I JUST OPENED MOUTH...AND INSERTED BIG GIANT FOOT !=(

Sorry, I did not read Nubride's comment at all. See that is why you need to start your post with the ref to the person to whom you are referring.

Michele, I dont think problems with a c-section cause a 'medical condition'...maybe im a bit naive on this, but how would it be considered a medical condition. Some lady's bellys never go down after pregnancies. I had some scarring and infection in my c-section, but its over and done with once its over and done with. I just think she still has belly-weight in the front that she never lost

Not have a choice but to dress in maternity? I think its possibly maternity-looking but I wouldnt definately say its maternity. There are many brands of loose clothing and sweatshirts out there, I cant see a *need* for someone to dress in maternity, if this were the case (which I dont think it is, I think the way her blouses fall and the shape of her belly make it look that way)... and besides maternity costs so much more, who would buy it unless they were preggo?

and Sorry, but I *never* ask the question either, if Im doubtful even a sinch of a percent, but I really had no doubt in my mind (make me feel worse by saying that ) (Guess I learned to never ask again period).

I dont think Nubride was being judgemental or offensive in what she said. If this was my mother or someone close to me, I would definately help them find better clothes, only to try to avoid any more comments of that nature. especially since she said it happens all the time It would only be in her best interest, so that she doesnt have to feel uncomfortable anymore...

I thought you said she looked like she was wearing maternity clothes Anna. But if she had a complication from a c-section I read that as meaning more than 'I never lost the baby weight' maybe she had some real issues and has other medical problems now. A c-section is major surgery and I always treat it as such. But I wasn't there so I didn't hear how she spoke to you. I am just saying that it must be incrediably difficult to have had the baby and have people still think you are pregnant. I mean, I know that I am looking forward to being 'myself' again, that's all.

You didn't ask to hurt her feelings or just because she was a bit overweight and I KNOW that you didn't mean her any harm and you were just looking for a fellow prego to share the school stuff with. I didn't think your motives were hurtful at all!

It did look maternity since I totally thought she was pregnant, but Im guessing its not since shes not preggo and doesnt want to look it..

I know a c-section is major surgery, Ive been there I just never thought someone can have problems with it so many years later. She seems pretty upbeat and healthy, but of course only she knows her personal problems..

I didnt mean for this post to get so drawn out

Awww Anna ... push that thought out of your mind. It's okay. We all make mistakes and you did not mean it. I'm sure this woman saw the sincerity in your eyes when you apologized!! We are human ... and that's why there are erasers on pencils. We ALL make mistakes!!