I need help, very upset with DH...update

He lost his ring after being married for exactly one month. I told him when he bought it that he should get it alittle smaller then what he got but DH and the girl ant the jewelery store deceided that he was right and it would be fine. Well one day at work it came off and he didnt notice until much later. Needless to say it was never found. That's just the beginning, he never told me!! I happened to look over at him one day in the car and it wasnt there and when I asked him where it was he laughed and said, 'Somewhere' Glad he thought it was a joke. Then he informs me that it happened more then a week before I never cried soooo much, what a jerk! Well it's been 2 1/2 months since and he still has made no effort to replace it. Everytime I say something I get well when we have extra money I will. I feel like if it was that important why not pay it off like you did the first ring. I cant even explain how I feel. I even gave him back my rings and said if it's not important to you then why should I bother(I know very childish ) We are getting remarried in 2007 in church but I dont think it's right for him to wait until then to get another ring and what if he loses it again! Even though he can buy a new ring you cant replace the meaning of the original. Sorry Ijust had to vent
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Okay brought up the ring again last night and was told we cant afford for him to buy another ring right now. When I brought up paying it off again he said he would need atleast $100 in his opinion to put down and we just dont have it right now because work is slow. Are u girls ready for this....Then I reminded him how just the other day he asked me for a check to write his softball team a check for $100 to play fall ball That we had the money for, before that it was $100 for him to play the summer league, before that it was lets go out to dinner I found a great restaurant and you guessed it the bill was just about $100 after the tip! When I tried pointing this out he just kept repeating that we cant afford it right now I give up!

I am so sorry! I would be upset also if my husband was so cavalier about it.

Can he get one that is inexpensive now? Maybe pose that question. My DH lost his ring 5 times. The fifth time we didn't find it again and we bought him an inexpensive one. He loves that one now.

Try not to get so upset..it's a symbol of your love not the actual relationship and how you feel about it.

I agree though, he needs to take it a little more seriously.

im so sorry hopefully he will realize just how important the symbolism of the ring is to you

sorry it took so long to reply to all of you. Thanks soooo much for the I needed them. Things have been nuts here so it's left very little time for the computer. I did tell him to get an inexpensive one and again all I get it okay but he does nothing. Believe me he knows how important it is too me because I find an opportunity all the time to let him know that it bothers me that he's doing nothing to replace it. Yet he still does nothing. In the beginning I suggested he didnt have to wear the ring because I knew it would be a pain to work with but HE insisted. Then I told him maybe you should just leave it at home unless we are going out but he insisted on wearing it, then I suggested buying an inexpensive ring and he insisted on the more expensive ring, do you see were Im going with this?? Now, it seems that what was so important to HIM is no longer important but it is to me because he made such a big deal about wanting it it made me feel like he was really commited to everything. No it's like whatever. It's very frustrating. Especially when he's willing to listen to a stranger and not to me.

Thanks for the I wish I had as much understanding over this from him as I do from you guys All I know is that if he doesnt come around Im gonna be one miserable person until I get over it

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Posted by LuckyMe

Thanks for the I wish I had as much understanding over this from him as I do from you guys All I know is that if he doesnt come around Im gonna be one miserable person until I get over it

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Here are somemore

some from me too!!!!

I say you should either just let it go...only b/c he obviously has an excuse for it OR just go and get him a sterling silver one!!!!!
On your own...that is what I would do-this way if he does lose it...you didnt lose too much!!

Good Luck-I would have kicked FHs @ss if he lost his ring the first time!!!!!!!!

Completely agree-I know how you feel when it comes to him not feeling the way you do towards it. And you have every right to be upset and pissed off about it...I hope that you are able to get passed it, it ***** but sometimes the opposite sex just dont GET IT!!!
Ya know?!

Tons of for you

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Posted by kismet8601

Completely agree-I know how you feel when it comes to him not feeling the way you do towards it. And you have every right to be upset and pissed off about it...I hope that you are able to get passed it, it ***** but sometimes the opposite sex just dont GET IT!!!
Ya know?!

Tons of for you

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Exactly but until I do I think I just keep torchering him

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Posted by LuckyMe

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Posted by kismet8601

Completely agree-I know how you feel when it comes to him not feeling the way you do towards it. And you have every right to be upset and pissed off about it...I hope that you are able to get passed it, it ***** but sometimes the opposite sex just dont GET IT!!!
Ya know?!

Tons of for you

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Exactly but until I do I think I just keep torchering him

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torture away girl...I would!!!


ETA: I was thinking about you today...and thought about this, maybe it will make youfeel better, maybe not. DH may not want to get another ring now b/c it wont have the same meaning as the first one, nor will it have the same meaning as it will when you put it on his finger again...just something to think about. He may want to wait so that YOU can put it on his finger again as a symbol of your marriage.

I played with that idea and actually asked him if he was waiting until we got married in 2007 and he came straight out and said NO! We just can't afford it. That's so sweet that you thought about me though thanks DH is like this with everything and he wasnt always but now he is really starting to get on my nerves He puts no thought or consideration into anything he does for me and the kids and has made everything about him. The other night he played softball and our son had two tournaments well no one said anything to DH about missing it because we understood just how important his all day tournament was but the next day DH had a regular game and our son was playing in the championship game of the tournament and needed to be there on time well DH had to take him because both babies and I were sick. Well DH never came home my FIL finally drove my son over to where his dad was playing and DH's 2nd game was finally ending. My son was now a half hour late to his game and DH tells him he's gonna shower and then mom has things to do I had to get dressed and drive this poor kid to his game. He got one up at bat and the game was over. DH could only say sorry I didnt know what time it was, he couldnt ask someone on his team or the umpire or someone who was watching the game. Like I said too we cant afford for him to replace the ring but we can afford to pay for his fall league. He was never like this but now it's just getting out of control.

for you!

I understand, have you tried to talk to him? FH was like that for a little while after we got engaged b/c I became a nut about wedding planning-but originally we were getting married May 06...he got upset with me for being on the computer one day and all the wedding 'crap' I was doing and kept telling me how it wasnt important it was 2 years away-he would worry about it then...needless to say we talked and now i can get him to sit with me at the computer and look at invites and DJs

Maybe he just needs to be reminded how important it is to you that he is able to have fun and do things he likes, but it cant always be about HIM-he needs to share his time and realize that some things are more important then HIS life

Does that make sense?