I have an engagement party question from my mom - TIA

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Posted by neesiepie

I would give $

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I agree!

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Posted by nferrandi

We always give money for e-parties. I personally think gifts are for showers and would be a little turned off to have a registry mentioned in an e-party invite. The money we got for our e-party has reallly helped us out with some wedding stuff, I'll get everything we need at the shower.

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I don't understand why it is okay to accept money at an e-party but not mention the registry in the invite. Whats the difference? So far, everyone is saying that they wouldn't go to an e-party empty handed (which I agree with), so why wouldn't you want to know where the couple is registered so you can give them a gift they will love and enjoy?

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Posted by katebloom99

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Posted by nferrandi

We always give money for e-parties. I personally think gifts are for showers and would be a little turned off to have a registry mentioned in an e-party invite. The money we got for our e-party has really helped us out with some wedding stuff, I'll get everything we need at the shower.

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I don't understand why it is okay to accept money at an e-party but not mention the registry in the invite. Whats the difference? So far, everyone is saying that they wouldn't go to an e-party empty handed (which I agree with), so why wouldn't you want to know where the couple is registered so you can give them a gift they will love and enjoy?

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I can only speak for myself but I did not want to register for 3 reasons.
One was that My wedding date was over 2 years away at the time and if I registered, half my stuff would be discontinued by the time the shower rolls around.
Two, we have lived together for over 2 years and we have pretty much everything.
And three, if people were going to give a gift we wanted it to be $. (I know how bad that sounds)
If I wanted gifts I would have registered for a few things.
I think it's safe to say that if there is no registry info they either did not register yet and/or they want $.

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Posted by Ladybug63

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Posted by katebloom99

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Posted by nferrandi

We always give money for e-parties. I personally think gifts are for showers and would be a little turned off to have a registry mentioned in an e-party invite. The money we got for our e-party has really helped us out with some wedding stuff, I'll get everything we need at the shower.

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I don't understand why it is okay to accept money at an e-party but not mention the registry in the invite. Whats the difference? So far, everyone is saying that they wouldn't go to an e-party empty handed (which I agree with), so why wouldn't you want to know where the couple is registered so you can give them a gift they will love and enjoy?

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I can only speak for myself but I did not want to register for 3 reasons.
One was that My wedding date was over 2 years away at the time and if I registered, half my stuff would be discontinued by the time the shower rolls around.
Two, we have lived together for over 2 years and we have pretty much everything.
And three, if people were going to give a gift we wanted it to be $. (I know how bad that sounds)
If I wanted gifts I would have registered for a few things.
I think it's safe to say that if there is no registry info they either did not register yet and/or they want $.

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Technically, it's bad ettiquette to mention a registry on any invite, but it's more acceptable on a shower invite because it's understood that people will 'shower you with gifts' for your new home. We didn't feel right registering or even expecting gifts for our e-party, it was more of a way to get our family and bridal party together. We were very happy to recieve the money and it has really come in handy.

I would get a gift card to a home related store, like fortunoff's.

I got my friend crystal candle sticks, but she got tons of candle sticks for her engament party. I felt bad, I tried to get her soemthing she'd use.( I thought she'd get more vases, but she got 1 that she returned)

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Posted by Ladybug63

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Posted by katebloom99

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Posted by nferrandi

We always give money for e-parties. I personally think gifts are for showers and would be a little turned off to have a registry mentioned in an e-party invite. The money we got for our e-party has really helped us out with some wedding stuff, I'll get everything we need at the shower.

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I don't understand why it is okay to accept money at an e-party but not mention the registry in the invite. Whats the difference? So far, everyone is saying that they wouldn't go to an e-party empty handed (which I agree with), so why wouldn't you want to know where the couple is registered so you can give them a gift they will love and enjoy?

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I can only speak for myself but I did not want to register for 3 reasons.
One was that My wedding date was over 2 years away at the time and if I registered, half my stuff would be discontinued by the time the shower rolls around.
Two, we have lived together for over 2 years and we have pretty much everything.
And three, if people were going to give a gift we wanted it to be $. (I know how bad that sounds)
If I wanted gifts I would have registered for a few things.
I think it's safe to say that if there is no registry info they either did not register yet and/or they want $.

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I agree totally !! - I am not registered as we both have established households with blenders, toasters, etc
The few things i want - i can purchase with wedding $$$