I have held back...VENT with 8 days, 16 hours to go- LONG, SORRY...
PrincessBride09
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I have held back...VENT with 8 days, 16 hours to go- LONG, SORRY...
I asked 3 of FH's sisters to be my BM's. (He has 4 and the youngest one is the FG). One turned me down in a rude way. I got over it since I am better off. The other 2 agreed to be in it and were very hard to get in touch with for my MOH (my sis) and my other BM's (my friends). One sister helped out and contributed to my shower at the last minute. The other...did not. Both of these FSIL's told me they were definitely coming to my bachelorette party this weekend. I have been trying to get in touch with both of them this week. I made it CLEAR that I wanted both of them to come and just needed a definite answer so that we could figure out the price for everyone since we are getting a limo. I said I didn't want anyone to get screwed over with $ in the end (which happened with my shower). They both said yes, definitely. One told someone else she was not coming and did not return my calls. The other did not return my calls. FH called the second one today about something else. He asks her about this weekend and she nonchalantly says she is not coming. I AM FUMING. I left messages and she did not call me. It is 2 nights before my bacherlorette party and she did not have the decency to call me and let me know she was not coming? My BM's are not going to be able to cover her share nor should they have to. I did not get on the phone with her. I would have FREAKED. I know if I wait to calm down and call, she will likely not answer and it will just get me nowhere. I don't know what to do. THEN SHE HAS THE NERVE TO CALL FH BACK AND ASK TO BRING A GUEST NOW. I told him to tell her no way. We just did the seating chart! If you read this, THANK YOU.
ETA: Did I mention that this same FSIL did not even come to my shower, nor did the one who turned down being in the BP? I have known these people and have felt like a part of their family since I was 14....seriously?! Ok, I think I am finished.
KPetekie
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Yeah I would be livid. They sound like selfish b!tches. FH should tell them so!
KerriJohnS
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WOW thats pretty crappy! I'm sorry you are going to be stuck calling these flaky selfish b*tches family soon.
PrincessBride09
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Yeah I would be livid. They sound like selfish b!tches. FH should tell them so!
Thank you. I know it's silly, but just to have people agree makes me feel justified somehow. Poor FH knows they are like this and has had to deal with it and confront them before. I feel bad. I vent to him a lot and I think he has a headache. I did tell him that all that matters is that I am marrying HIM and I love HIM. ::Sigh::
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You're absolutely right to feel angry, what does FH say about it??
catsgirl
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hell with them.....
little j
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uggh...and FJGDKYTDLYFLIULUGG!!!! good luck girl. remember the wedding is about u and FH. f them.
soontobemrsag
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Kick them out of the wedding party seriously!!!!!
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Ohhh wow hun I'm so sorry you are going through this. I think you should put your foot down and tell these mean girls how you feel. I would hate to see you having problems with them because you will be part of their family and having a horrible relatioship with them through out the end is really not worth it. I think you should nicely tell them that you dont want them to be part of your wedding anymore. If you can make this arrangement.
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Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr....
LaBellaVita622
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O.K...first of all after the shower thing I would have been livid as well..then for them to keep this up for the bachelorette party etc??..they sound like selfish people. You have to realize this is their problem not yours. Even more amazing is that you have known them so long!!..I see it with my own family..people are so weird & you have to just focus on u & ur FH because that is who it is all about. People that will not be there to support you for whatever reason, including his family, do not deserve to be a part of your life. I have learned not to let people do this to me anymore..don't go out of your way for anyone who has not been there for u. be cordial when you have to see them, but enough is enough they are lucky that you are a nice person & don't like forbid him to associate with them since theyre not nice to u.. I have that too! haha..you will learn. Its just hard because I can imagine how crazy its getting right before your wedding. Just take a deep breath & realize ur better than them. :) good luck xoxo
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Posted by PrincessBride09
I asked 3 of FH's sisters to be my BM's. (He has 4 and the youngest one is the FG). One turned me down in a rude way. I got over it since I am better off. The other 2 agreed to be in it and were very hard to get in touch with for my MOH (my sis) and my other BM's (my friends). One sister helped out and contributed to my shower at the last minute. The other...did not. Both of these FSIL's told me they were definitely coming to my bachelorette party this weekend. I have been trying to get in touch with both of them this week. I made it CLEAR that I wanted both of them to come and just needed a definite answer so that we could figure out the price for everyone since we are getting a limo. I said I didn't want anyone to get screwed over with $ in the end (which happened with my shower). They both said yes, definitely. One told someone else she was not coming and did not return my calls. The other did not return my calls. FH called the second one today about something else. He asks her about this weekend and she nonchalantly says she is not coming. I AM FUMING. I left messages and she did not call me. It is 2 nights before my bacherlorette party and she did not have the decency to call me and let me know she was not coming? My BM's are not going to be able to cover her share nor should they have to. I did not get on the phone with her. I would have FREAKED. I know if I wait to calm down and call, she will likely not answer and it will just get me nowhere. I don't know what to do. THEN SHE HAS THE NERVE TO CALL FH BACK AND ASK TO BRING A GUEST NOW. I told him to tell her no way. We just did the seating chart! If you read this, THANK YOU.
ETA: Did I mention that this same FSIL did not even come to my shower, nor did the one who turned down being in the BP? I have known these people and have felt like a part of their family since I was 14....seriously?! Ok, I think I am finished.
IDK what I would do. I would take time to think about it because I can be spiteful, and that could work or backfire. I think I would give a short speech...thanking everyone at the RD and esp. my BMs .... by name...and leave them out. Say how they really made your days special and that you couldn't have done anything without all of them by your side. I would also give everyone but them a gift. I would just return the aggravation.
I know it seems mean...but what they did cannot be taken back. you know have terrible memories of them and they almost ruined your bach party. That is beyond rude. I feel bad that your other BMs and you are going through this. Try to return the favor... they obviously can't be bothered. It can be tricky if you do this...but ya know, you're only thanking those who were really there for you...who deserve it. That's my take....
let us know what happens.
AngeeM
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Wow! Im sorry that they are acting like that. Maybe you should just ask them to come to the wedding as guests. It might be better, you don't need negative dis interested people around you that day. FSIL or not, you might be better off without them, especially if they are not even participating in anything in a positive manner. I say kick them to the curb, that's JMO.
BeLissa
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that is seriously so rude and obnoxious. way to set the tone b*tches! sorry you have to deal with this.
PeterNina Mom
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That is very rude and wrong and I would be very angry too!!! For your own well being just try to cover their share if you can and don't bother to invite them to anything else. Enjoy your party and your wedding.
mmm117
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WOW! How old are these girls? They're acting like 12 year olds. I'm so sorry you are going through this. It would be disappointing behavior from anyone but especially from people that are supposed to be welcoming you into their family. I think you should tell them how you're feeling once you've had a chance to calm down. Definitely don't let their behavior slide.
