I love my MOH but....(very long)
Ok my MOH is my best friend since I was 6. I know I can trust her and that she is dependable. She will make sure that my wedding day is great for me and keep me grounded if I start to get out of control the problem is she is very traditional. She comes froma big italian family and her idea of a wedding is 5biliion people, a humungo cake and everything else that people have been doing at weddings since the beginning of time! That is great if you like that kinda thing....but I don't. I am going for classy/simple (and I am not even sure if I can pull that off!)not elegant(well I guess it can still be elegant)/big/expensive.
The problem with this is everytime I put an idea out she says something about it that she thinks isnt right. If it was anyone else it wouldnt matter but she is my MOH ... some of the bridesmaids (love you Marie!) like my ideas but it would be nice to know that my MOH doesnt hate them all. The other thing is my FH also likes to be traditional (not big wedding traditional but traditional) so I never have any firm support from two of the most important people in the wedding (besides me of course!) I have been able to convince him a few things (again thanks Marie(takingthelongway)!) but it is hard getting your ideas shot down all the time when I know they aren't totally out there....
Examples:
WHen I first suggested tea length bridesmaid dresses (which is what I always wanted ever since I watched Charlotte and Trey's wedding) she was fine. then a few weeks later she said 'would you consider long dresses, I just think that it will makethe pics look more uniform. If they are short and everyone is a diferent height then everyone will look short and stumpy'
I don't agree with that but we havent tried on dresses yet so when we do I will make that decision
Doing my own invitations:
'Well you can get the stuffat Michaels or something but dont you just want to have them made. THey will be nicer and less work for you. Well, you know how I am I just like nice things like that'
Again, I amnot made of money and I think doing my own invitations would be fine when the time comes I am going to check out the price difference and see if it is worth it. But a little support?
Cupcakes:
'umm......but in your pictures you are going to want you and Steve cutting the cake. I know the rebel in you wants to be different but you will regret it...'
Now besides the fact that I will probably have the small cake ontop because FH said the same thing she made it sound like I was nutz for wanting it!!! and what is with her and how the Pics are going to look. I want the pics to look real not like everything is staged and out of some stupid book!
Anyway that is just me venting. thanks!
I don't want to just go through the motions of a wedding I want it to be MY wedding....does that make sense?
The problem with this is everytime I put an idea out she says something about it that she thinks isnt right. If it was anyone else it wouldnt matter but she is my MOH ... some of the bridesmaids (love you Marie!) like my ideas but it would be nice to know that my MOH doesnt hate them all. The other thing is my FH also likes to be traditional (not big wedding traditional but traditional) so I never have any firm support from two of the most important people in the wedding (besides me of course!) I have been able to convince him a few things (again thanks Marie(takingthelongway)!) but it is hard getting your ideas shot down all the time when I know they aren't totally out there....
Examples:
WHen I first suggested tea length bridesmaid dresses (which is what I always wanted ever since I watched Charlotte and Trey's wedding) she was fine. then a few weeks later she said 'would you consider long dresses, I just think that it will makethe pics look more uniform. If they are short and everyone is a diferent height then everyone will look short and stumpy'
I don't agree with that but we havent tried on dresses yet so when we do I will make that decision
Doing my own invitations:
'Well you can get the stuffat Michaels or something but dont you just want to have them made. THey will be nicer and less work for you. Well, you know how I am I just like nice things like that'
Again, I amnot made of money and I think doing my own invitations would be fine when the time comes I am going to check out the price difference and see if it is worth it. But a little support?
Cupcakes:
'umm......but in your pictures you are going to want you and Steve cutting the cake. I know the rebel in you wants to be different but you will regret it...'
Now besides the fact that I will probably have the small cake ontop because FH said the same thing she made it sound like I was nutz for wanting it!!! and what is with her and how the Pics are going to look. I want the pics to look real not like everything is staged and out of some stupid book!
Anyway that is just me venting. thanks!
I don't want to just go through the motions of a wedding I want it to be MY wedding....does that make sense?
