I just don't care about ANYTHING anymore. Not even my wedding...

For the past 3 days, I've felt like I had major pms, but I just got over 'it' like a week & a half ago (sorry, TMI?). But normally I'm the one that everyone wishes they had a personality like. Like at work, whenever anyone is having a ho-hum day & I walk in, they're all like, 'Yeahh, Dawnie's here! Come sit by me & make me laugh.' But honestly, I don't really give a flying flip about anything lately. My apartment is a complete disaster, my little Tucker's paws needed to be clipped like 2 weeks ago, I've been wearing sweats alllllll day long, my hair hasn't seen a styling product in a week (which is very rare for me!) I've been arguing with my mom about the stupidest crap, but most of all, I've been fighting-- NO, make that BALLING with FH for days now.

Everyone always says they've never seen a girl more in love with her man than I am, but I really just do not care about any of this anymore. What's my deal? Everything is fine around me, but I couldn't care less if the house crumbled around me. Does anyone know what's going on here? Is it stress from the wedding? Why aren't I myself? Has anyone else gone through this?

And what is the deal with all of my crying??? Uggh, I cry at red lights, at night, in the shower, pretty much all day. Someone, please tell me I'm not going crazy. I used to be so happy.

OMG!!! I totally relate! Stress hit me bad around the time the invites went out. And it's hitting me again, bad. Any chance you might be on birth control? I've been doing research on mine and it's not pretty.

Stay strong, we're here for you!!!

It's definitely just stress. All of your planning and worrying is coming to the highest of peaks so it's definitely going to get to you. As for fighting with FH, it's a combo of stress and nerves...it's a HUGE day! Everyone I know that has gotten married had serious brawls and panic before the wedding. I think it's natural. Don't sweat it and add it to your stress. You'll be okay!

I am sorry you feel this way
I hope I am not being too bold, but maybe you should see your doctor. He may help you come up with some answers and some solutions. Planning a wedding is very stressful, but even still, you should not have to keep feeling this way. Know that we (LIW) is here for you. Feel better

Just reread your post. You have only been feeling this way for 3 days. Not to minimize it in anyway, but maybe I over reacted in my last post. Thought it was longer.
I agree with the other girls, I have gotten like this too when stressed about the wedding. Try to take a brake from the wedding stuff and maybe do something relaxing/fun this weekend.

O I can so relate...Things are becomming so real and the stress is building up it's a scary thing but there is light at the end of the tunnel (i hope) as long as we stay strong, talk to eachother and stay true to ourselves we will overcome these stressful times...Maybe you need a little bit of time to yourself...like a massage or just a cup of tea and a LARGE piece of chocolate cake...and sometimes you need to just let it out don't try to hold it back we all need a really good cry sometimes..... Stay strong and remember we are all here for you....

Oh sweetie!!!!!!



It is most certainly just stress. I agree with the above suggestion that you should go check with your doctor just to make sure everything is in order, and take a few days off if you can.

We're all here for you.

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Posted by Noonie

For the past 3 days, I've felt like I had major pms, but I just got over 'it' like a week & a half ago (sorry, TMI?). But normally I'm the one that everyone wishes they had a personality like. Like at work, whenever anyone is having a ho-hum day & I walk in, they're all like, 'Yeahh, Dawnie's here! Come sit by me & make me laugh.' But honestly, I don't really give a flying flip about anything lately. My apartment is a complete disaster, my little Tucker's paws needed to be clipped like 2 weeks ago, I've been wearing sweats alllllll day long, my hair hasn't seen a styling product in a week (which is very rare for me!) I've been arguing with my mom about the stupidest crap, but most of all, I've been fighting-- NO, make that BALLING with FH for days now.

Everyone always says they've never seen a girl more in love with her man than I am, but I really just do not care about any of this anymore. What's my deal? Everything is fine around me, but I couldn't care less if the house crumbled around me. Does anyone know what's going on here? Is it stress from the wedding? Why aren't I myself? Has anyone else gone through this?

And what is the deal with all of my crying??? Uggh, I cry at red lights, at night, in the shower, pretty much all day. Someone, please tell me I'm not going crazy. I used to be so happy.

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Holy crap I feel like it's me that's posting this! I seriosuly have been going through the same stuff. I think I'm depresssed and don't know why..
Wedding stress is not the cause b/c I'm not stressed about it ...Well I ;m here if you wanna FM me..

THanks for all of your kind responses, girls. That's why I love this site. I still feel bad, but I did enjoy reading that I wasn't the only one feeling like this. I really haven't been sleeping well either. I just keep thinking, maybe tomorrow I'll wake up & feel better. FH doesn't know what to do with me because he wants to help me, but how can he help me when I really do not know what the problem is. Thanks again everyone.

I was the same way. It gets to a point where you really want to throw your arms up in the air. I wish I could tell you chill out and relax, but it didn't help me when other people gave me that advice.

Tomorrow is Friday. Have a margarita. That DID help me.

I'm so sorry you are going through this. It will pass, don't worry. Do something fun for Memorial Day. It'll cheer you up

Wow, why is everyone is getting so sad I guess the truth is, there is so much pressure on us to do EVERYTHING, and be in control of everything (and everyone). It's a lot of stress. Even though the party is about a union, the FH's really aren't involved in decision making. It's stressful.

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Posted by waterspout4

OMG!!! I totally relate! Stress hit me bad around the time the invites went out. And it's hitting me again, bad. Any chance you might be on birth control? I've been doing research on mine and it's not pretty.

Stay strong, we're here for you!!!

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it's so hard when you feel this way and have no real clue why~!!!!

maybe some rest and relaxation??

Delegate some tasks to FH?
I started doing this and he's come through in the clutch big time! I feel WORLDS better.

Speaking of birth control, I was just about to start taking Yaz, but I'm nervous to start........don't want to have emotional/hormonal fallout. I think this yaz is supposed to be not so bad but it's fairly new on the market, so I don't know.

but anyhow, good point about the birth control.

cheer up!

Honey, you're stressed and exhausted!! I know exactly how you feel. For the past 2 months I've been a wreck since things have been going wrong with my family, my BM, etc. My FH says I'm more upset than happy. But you know what? I know that this will pass for the both of us. We are tired and nervous and have no motivation. I was just saying to my FH the other day that I have NO motivation to do my research at school. But, I really think that after our weddings are over, we will have a huge weight lifted off of us and things will go back to normal, only better (cause we'll be wives! ) Just try to relax a little bit, maybe watch a movie with FH and have some wine. Take moments to try to enjoy the planning, since it's the only time we'll be able to do this.

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Posted by glinda_goodwitch

Honey, you're stressed and exhausted!! I know exactly how you feel. For the past 2 months I've been a wreck since things have been going wrong with my family, my BM, etc. My FH says I'm more upset than happy. But you know what? I know that this will pass for the both of us. We are tired and nervous and have no motivation. I was just saying to my FH the other day that I have NO motivation to do my research at school. But, I really think that after our weddings are over, we will have a huge weight lifted off of us and things will go back to normal, only better (cause we'll be wives! ) Just try to relax a little bit, maybe watch a movie with FH and have some wine. Take moments to try to enjoy the planning, since it's the only time we'll be able to do this.

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I thought I was the only one who felt this way during my engagement. Towards the end I didn't want to do ANYTHING for the wedding. Unfortunately, that's when the planning got super busy! Wedding planning takes a serious toll on you.

oooo - that sounds like me a few months ago!!!

Don't worry - you will snap out of this funk!!!! Trust me - I am the happy sunshine girl too, and for a while I thought for sure I was gonna pull an uzie on everyone and everthing!!!!

It does sound like stress, I went through something similar too before the wedding - it ***** but hang in there! Try to do one little thing a day that brings you joy, no matter how small -for me it was eating a cookie, drinking tea, and reading a gossip magazine - so whatever it is for you alone, do it. You'll hopefulyl feel better soon