I need advice

tara5533 Posted: Apr 20, 2012 10:11 AM

I need advice

I need advice my FH cousin is married with one daughter and at Easter they asked if they could ask someone to bring there daughter who is 5 to the ceromony I do not know what to say cause then FH as other cousins who have there own children its not fair if I say yes to one and tell everyone else no I dont want a million kids running around during my ceromony which is outside if the weather is good?

What should we say NO to everyone? Or YES to everyone?

2012_Bride Posted: Apr 20, 2012 10:19 AM

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I assume you're getting married at the RH? If if was a church I would say tell everyone yes. But at the RH it's a little harder because you go right into CH. I think I would probably say no...

tara5533 Posted: Apr 20, 2012 10:28 AM

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Yes I am getting married at RH not a church

pixietina Posted: Apr 20, 2012 12:20 PM

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I would say no. You don't want the 'that's unfair talk'

pauladanielle Posted: Apr 20, 2012 01:28 PM

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I think you just need to stand your ground on this one. If you don't want kids at your wedding, for whatever your personal reason is (money, atmosphere or whatever), they shouldn't be railroading you into it. I understand if they don't want to pay $50 for a sitter, but the kid will basically have to go to the reception unless the cousin leaves with the kid after the ceremony, and that's basically asking you to pay the $50 to have her there :/

queenofhaerts Posted: Apr 20, 2012 10:28 PM

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This is completely up to you, but whatever you do you have to stand your ground. You can't let one family bring kids and not another. Good luck!!

Bride2Be78 Posted: Apr 21, 2012 09:51 AM

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Posted by 2012_Bride

I assume you're getting married at the RH? If if was a church I would say tell everyone yes. But at the RH it's a little harder because you go right into CH. I think I would probably say no...

This!

Bride2012 Posted: Apr 21, 2012 10:51 AM

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I would pick one way and stick to it. If you don't want kids than I would say no kids altogether. If you have one than you should allow others to have kids as well. Or prepare for people to be upset. Good Luck!! This is a touchy topic.

mikencathy226 Posted: Apr 22, 2012 10:28 AM

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Just remember this is your wedding not theirs. You should not worry about it you have enough stress. But I agree if you say yes to one then you will be the talk and it's not fair to other guests with kids. Good luck

soon2beMrsHenry92912 Posted: Apr 22, 2012 11:39 AM

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If you don't want kids, then its 'No' to everyone. We are dealing with this too. One of our guests wanted to bring their 1 year old to the wedding, sorry, not happening. The only exception we have made was immediate family, which is our nieces and nephew, 3 who will be in the wedding party. Your guests may not like it, but its not fair to you. What if one of them has a melt down during the ceremony, do you want that memory? I know I don't. This day is about you and your FH and what you want.