I need some help...ASAP

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Posted by mdawg

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Posted by dazies1011

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Posted by mdawg

talk about a severe case of male PMS (pussy machismo syndrome)....

i went through this with one of my exs that REFUSED to go to any of my family functions, yet i had to be at all of his family's crap.

more often than not he loosened up and came... just give him some time.

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No trust me we are fighting bad now

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im sorry to hear that christine :( i think its something deeper than him not wanting to go...does he always freak out about going places?

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Yes 90% of the time. He doesnt like going ot his families either. But he complains that his dad does this to his mom .

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Posted by dazies1011

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Posted by mdawg

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Posted by dazies1011

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Posted by mdawg

talk about a severe case of male PMS (pussy machismo syndrome)....

i went through this with one of my exs that REFUSED to go to any of my family functions, yet i had to be at all of his family's crap.

more often than not he loosened up and came... just give him some time.

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No trust me we are fighting bad now

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im sorry to hear that christine :( i think its something deeper than him not wanting to go...does he always freak out about going places?

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Yes 90% of the time. He doesnt like going ot his families either. But he complains that his dad does this to his mom .

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ugh that is such a boy thing!! i wish i had some helpful advice for you, but i just dont know, so heres a hug instead!

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Posted by mdawg

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Posted by dazies1011

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Posted by mdawg

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Posted by dazies1011

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Posted by mdawg

talk about a severe case of male PMS (pussy machismo syndrome)....

i went through this with one of my exs that REFUSED to go to any of my family functions, yet i had to be at all of his family's crap.

more often than not he loosened up and came... just give him some time.

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No trust me we are fighting bad now

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im sorry to hear that christine :( i think its something deeper than him not wanting to go...does he always freak out about going places?

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Yes 90% of the time. He doesnt like going ot his families either. But he complains that his dad does this to his mom .

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ugh that is such a boy thing!! i wish i had some helpful advice for you, but i just dont know, so heres a hug instead!

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Thank you Rissa!!!! I know not everyone is happy always doing the In-law side functions but, still suck it up. I even made the effort to go to his little cousin's b-day party on my MOM's b day and got to my mom late but, not anymore...putting my foot down!!!

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Posted by Tori9299

My FH hatesssss family stuff. I love leaving his A$$ home, sometimes it is so much easier then hearing him complain.

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I HEAR YA.

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Posted by BarbieGrl10

Sorry you have to deal with this. My FH likes going to my family stuff now... at 1st he disint but hes getting really close to my family now...but that comes with going to family functions.

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He likes my family, just hates family functions.

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Posted by dazies1011

Funny thing is we are handing out out STDS to the family today!!!! Oh yes here you go but, FH was a BIG BABY didnt want to come, he stayed home to play his video games.

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UGH. Don't you just hate them sometimes!!! That's kind of annoying. I'd go to the party, have a good time. He'll prob be home bored while ur out eating good food and having some drinks. He'll prob feel bad about it later. I'm sorry!!

I dont know Chris... I know everyone is trying to be polite with their responses but he seems to pull this all the time. What do you want from him in terms of family events? It's not really good enough to say he didnt grow up that way so it's acceptable. Hope things work out well today.

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Posted by MrsDtoBe09

I dont know Chris... I know everyone is trying to be polite with their responses but he seems to pull this all the time. What do you want from him in terms of family events? It's not really good enough to say he didnt grow up that way so it's acceptable. Hope things work out well today.

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I know it's not an excuse but, it doesnt help. He has gone to things in the past but, this is like the 3rd or 4th time thats he has canceled on me and I just hate it. But yet he wants to go to my other aunt's house for the 4th. He told me before that he feels umcomfortable at this aunt's house, that they dont like him. He has told me this in the past but, they do like him. I'll just be having a good time without him and eat good food!!!

Do I have to come over and beat him up?!

I know this is more than just a 'today' thing, every now and then we just REALLY REALLY don't want to go to these things and sometimes we have to understand and give a free pass...but it seems like this is getting on your nerves because its becoming a constant thing.

For today I say just go to your party and try to enjoy yourself because things most likely aren't going to work out over the next few hours. It just REALLY sux that he's not going to be there to hand out the STDs, that would bother me to no end, its something he should WANT to be there for..

So like I was saying, try to let it slide today but have a talk with him afterwards. Tell him how much it means for him to be there, for you. You guys have to work this out because throughout life there's going to be a lot of events that you don't feel like going to, but you have to suck it up - its family! And its only a few hours!!! I think the whole revenge thing will just cause a fight, but if you pull this the DAY OF (like he is doing) he might just get a taste of his own medicine..let him know how it feels to be canceled on last minute and have to make up an excuse for you when he has to show up without you...

Good luck sweetie!

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Posted by CNC4eva3402

Do I have to come over and beat him up?!

I know this is more than just a 'today' thing, every now and then we just REALLY REALLY don't want to go to these things and sometimes we have to understand and give a free pass...but it seems like this is getting on your nerves because its becoming a constant thing.

For today I say just go to your party and try to enjoy yourself because things most likely aren't going to work out over the next few hours. It just REALLY sux that he's not going to be there to hand out the STDs, that would bother me to no end, its something he should WANT to be there for..

So like I was saying, try to let it slide today but have a talk with him afterwards. Tell him how much it means for him to be there, for you. You guys have to work this out because throughout life there's going to be a lot of events that you don't feel like going to, but you have to suck it up - its family! And its only a few hours!!! I think the whole revenge thing will just cause a fight, but if you pull this the DAY OF (like he is doing) he might just get a taste of his own medicine..let him know how it feels to be canceled on last minute and have to make up an excuse for you when he has to show up without you...

Good luck sweetie!

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Thank you sweety

MY FH doesnt have a large fam like me and when we first started dating he was in awe of how we all hung out so much and had so many family get togethers and parties. His family NEVER did that. They arent close and at holidays every one would make a plate and go off to a separate room to eat... Once he saw what we did...eating together..talking...cards...board games..drinking...laughing. unitl the wee hours of the night...he was amazed by it...it just want what he grew up with. He told me in private that he wishes he had a family like I have and that he wants to make sure that our kids grow up in a house like that!

If being with your fam is important to you then it should be for him to being that he is now a part of it...and you should talk to him about it. Just dont do it in a bad way...like a mom yelling at her son kind of way...ol

I would have come with you! Even though you don't know me.

Im the opposite. I'm the one who doesnt like going to family functions.

It has alot to do with not having family around. Both my parents families are in a different country, so before boyfriends, I was used to quiet holidays and our family celebrations were 5 people.

So I can see where he's coming from feeling uncomfortable, and believe me I complain too...but I always end up going.

He couldve been a trooper and went just for the sake of making you happy. But men are just weirdos sometimes.

I had an ex who wasn't a big family guy. His parents moved away from both of their respective families because they hated them so he didn't have people around growing up and my family is extremely close so he hated me dragging him to all the functions. It really bothered me a lot (especially because eventually the only way he could stand to be around my family was by getting drunk) but in the long run I learned something from the experience. As much as I want him there, if he doesn't want to be there, I needed to pick and choose the things to make him go to this way he doesn't always feel put out to do things all the time.

That may work with FH and if he doesn't go to the grad party this time (because you're still fighting) you should have a calm rational discussion with him and make a compromise about the kinds of events he'll go to so that this doesn't come up again.