I am getting married in 2004, and work in a medical office so I deal with the public a lot, well, today I have just had it with comments. Everyone seems to have a comment about 2004, like... 2years away... why so long? You must be kidding that things are expensive!... why are you engaged then... etc. I have come to the conclusion that people are so nasty... My FH and I are paying for the wedding alone, his parents are divorced and do not talk, and both my parents are deceased. I am having a very hard time dealing with this girls, I am only 30 years old and it is difficult enough with having to deal with not having my mom and dad to be here for this time, but these morans, they are driving me nuts! Here it is finally a happy time in my life and I am miserable when someone does this to me! Does anyone else have any ideas, opinions on this situation?? Help! I am so fustrated!
WishCandy
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I know what you're talking about! I get those stupid comments too! Mainly from older people. Guys & Girls around my age (24) totally understand. But the others are just jerks about it. I try to explain how my FI & I are paying for this ourselves and that it takes time to save $$$, not only for the wedding, but also for somewhere to live after. It can get totally frustrating - to where you want to just punch people in the face. lol The best thing to do is to buy a punching bag from Toys 'r us & let out all your frustrations on it. I hope it makes you feel a little more at ease knowing you're not alone! tee-hee Good Luck with everything =)
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I understand also!!
I am getting married May of 2004! People always ask me 'why so long?' I just tell them because we want a house before we get married and we want it ready for after the wedding. I don't care what people say or think! Don't let it bother you!
aug9bride
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Sonicstef
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We are in the same boat - we had a long engagement, are paying for ourselves, and I don't have any family to speak of to share in the planning.
My first piece of advice to you is not tell people what you are spending. Only you and your FH need to understand what your budget it.
Other than that, people are going to say what they want. The fact is: PEOPLE ARE RUDE! And it will only get worse as time goes on - luckily you will have grown used to it.
The next time someone asks you 'why so long?' politely tell them that you think their comments are rude by saying something like 'I don't think comments are appropriate and I would appreciate you keep all negative comments to yourself'
JennRenee
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Pat and I had a 20 month engagement because we also paid for our wedding on our own. Of course everyone had something to say, but in the end we paid for our wedding IN CASH, and closed on our new home six weeks later, so NYAH NYAH to all those who made comments!
Chin up girls! There's nothing wrong with a long engagement, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise!
PS ~ as soon as you're married you'll start hearing 'So when are you having a baby??' Some people think everything is their business. Learn to either laugh it off or ignore themcompletely!
brooke
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How about saying something like 'because the best things in life are worth waiting for'?!
jennbaby
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Stupid people make stupid comments, it's that simple! I am getting married May 17, 2003, (less than one year now!!) and I still have people say, 'You have plenty of time' and 'Wow why so far away?' Duh, I tell them, 'Do you have $35,000 to give me to pay for it?' And they shut up fast! My fiance & I are also paying ourselves so give them back a stern yet kinda stupid, sarcastic answer back without being rude, if ya know what I mean. Good Luck and ya know what? Time flies.
Karen62794
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I completely understand and I am going through the same thing. I got engaged in '01 and we're getting married in '03. Older people, especially the ones I work with, would ask, 'Why are you waiting so long' and so on. I had to tell them that weddings cost much more now then they did 30 years ago and it's an entirely different era now.
People my age were totally fine with it. It's just the older people.
Just tell people that this is the happiest time of your life and you want to prolong it and enjoy it. That's what I said, and it shut up a couple of people!
Be Happy! and don't take everything people say to heart.
Karen
jpsgirl
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I had the opposite problem, got engaged after being together 8 months and planned the wedding 8 months after that. Everyone has a comment about wow, that was fast, and one even asked me if I was pregnant!
jpsgirl
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plus, being engaged is great, and fun - my only regret is that my engagement is not going to last longer, you're only engaged once! so, nevermind what everybody says and enjoy it!
tsm76
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how about this for stupid comments. I have had people at work question my choices on the other people from work that I have invited! 'you are friends with her?' Am I in high school or what? I'm so self conscience about it now it is ridiculous.
LizD
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Our wedding is in December of this year 02, and we got engaged in December of 00. Two years, we also are paying for the wedding ourdelves, and in the meantime bought a house and had a lot of work done on the house. Most people now do not realize how much it costs for a wedding.... not cheap by any means. Ignore and just enjoy the planning
