toward the song Yellow by coldplay for my girls to walk down the aisle to. They are wearing yellow dresses. it is my fav. color and is a beautiful love song. I am walking down the aisle to The Question by Rhett Miller. After the ceremony FH and I will exit to Thin Air by Pearl Jam, FH favorite band. That is all I know so far. I hope this inspires you a bit. And don't worry... you are not alone. It will all be worth it in the end. At least that is what I keep telling myself.
