I MAY BE NEW BUT

allure Posted: Jan 19, 2003 10:21 PM

I MAY BE NEW BUT

MY FMIL KEEPS COMPLAINING THAT WE ARE HAVING A JANUARY WEDDING SHE THINKS THAT IT IS RUDE BECAUSE IT IS RIGHT AFTER THE HOLIDAYS PEOPLE WONT HAVE THE $$$$$$$$,IT IS COLD, & THAT IS WHEN HER & FFIL GO TO THEIR CONDO IN FLA,WELL EXCUSE ME IT IS IN MY BUDGET TO HAVE A JANUARY WEDDING AND IT ALSO IS THE MONTH OF MY DECEASED MOTHERS BIRTHDAY WE ALSO LIKE THE WINTER.SO LADIES DO YOU THINK WE ARE CRAZY FOR THE JANUARY WEDDING?IT REALLY HAS A LOT OF MEANING TO ME!

NancyC Posted: Jan 19, 2003 10:23 PM

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No its your wedding and you should get married when you and your FH want to. Ignore your FMI she will have a lot of things to say and do not let her get to you just remember its your day not hers.

Jenny Posted: Jan 19, 2003 10:24 PM

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You are not crazy at all. You will be hearing lots of unsolicited comments from now until the wedding so take them all with a grain of salt and ENJOY the planning!!!

wacky Posted: Jan 19, 2003 10:25 PM

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There are 12 months in a year and you cna have a weddign when ever you want. Tell her to mail you a card from Florida.

Im so sick of people sticking their noses in to someones business.

allure Posted: Jan 19, 2003 10:25 PM

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TY SO VERY MUCH!

LaurenG Posted: Jan 19, 2003 10:25 PM

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I agree, its your wedding HELLO !!!!!

sonia Posted: Jan 19, 2003 10:26 PM

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defnitely think you're right. this is YOUR wedding. i'm sure she'll manage to attend, even if its not what SHE wants. and she should understand why that month means so much to you!

tishpoo Posted: Jan 19, 2003 10:29 PM

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I totally understand what you are saying, I am going through the same thing for a December wedding, with the holidays, and weather. Mine too falls on my deceased Dads birthday, I am even having a small Birthday cake next to the wedding cake.

aliasPook Posted: Jan 19, 2003 10:39 PM

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Why must all FMIL/MIL's be so difficult???

Bride2be03 Posted: Jan 19, 2003 11:16 PM

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THIS IS YOUR WEDDING AND YOU CAN HAVE IT WHEN YOU WANT. YOUR RELATIVES AND FRIENDS SAVE 5 DOLLARS A WEEK AND HAVE ENOUGH TO GIVE YOU A WEDDING GIFT. YEAH, WHY DO THEY HAVE TO BE SO DIFFICULT

JodiBabe Posted: Jan 19, 2003 11:24 PM

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alias,

I do feel very bad for those that have difficult FMIL's but I do have to say that not ALL are difficult! Mine are GREAT. Haven't said one negative word about any of our plans!

And to those of you with the difficult FMIL's......

Ignore them and do exactly what the two of you want to do! If they don't like it then they don't have to come!!!!! It doesn't even matter what your reasons are for chosing a certain date or place or anything else because it really isn't anyone's business but your own! This is YOUR day not THEIRS!

Congrats to all the newbies and welcome!

Jodi

aliasPook Posted: Jan 19, 2003 11:28 PM

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(I'm hoping once we are married, things will change..)

But you are right, I know have plenty of friends who are happy to be inheriting a great set of inlaws...So I will rephrase it...must most MILs be so difficult???

Jen2704 Posted: Jan 20, 2003 01:59 AM

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It is your wedding you have it when you want...you can't make everyone happy!!

WishCandy Posted: Jan 20, 2003 08:29 AM

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Not at all. It is your day. And if they don't like it - tell them that they don't have to come. There's no reason that they should go out of their way to make you feel bad by saying such stupid things. I've said this before, but sometimes people feel that they have to have some sort of say in everything. Kindly tell them to butt out - if they're not paying for it
Good Luck
Unfortunately, I know what a pain in the butt future in-laws can be.

Stacey1403 Posted: Jan 20, 2003 08:38 AM

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allure...I got married on Jan 4th at the Meadow Club(saw that was a possibility for you ) I went thru the same kind of feelings about the date we picked, now I am so happy I chose that date. My church was so pretty withe Christmas decorations and the Meadow Club was so gorgeous for Christmas. Pretty much everyone we invited showed up (only 2 cancelations the day of due to weather and they were out of state) Also everyone was very generous with their gifts for us!!! If this is the wedding you dream of go for it!!!! I will admit it being right after the holidays was a little hectic, but with good organization skills you will be fine!!!! ( We told family and friends right away no exchanging of gifts for us) Be sure to send out save the dates, that will also let people know of your plans!!! If you have any other questions feel free to FM me! Good luck to you

allure Posted: Jan 20, 2003 08:56 AM

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ty so much stacey1403!

Stacey1403 Posted: Jan 20, 2003 08:57 AM

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welcome

Ronnie&Theresa Posted: Jan 20, 2003 08:58 AM

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I am getting married the week b4 Christmas and whomever doesn't like it..

Well they know WHERE they can go!

Stacey1403 Posted: Jan 20, 2003 09:03 AM

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Well said Theresa

jms0176 Posted: Jan 20, 2003 09:33 AM

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My family tried to get us to switch our date to January or December because our caterer charged so much less during those months. We stuck with Noveber. Unfortunately, there are a lot of people that think weddings should ONLY happen during May, June, and August and on a Saturday night! IMO, that is old-fashioned. Do what you want. Stick to your grounds. I also had a difficult MIL and once she saw that I didn't let her walk all over me and do whatever she wanted, she backed off. It sounds like the #1 reason they oppose a January wedding is because it interferes with their vacation plans! They can wait until after your big day. They might be relieved to get away after the wedding, also. I know my MIL felt like she needed a vacation when it was all over.