I work with 8 people and I thus far I only planned on inviting 4 and giving them each a guest. Now I feel bad cuz it looks like I have something against the other 4 that I didn't plan on inviting, which is not the case. Only 1 out of the 4 creeps me out (lol).
Now, I'm thinking about giving 2 people a guest and inviting the other 6 with no guest.
What would you do?
FutureMcBride
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I think it depends on how close you are with them and whether or not they are married or in a serious relationship.... as far as work goes, I feel that it's so hard to invite some and not all. Personally, I will probably only invite 2 people from work, and without guests... but this is because they are not in a relationship.
Maybe you should invite the 8 without guests and just explain to them that in order for them all to come you had to do this (people seem to understand when it comes to work).
If someone from work invited me without a date I would understand, since they aren't my good friends and I know how it is. Good luck!
angelscri
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I am inviting my coworkers without a guest and simply calling it the work table. lol
Diana508
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I know that people should understand situations, but I feel that sometimes they don't. I don't know how your coworkers are, but hopefully if you tell them that you can't invite everyone with a guest it will be okay.
On the other hand, these are people you see every day so if you think it's going to cause a problem, you might just have to invite them all w a guest(?)
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FH & I are only inviting those with whom we are close and do things outside of work/school. So if questioned by anyone just say that you're keeping it small. And hope that your coworkers don't talk about it with the others.
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To avoid this... we're only inviting our Bosses. It gets to be too many people and not for anything... it adds up really quickly. So for us, it was ALL or nothing or just the Boss.
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I wouldn't invite with guest bc if they come they will know the other ppl from work..they can just hang and u can use those extra seats for the other 4 ppl at work.. Or only invite wih other if married or they have someone
eshenn
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Invite the ones you like and forget about the ones you don't. It is your day, your money and your choice. If there was someone at work that I did not get along with I would not be expecting an invite!
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Posted by eshenn
Invite the ones you like and forget about the ones you don't. It is your day, your money and your choice. If there was someone at work that I did not get along with I would not be expecting an invite!
Thanks girls for all of your advice.
Eshenn.. I'm going to do just that. I spoke to my mom and my aunt about it. I’m not going to invite someone just because of “office politics”. I might feel bad about it right now, but I’ll be over it soon enough. In this life I can’t please everyone, someone will ALWAYS have something to say. It’s nothing personal against them. My wedding is about FH and I and we only want close friends and family there. The 4 out of the 8 that are already on the guest list is like family to me.
After this vent....Now I'm over it (lol)
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you kind of have to invite all 8, if you know they are in a serious relationship and/or married then obviously they get a guets, if they aren't then I wouldn't worry about it.
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Posted by angelscri
I am inviting my coworkers without a guest and simply calling it the work table. lol
this is what we did. I did, however, invite two of my coworkers with their husband/fiance because we have all hung out before, but everyone else was without a guest.
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If I invite people from work - which I'm not the fence about but leaning towards no - I wouldn't invite them with a guest. 1) There's too many of them in my department, 2) They all know each other so it's not like they'd be going somewhere alone.
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If you arent friends with all of them, i dont think you need to invite them. But, i think those you do invite should be invited with a guest
BRIDE62610
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UGH I am in the SAME situation!! FH works for a small company so we are able to invite everyone at his job, my job however will end up being 20 people, PLUS their spouses. I was going to invite JUST my immediate boss and her husband and 1 of the women I am close with... but, I always feel bad so I dont know? Maybe use my job as the 'b list invite'? I've been there for 2 years, so I kind of feel like i have to invite them all.. There's 1 girl who will NOT get an invite, but then I feel like that's making it worse too!!
