I have nobody else to tell this too....

Nurse12985 Posted: Sep 14, 2008 10:13 PM

I have nobody else to tell this too....

I got my ring back today... The jewler replaced the prongs and they are even uglier then ever. To be honest I could just cry. It's just huge and awful. My stone is set so high up now it looks rediculous... I never agreed to any of that.

On top of that my FSIL got engaged tonight and walked in with exactly the ring I dreamed of. Not that im jelous, I am really happy for her but it kinda ****** in a way. My FMIL had chilled champane and strawberries waiting for her when she came and everybody was kissing and taking photos. That sort of made me sad because my mom could have cared less when I got engaged. To make the most of it... Mydaughter (I hope I get one!) will have chilled champane waiting for her when she gets engaged and I will be thrilled for her!

I am starting to feel so depressed about this whole thing. I feel like im living a lie pretending I like this ring so FH won't be hurt because I love him. I wish I didn't have a ring at all! I just want to marry FH and live happily ever after, forever with him! I don't need an ugly peice of jewlery for that. I don't have anybody else to tell this too, so sorry if I sound like Bridezilla, I figure thats what this board is for.

I figure i'll live to 90 so thats 67 years to start liking this ring.

FallBride2010 Posted: Sep 14, 2008 10:18 PM

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I know most people thing you are being harsh...but I really understand your situation. Last year my boyfriend bougt me a bracelet...complete opposite of what i asked for. I showed him a zillion pics and he came home with something totally different...and hideous! I couldnt hold it in. I think he fet a bit bad...but was happy I told him so we could replace it with what I really wanted. Considering this is something you have to wear EVERYDAY...I think you should love it. The longer you wait to tell him...the longer you will be lying...and the worse it will be. I think you should nicely tell him how much you love him and the effort he put into the ring...but you would be happier with a different style. I know it wont be easy...but this is a small issue to confront in the grand scheme of things...and he should appreciate your honesty.

grrulz Posted: Sep 14, 2008 10:21 PM

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I really feel bad for you :(. Although i believe it is not right to just say that you don't like your ring and stuff like that...I think you should def tell your FH you just don't like your ring ...just make sure you tell him in a good way. Kind of like a polite conversation. Tell him how you feel. I think he is going to understand you although he is going to feel a little bad about this. But just make sure that you are there to tell him that you love him so much and that you are sorry you are sounding 'harsh' but you just don't like the setting. I really wish you luck with this. take care

G.

JoanneAndJustin Posted: Sep 14, 2008 10:21 PM

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I love my ring because FH put so much effort into buying it. It was in his budget at the time, HOWEVER, we will be upgrading it for the wedding.... because I had no idea he was REALLY buying it at the time he was, and I did pick a couple out... I just wanted to really look at others.

I will wear this ring on my wedding day (sentimental value) but if I got an upgraded different ring I'd wear that too. (one on my right hand, one on my left).

the baguettes on my ring are so pretty i just wish my center stone was a drop bigger.

bkbaby4life Posted: Sep 14, 2008 10:21 PM

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haha i like ur sarcasm.

but seriously.........you need to say something. i mean....i dont know your FH...and maybe telling him that you dont like the ring will break his heart...but maybe it wont?? maybe he just wants you to be happy, which would involve changing ur setting. why spend the rest of your life hating a multi-thousand dollar diamond because of some ugly setting that cost a eight of that.

im sure you can think of someway to tell your FH you would be eternally happier with a different setting.

as for your mom...that sounds like a bigger issue. dont quite know that back story.

TessMike621 Posted: Sep 14, 2008 10:30 PM

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change the ring if you don't like the setting...fh won't be hurt, it's not like you want to change the stone! good luck with that but if you don't like it, don't think too much into it, just bring it back and change it!

Nurse12985 Posted: Sep 14, 2008 10:58 PM

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You girls are so nice

FallBride2010 Posted: Sep 14, 2008 11:04 PM

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Posted by Nurse12985

You girls are so nice<3 Im so glad I have you all to vent too!

Let us know how it goes! Good luck!

Do you have a pic of the ring you really wanted? Would love to see it!

Camroy Posted: Sep 14, 2008 11:39 PM

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I think your ring is very pretty. If you are unhappy and don't want to hurt FH's feelings it seems like now will be a good time to say something especially since you're not happy with how your ring turned out. It's such a delicate subject...I feel for you!

mosh424 Posted: Sep 15, 2008 05:05 AM

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Posted by Camroy

I think your ring is very pretty. If you are unhappy and don't want to hurt FH's feelings it seems like now will be a good time to say something especially since you're not happy with how your ring turned out. It's such a delicate subject...I feel for you!

I agree with you 100%