I knew it would happen....The Bachelor Party fight!!!!

I had a huge argument with FH a little while ago, I have been nothing but open about what we're doing for my bachelorette party, I don't have to be secretive about anything bc I'm not doing anything bad. His 'BOYS' have been keeping everything from him so that he won't tell me what they are doing. Tonight he gets a call from his bro, the best man, and he is on the phone for a looooooong time, so naturally I was like what's goin on? and FH said nothing he's just giving me the itinerary for Saturday night!!! So i just gave him a look and said I didn't want to know!!! It was eating me inside so I finally caved and said 'I WANT TO KNOW' so he was honest with me and I flipped the hell out....his brother is getting a party bus and wants to get strippers on the bus??? Since when was this appropriate for a bach party. I think my blood pressure is at 1,000 right now!!!!

FH got upset that I flipped out and said I don't trust him, I said I don't trust 25 drunk guys pressuring him to do something disgusting!!! Up until now I was fine with the idea of a strip club bc there are bouncers there and you have to keep ur hands to urself but on this bus there is no stopping anyone...

I think I'm gonna go vomit now!

and its not even about you trusting him...those girls are nasty and have no shame apparently!!! its really the girls you dont trust!

the girls will be with them the whole time!
totally understand why you would flip out!
but dont worry FH loves you and will not do anything bad!! besides the strippers are more for his single friends than him!

if it can happen on the bus it can happen in strip clubs.....him going to a strip club the same things can happen even with bouncers around.

At this point you have to decide to know that your FH is not that type of person no matter how much pressure he gets from his guys or fight about this before and after the BP which will cause problems in your relationship. My guess is that you would not have made it this far with your FH if you really thought he was the type of guy to do anything with another girl.....I dont think you have anything to worry about

Awwww.. Twin Day!! I really dont want you to get stressed out.. Its must be hard thinking about his Bachelor Party.. But remember the MAN you are marrying and why you choose to say 'Yes'.. If he really loves you and he is 'THE ONE' .. No matter how many 'A SS Shaking' or 'T itty Bouncing' those girls will do, he will be honest and true to you.. You dont need anymore stress.. Especially since you are making sure all the final details are up to par for 'YOUR Wedding' .... Think positively about the bachelor party and believe me your feel much better...

Thanks girls!!!! I think my hormones mixed with stress from the wedding are really getting to me. I trust him 150%, we've been together for 7 years and have a great relationship, I know he wouldnt jeopardize that.

Just the thought of dirty girls touching him makes me wanna puke Guess thats normal tho.

I hope this makes you feel better... FH said to me that these strippers want nothing to do with these men. They want to flirt to get the money and leave! Thats what they want and this is what they do on a daily basis. I know FH is going to go to a strip club for his BP, but Im trying not to think about it and know that he loves me and wouldnt do anything that would jeopardize our relationship.

Are you guys having your parties the same night?

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Posted by xosweetiexo

I hope this makes you feel better... FH said to me that these strippers want nothing to do with these men. They want to flirt to get the money and leave! Thats what they want and this is what they do on a daily basis. I know FH is going to go to a strip club for his BP, but Im trying not to think about it and know that he loves me and wouldnt do anything that would jeopardize our relationship.

Are you guys having your parties the same night?

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Yea mine is this saturday also so I'll be busy with the girls...

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Posted by MaggieLuvsJoe

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Posted by xosweetiexo

I hope this makes you feel better... FH said to me that these strippers want nothing to do with these men. They want to flirt to get the money and leave! Thats what they want and this is what they do on a daily basis. I know FH is going to go to a strip club for his BP, but Im trying not to think about it and know that he loves me and wouldnt do anything that would jeopardize our relationship.

Are you guys having your parties the same night?

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Yea mine is this saturday also so I'll be busy with the girls...

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Good I am going to be going to hunkamania so I will be having my fun too lol!!! Us girls can have our fun too

Awww, I'm so sorry you're upset! I feel the same way, I trust FH, it's not his thing, but it's the other drunk guys pressuring him I don't like. He already knows I won't fight with him about the bachelor party, because if it's something crazy, there will be no wedding

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Posted by MrsBlueRibbon

Awww, I'm so sorry you're upset! I feel the same way, I trust FH, it's not his thing, but it's the other drunk guys pressuring him I don't like. He already knows I won't fight with him about the bachelor party, because if it's something crazy, there will be no wedding

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tell it like it is!

You have every right. Why cant they just go to a strip club gettin strippers on the bus thats over the top.

My FH went to his last night and went to strip club and i was like okay that sounds good because like you said they have to keep there hands to themselves LOL. But id rather him be in a controlled environment watching them dance and do whatever then be on a bus when everything goes.

You should talk to him again and say its not that you dont trust him but when ppl get drunk they get crazy and them strippers you dont know how far there willing to go for a dollar bill But i wouldnt worry too much about it because if you go hard with it it will just cause so many more problems. Just give him the silent treatment when he comes home from the bachelor party and dont give him any sex for 5 days after that will teach him.

In life, you have to choose your battles.

If this is one that's that important to you, then by all means fight the good fight.

But, if you sit down and think about it and come to the conclusion that this isn't that big a deal, back off, wish him well, and know you've made the decision of a lifetime to marry this man and that he's worth marrying, strippers in a bus or not.

FH once told me about a trip to Vegas with his company where he got super drunk and had a girl hanging on him all night. I felt hurt (and we were just dating at the time) but he said nothing happened, and he loves me. When he proposed, I took that as confirmation that we are mutually exclusive for the rest of our lives. I would never stop him from viewing 'exotic photos' online or whatever he wants. I would never stop him from going to a strip club if that's what he wanted to do. He's not going to go out and impregnate someone else and he's not going to go fall in love with a stripper.

If you can, try to be objective and look at why you're so upset at the prospect of a little b00b touching. Is it really worth an epic battle?

I would talk to him about this. I totally would be upset as well and Im not looking foward to it when its my turn.

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Posted by springsandra

In life, you have to choose your battles.

If this is one that's that important to you, then by all means fight the good fight.

But, if you sit down and think about it and come to the conclusion that this isn't that big a deal, back off, wish him well, and know you've made the decision of a lifetime to marry this man and that he's worth marrying, strippers in a bus or not.

FH once told me about a trip to Vegas with his company where he got super drunk and had a girl hanging on him all night. I felt hurt (and we were just dating at the time) but he said nothing happened, and he loves me. When he proposed, I took that as confirmation that we are mutually exclusive for the rest of our lives. I would never stop him from viewing 'exotic photos' online or whatever he wants. I would never stop him from going to a strip club if that's what he wanted to do. He's not going to go out and impregnate someone else and he's not going to go fall in love with a stripper.

If you can, try to be objective and look at why you're so upset at the prospect of a little b00b touching. Is it really worth an epic battle?

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ITA with Sandra on this one! Choose your battles...if the party bus is going to upset you this much draw the line and say that you really don't want strippers on the bus. If you can get over it and just trust him then do it. I also agree with people that the girls want to do as little as possible for their cash though.

Oh man, I feel your pain. There is really NOTHING you can do about it. It will happen regardless. If it makes you feel better I think those sluts usually bring a bouncer ~ to prevent them from being 'disrespected' or whatever. and the stripper part might not last very long. They get paid by the hour so it might get a little pricey ~ especially if they are having more than one.

My advice to you is plan a crazy girls night out , look hot, have a blast and try not to think about him.

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Posted by xosweetiexo

I hope this makes you feel better... FH said to me that these strippers want nothing to do with these men. They want to flirt to get the money and leave! Thats what they want and this is what they do on a daily basis. I know FH is going to go to a strip club for his BP, but Im trying not to think about it and know that he loves me and wouldnt do anything that would jeopardize our relationship.

Are you guys having your parties the same night?

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ita..they want the money not the guys..and trust me it may be all for ur fh but i bet the other single guys monopolize her time...bottom line u trust n love ur fh and it will all be ok...hth and feel better

I completely understand where you are coming from. This is one issue that I simply won't change my mind about and never will.

I think of it like this:

If the girls WEREN'T strippers and WEREN'T getting paid and were just normal girls getting naked and flirting, etc., it would be considered completely wrong and off limits. BUT, because THEY ARE getting paid, that makes it OK? The situation is still the same. My man would be looking at a real live naked girl bouncing her boobs, etc. in front of him. If she were a random girl it would be considered border line cheating. I just don't get it and never will.

Women who are Ok with it..my hats are off to them..I wish I could be OK with it. It would probably make my life easier.

Perhaps it has to do with insecurity..I don't know. The whole thing just makes me ill.



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