I have a question that may be too personal, but I'll ask it anyway

Becky Posted: Jan 09, 2004 09:31 AM

I have a question that may be too personal, but I'll ask it anyway

My friends have a six month old. For the first few months the baby slept in a basinette (sp?) next to their bed. My friend mentioned something about having sex while the baby was in the room and I just about fell off my couch. She laughed at me and told me that they have sex in front of her all of the time. Is this something that typically occurs in the first few months of a baby's life??? Would you have sex with your baby in the room? Can you not leave a baby in a swing chair in another room? I am no prude, but this one has me shocked.

JennRenee Posted: Jan 09, 2004 09:45 AM

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I guess to each his own, but that won't be happening in my house...

jennbaby Posted: Jan 09, 2004 09:52 AM

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Not a mom yet but I would NOT do this.

Nancy Posted: Jan 09, 2004 09:53 AM

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To each their own, but I can't even stand it when one of three dogs or my cat is around!

jennbaby Posted: Jan 09, 2004 09:58 AM

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Posted by Nancy

To each their own, but I can't even stand it when one of three dogs or my cat is around!

THIS I find gross too!

Becky Posted: Jan 09, 2004 10:00 AM

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Eww, definitely no pets, either!

I was so put off, but she was totally nonchalant about it. I thought maybe it was one of those things that people without babies don't know about.

Kate Posted: Jan 09, 2004 10:07 AM

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I don't think this will be happening in my house, please... I feel like the baby is watching now and I don't particularly care for it!

Sassy Posted: Jan 09, 2004 10:16 AM

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Hmmm, I don't think there's anything wrong with it.

If my baby is one month old, I cannot see myself putting the baby somewhere else so I can get it on.

If the baby is sleeping soundly, then what's wrong with that?

nrvbrd Posted: Jan 09, 2004 10:19 AM

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I would do it only when the baby is asleep.

Stacey1403 Posted: Jan 09, 2004 10:32 AM

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We did when Damien was sleeping.

You will see when you have a baby sometimes any minute you can get together you will be thankful for

You don't want to leave them in a swing or somewhere else unattended.

Lee Posted: Jan 09, 2004 10:39 AM

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We did when Ryan was sleeping - like Stacey said, sometimes you just have to take your chance when you can get it. I think this is another one of those things I said I would NEVER do and then find myself doing it -- there seem to be lots of those!!

JennRenee Posted: Jan 09, 2004 10:41 AM

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Posted by Stacey1403

You don't want to leave them in a swing or somewhere else unattended.

Seriously... sometimes I leave Nicolas alone when he is sleeping in his swing or bouncy seat. I don't go more than a room away. Is this something I shouldn't do?? If it is I'm going to feel terrible...

Stacey1403 Posted: Jan 09, 2004 10:48 AM

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I meant while you are getting busy

I leave the room for moments at a time too

Sassy Posted: Jan 09, 2004 10:51 AM

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Posted by JennRenee

Posted by Stacey1403

You don't want to leave them in a swing or somewhere else unattended.

Seriously... sometimes I leave Nicolas alone when he is sleeping in his swing or bouncy seat. I don't go more than a room away. Is this something I shouldn't do?? If it is I'm going to feel terrible...

Jenn, don't feel bad, I don't think a room away is bad in normal circumstances.
But as far as getting intimate with hubby - I would fear of getting distracted and not hearing if the baby starts to cry or whatever. . .
If he's sleeping in the room, I can enjoy hubby and still feel close enough to the baby.

JennRenee Posted: Jan 09, 2004 10:51 AM

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Posted by Stacey1403

I meant while you are getting busy

I leave the room for moments at a time too

WHEW! Thanks. I was worried!

JennRenee Posted: Jan 09, 2004 10:52 AM

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Posted by Sassy

Posted by JennRenee

Posted by Stacey1403

You don't want to leave them in a swing or somewhere else unattended.

Seriously... sometimes I leave Nicolas alone when he is sleeping in his swing or bouncy seat. I don't go more than a room away. Is this something I shouldn't do?? If it is I'm going to feel terrible...

Jenn, don't feel bad, I don't think a room away is bad in normal circumstances.
But as far as getting intimate with hubby - I would fear of getting distracted and not hearing if the baby starts to cry or whatever. . .
If he's sleeping in the room, I can enjoy hubby and still feel close enough to the baby.

That makes perfect sense. Thank you!

Becky Posted: Jan 09, 2004 11:14 AM

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Would you do 'it' if the baby was in the room and awake?

IrishTracy Posted: Jan 09, 2004 11:17 AM

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Posted by Stacey1403

We did when Damien was sleeping.

You will see when you have a baby sometimes any minute you can get together you will be thankful for

You don't want to leave them in a swing or somewhere else unattended.

My thoughts EXACTLY!

Kathi Posted: Jan 09, 2004 11:23 AM

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Posted by Becky

Would you do 'it' if the baby was in the room and awake?

No! We waited until Sean was in his own room @ 7 weeks!

And Jenn Renee... good gravy, if ya didn't leave him 'alone' (and safe!) for a few minutes, when would you get anything done!

We loved our swing which has recently been retired since Sir Sean is a wee bit active (read: almost took a header out of it and scared mommy to DEATH!! ). With it, I was able to make a sandwich, throw in some laundry, make a call, brush my teeth!!
Now I have to do most of that when he's napping.