The old friend from College I posted about awhile ago is at it again....she myspaced me and wrote
'I'm still waiting for an invite......'
on another point....I wasn't invited to her BABY shower...wouldn't you think if I were a close firend I'd been invited to that....It's so uncomfortable so this is what I'm writing and I really need your opinions on whether or not it's ok
'Hey Lisa,Thanks for all the good wishes for the wedding. I know you keep asking for an invite but Matt and I have decided to keep our wedding small with just our family and closest friends. I hope you understand!'
Good or no?
SHE WROTE BACK:
i am quite honestly very disappointed about the wedding only because id been so excited since they day you told me you were engaged cause i thought this would be such a good time to see everyone and to wish devvie the best but i guess ill have to get over it. thanks again for telling me.
FIRST: I didn't tell her when I was engaged, she heard through the grapevine SECOND: notice the remark about 'to see everyone'...this is not a reunion for you it's my wedding THIRD: don't call me devvie, only my best of friends call me that & my Dad!!
I'm pissed and frankly I'd like to write her back and tell her she has not a CLUE what's been going on in my life, you don't know where I work or what I do. You don't know my sister is pregnant or that she got married.....you've never met Matt and don't know anything about him! I haven't seen you in THREE years! ***!!!
jaiese
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Totally fine. And, don't stress over this. It's not a big thing, so it shouldn't take up a big part of your wedding planning efforts, right?
hayleyandsteve
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I'd email her instead of posting it on myspace... it seems more like something to say privately
i'd also omit 'i know you keep asking for an invite'
happygirl07
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I say good. If you're not having a small wedding, then I would probably say 'limited' instead of small.
I cannot believe some people! GEEZ! Talk about stressing you out.
hayleyandsteve
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I'd say something like....
Hey Lisa, I appreciate all the good wishes for the wedding! As much as we'd want to have you there, we've decided to have a more intimate wedding with just our closest friends and family. I hope you understand!
DNicholes
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I'd email her instead of posting it on myspace... it seems more like something to say privately
i'd also omit 'i know you keep asking for an invite'
NO, I'm not POSTING it on myspace! I would never!!
HamptonsBride
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Or you could send her a 'Don't Save the Date!'..haha...i think e-mailing her something like what you wrote is good...
Hey Lisa, I appreciate all the good wishes for the wedding! As much as we'd want to have you there, we've decided to have a more intimate wedding with just our closest friends and family. I hope you understand!
Good one
So awkward, who would ever think I'd have to do this!
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I think it's fine. You don't owe her an explanation. You're being really nice just by responding to her rudeness! I'd be seriously annoyed with her. Especially since she didn't even invite you to her shower then tells you she expects an invitation to your event, that's balls. Your note is really sweet, I'd probably just write 'well, i'd send you a wedding invite but i'm still waiting for an invite to your baby shower' lol.
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Posted by HamptonsBride
Or you could send her a 'Don't Save the Date!'..haha...i think e-mailing her something like what you wrote is good...
LMAO!! Could you imagine?
HamptonsBride
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ok dumb question...you said she had a baby shower...did she have a wedding before that??? and were you invited? just wondering..
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I think it's fine. You don't owe her an explanation. You're being really nice just by responding to her rudeness! I'd be seriously annoyed with her. Especially since she didn't even invite you to her shower then tells you she expects an invitation to your event, that's balls. Your note is really sweet, I'd probably just write 'well, i'd send you a wedding invite but i'm still waiting for an invite to your baby shower' lol.
I know it's so uncomfortable....who would do this?
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ok dumb question...you said she had a baby shower...did she have a wedding before that??? and were you invited? just wondering..
no, she is not married.
HamptonsBride
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oh darn...was hoping you could use the old rule of not inviting those whose weddings you weren't invited to! haha
DNicholes
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oh darn...was hoping you could use the old rule of not inviting those whose weddings you weren't invited to! haha
wishful thinking lol....
I just can't get up the nerve to hit send....I just feel so weird about this whole thing.
HamptonsBride
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oh darn...was hoping you could use the old rule of not inviting those whose weddings you weren't invited to! haha
wishful thinking lol....
I just can't get up the nerve to hit send....I just feel so weird about this whole thing.
i know how that feels...but think of it this way...if she hasn't really been a big part of your life in the last few years, will you miss her if she gets bent out of shape & doesn't speak to you anymore? I have a few close friends who have been there forever...and to me they are the ones that matter the most..the people who are important are still important if that makes sense...there's no one that i am like 'oh i wish we still spoke'
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Devon I cant believe that this is STILL going one You poor thing, I think what you wrote is good-I agree as well with the omit the 'i know youve been waiting for an invite' that could definitely hurt someones feelings.
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BUMP for update!!
GabrielleandJohn
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That is Ballsey. I would never! I think you are 100% right in what you wrote. Honestly I would have a hard time not writing back to her but there is no point. She is no longer a friend and clearly not worth the energy or aggravation of a response.
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I'd just either say 'I'm sorry you feel that way. I wish you the best and hope you wish the same for me.' OR just leave it alone...
if you two aren't friends anymore... there's really no need to continue
