i kinda got mad....

I am beating myself up over Thanksgiiving. Basically we had 8 adults here and 2 kids - all my husband's family - and yes. I did the cooking. Not that I didn't WANT to - I really did and it's so important for me to make Thanksgiving everything is was for me growing up - I am still really sensitive that I dont' get to spend this holiday with my family anymore (I had to trade it for Christmas Eve...) but I am trying to create a tradition that means something to me.

I really put a lot into it. I made a beautiful table and decorated with all kinds of things from outdoors, the turkey was glamorous with a deep cranberry glaze and decorated with kumquats and greenery - glitter candles everywhere, it looked really nice. And amazingly everything was done at the same time! I just got so upset becuase EVERYBODY kept telling me to sit down and get off my feet - but it was kind of like being yelled at. It made me feel like they were saying that I didnt' know how much I could do - I mean hello - I am the one who has been pregnant for 7 months. I know what I can handle. I felt totally fine and it meant so much to me that it was perfect, and every two minutes somebody was telling me to stop doing something. I am really looking forward to that part of not being pregnant anymore. I guess I don't like to be coddled like that. And I dont' want to sit and put my feet up in my own home during preparation for Thanksgiving. I mean - nobody even knew what I was making - how were they supposed to do it for me?

I guess I got a little over sensitive, and the whole meal just rushed by - I felt like the 'Special' wasn't there. Everybody kind of ate fast and got up from the table - there was no nice family discussion. My BIL's kids were banging on the piano during dinner and nobody told them to stop. It really upset me. After all that work...

No question - just needed to vent it out a little. I guess the long and short is I missed my family - and when I did take time to call them in the Cape they were all outside playing football, and some were on bike rides to the beach, and my sisters were setting the table. I guess I got a little homesick in a way. Hopefully I'll be more used to it next year!

Awwww Jenny. Some people don't appreciate hard when they see if, even if you were pregnant or not! And I am sure it was worse because you missed your family. For all it is worth, I am sure you did a great job!!

I know how you feel... I had company over on Wed. night and after all the preparing to make it look special, it was a mess!! But you know that it looked great, and you know, a few years down the line, someone may have T-day at someone else's house and say, 'Remember Thanksgiving at Jenny's a few years ago? That was great. This is nothing compared to hers!'

Don't beat yourself up over it.

AWE Jenny
Im sure youre extra sensitive with the preggo hormones.

I HATE /not used to getting coddled and suffocated either. ESPECIALLY being preggo.
Ive posted on this many times, but I hate it, hate it, hate it.

So I know how you feel.

Im sure youre looking fwd to Xmas Eve

Hi honey!

Dont worry about it. I understand how you feel about not liking to be coddled but sometimes thats how people show they care.

I am sure your thanksgiving feast was just terrific! I am so proud of you!!!!

I know it must have been so hard not to have your family around but look at it this way..you got through it!

I am also sorry that they were so rude. My dad was like that at my table this year which made my brother like that too. He sat down for literally 10 minutes, watched football in the middle of it and left. I was so upset. Just be proud of yourself hun and look forward to Christmas Eve!

Love ya!

I am sorry jenny. There was just so much pressure and so many issues for you to deal with- it sounds like you did an amazing job. You should be proud of yourself for doing the right thing and doing it with all of your heart. Maybe not everyone appreciated it, and surely you would have been happier being with your family, but you did this for your DH and your little girl to be, try to remember that. Your story reminds me alot of how my mom feels sometimes after a big party - when she worked so hard to make everything perfect and then she will just crash afterwards when it seems like it just wasn't worth it. She will swear that next time she isn't going to work that hard but you know what she always does. You do it because that is the person you are and you wouldn't be happy any other way.

As for everyone telling you to sit down and relax, I totally hate that too!! It drove me crazy all weekend with my family. It's like being pregnant is a disease or handicap or something. If I couldn't do it, I wouldn't! I know, we should appreciate everyone's concern, but let's see how much they tell us to sit down and relax after the baby comes...

as a non-preggo...I would feel bad that you were doing all the work and I was sitting around...


People are just really protective of pg women...

You did a great job none the less, if they don't know how to appreciate it doesn't make it any less special. You will know what to expect for next time. PS people tend to want to baby preggo ladies, I did it a million times to Natasha at her shower, I hope she did not feel bad. Try not to take it to heart. Maybe you can invite your family down for next TG