please tell me how you really feel, even if it's not what i want to hear.
you might remember last week i posted that i would really love to have an e-pic shoot at shea stadium. i told my brother about it and he was all excited and thought it was a great idea.
the other day he was all excited and he told me that his friend works at shea, and can make the e-shoot happen!! i was soooooooo happy until i heard the rest of it...and it really made me feel upset. but i can't decide if i'm being selfish...so here it is...
my brother asked me to wait to take our e-pics until october/november. i stopped him and told him i had planned on taking them sooner, since we are getting married memorial day weekend and i want to give people a year's notice. he then told me why he wants me to wait. he says this way, we can go for our e-pics and they can bring their baby and take a pic of him at at shea stadium for the birth announcement.
...so basically what he's saying is, his baby's birth announcement is going to go out of the baby at shea... and then a few weeks later we are going to send out our save the dates of us...at shea. it was my idea...i wanted to have pics of us there for a whole shoot. i wanted to use those pics for guest book.
the reason i feel like i have nothing i can say about this is because guess what they are naming their baby. SHEA! so i can't tell them i don't want them to do it, b/c it's going to be their KID's NAME!! but my SIL says that she is NOT naming the baby after shea stadium, she just likes that name.
i am really upset about this, but i don't know if i'm overreacting.
pleeeeeeeeeease...tell me the truth, would you be upset or would you think it was fun for everyone's announcement to be at shea??
dream426
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I would feel that same way as you. Can't you do at different times. I don't think you should have to wait for them to do it. I totally agree with you.
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I agree with you...How about just telling them nicely that you are doing a memorial day wedding and NEED to send out STD's alot sooner than that and cant afford to wait that long, and although you would love to theres just no possibility
dream426
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It is also two seperate announcements. They should be told seperately.
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i'd be pissed but I would definitely ask him if you can do it at a different time and explain the situation to him.
it's touchy though cause he might think you're being selfish even though I personally understand.
I know what you feel like right now because with my sister getting married 6 months before me a lot of my ideas have been altered or dropped all together because she said she is doing it and I want things at my wedding to be different especially since they are so close to each other.
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OK, I can totally understand where you are coming from. It was your idea!! They say copying is the sincerest form of flattery though. But even so, I would be a little upset as well. I don't think it would be terrible if both announcements were at Shea, but if you really want it to be your thing, you should sit down with your brother and tell him how you feel. And maybe he can wait until after yours go out to send out the birth announcement, that way people will have yours first and know it was your idea. I think if its really bothering you though, you should definitely talk to him and tell him how you feel. Im sure if it means that much to you then he will understand
JM4EVA
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Definately don't think you are being selfish. You want to give your guest plenty of time to make sure they can come to the wedding. Why can't you do it sooner and then when he has the baby he can go back?
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Oct/Nov is a little late if you were planning on using the pics for STD's What if you used other pics for your STD's and in Oct/Nov still took pics at Shea just so you have them? You can always use them as Christmas cards to send out to everyone.
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I would be very upset if I were you. It was your idea to take the pics at Shea Stadium. Plus, waiting until October/November is really late - you want to send out your STDs a year before.
I would tell them nicely that you cannot wait until the Fall because you need to send out the STDs a lot sooner than that.
Good luck!
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Honestly, I would feel EXACTLY the way you do. I would try to explain it to him that you need to take them earlier for the STDs. It was your idea first, but if he's still insisting on doing the baby pics there too see if you can do yours first so your STD goes out before the birth announcement. If he knows someone who works there maybe he can arrange for 2 shoots.
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I would be upset if I were in your position. These are two separate announcements and considering that you are getting married Memorial Day weekend, you want to get yours out as soon as possible.
You need to sit down with him and explain it to him. I can see how he thinks it's killing two birds with one stone, but it was your idea first and they have time to take their pictures.
madseason
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My date twin!!!
I completely understand how you are feeling! Having a baby and getting married are 2 HUGE occasions and unless happening to the same couple should never be combined!!!
Im rushing to have an e party so its about me and not the new baby..i know it sounds selfish but im entitled to all the happiness and attention, as is my new neice or nephew.
And so are you! Even more so that you had your heart set on something in particular, that was supposed to be only for you and not a family event.
So im my opinion, youre entitled to feel the way you do.
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I definately agree, you and your FH should take you e-pics alone with ur photographer, you shouldnt have to wait for the baby to be born.
I would just tell them, that this is something you want to do with just FH, its ur engagement pictures!!!
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Hmmm... that's an odd situation. I agree with you. Two seperate special occasions and she be treated so. There's no reason you can't both get pictures there and no reason you need to do them together. Talk to you brother about this and tel him what you were planning on using the pictures for.
Kimbalina
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I dont think it is fair of him to change it into his and your FSIL pic shoot. I agree with you!
ourday08
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I'd be frustrated too...Did you explain the way that you feel to your brother?
katleigh3
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Well...tough one! As you may have read already I see part of the problem is you need his friend who works at Shea to get you in there for the pics.
The way I see it...the only way to make you both happy is 2 separate pics at 2 separate times. You should go next month sometime and he will go again when the baby is born. He probably has no clue about when STD's should go out...you should also try talking to his wife...girls understand these things...maybe she can help.
Love the idea by the way. Good Luck!
Snowflake08
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i guess i understand what youre saying but its not something that would bother me
jgl
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i would feel the same way
I would just explain the STD thing to your bro and SIL and see if his friend would let them do it when the baby comes
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I would feel the same way sweetie!! it was your idea! lol I think he should let you have your day to shine there and then go again in oct for the babys pics!! Why cant you do it at 2 different times?
