I need some advice....

My FI is having probs. with his overbearing mother and decided that he's gonna move out. Which will mean postponing our wedding again to a later date. We haven't booked a place because of problems due to his family so, in one way I feel that him moving out is a good idea. However, I feel kind of slighted because I feel like if he does move out we'll never get married because of all the added extra expenses that he'll have to endure. Part of me wants him to just stick out, so that we can get married already. Am I being selfish? He tells me that all I'm thinking about is myself. When I feel like this should've been done before he gave me the ring. I don't I guess, like even though we're not married something like this effects both of us, ya know? That's another reason why I guess that I'm not feeling selfish about it.
PLEASE HELP ME....

Re: I need some advice....

Can't you move in together to split the costs and still get married.. Or better yet have a smaller wedding...

You will be married soon so also tell him to IGNORE the Mother...

Problems always arise. Don't regret taking the ring but if you don't think you can make it with such a small problem maybe you should recosider getting married..

When you marry him you marry his family..

Good luck!

Re: I need some advice....

My FH moved out of his mother's house when him and I were only together for about 2 months.. yeah, it was tough, BUT, it was the best thing he ever did.. he felt a sense of independence and was motivated to do almost anything.. think positive.. if his family is giving you both soo many problems, perhaps now that he is no longer living at home you both can truly have more time to think for yourselves when it comes to this wedding..

also, as it was also mentioned, what about moving in together and splitting the costs?? it's not a bad idea, you know.

Re: I need some advice....

Thanks guys for the advice =) We considered moving into together, but I really wanted to wait until we got married to live together. I guess I'm a lil' old fashioned when it comes to that. But, I'm going to try to reconsider it. I just feel that living with him first will lose the specialness of the whole idea of going home together after the wedding, does that sound weird? lol I'm just having a hard time explaining in it words. It's just that there are a lot of firsts that I feel should happen after you get married and that's like the only one left that we will have.