I need some serious advice!

ask her to play a few less songs, or actually you are the one giving in a playlist so give in a few less songs. My parents also had to have romanian music, i told them i am not going to play tons of songs though, but i did have to play some. When they came on ill say that everybody still stayed on the dancefloor and did a big circle, kinda like the hora(sp?)

ive been to greek parties, and even many non-greeks still participate. So your family can still have fun and dance to greek music

So just say ok you'll put them on your list, and then don't.. Just put the two you like. She'll never notice and if she does just tell them that you put it on the lists....the DJ just didn't play them.... oh well...
So your innocent!!!

well if it was me id tell her to kiss my a$$

what does your FH say? is it important to him to play greek songs? and have a greek ceremony? everything in our wedding is what FH and I want - we are not doing anything to please our parents because they are not paying for it and they already had their weddings - this is OUR wedding and its going to be everything that WE want.....i dont see anything wrong with playing a few greek songs but if its more songs than you and your FH are comfortable with than i wouldnt play all of them....

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Posted by winkie07

So my Fiance and his Family are 100% greek and I am not greek. Needless to say I am getting married in a greek church even though me nor my families opinions were really considered, anyway my FMIL wants to play 15 greek songs at the wedding, and like 2 songs from crete and more then half the guests are my family who once again are non-greek. I dunno what to do because I think this is to many and that so many people will just be sitting around because my family doesn know this music. Plus his mother doesnt even know the songs and is trying to have someone find them, how important are they if you dont even know them. Between the first dance, parent dance, cake, dinner and other little things I would not have heard anything I want because of all the greek music. I am fine with playing like one an hr, what should I do??? Heelp and I am to nice to say anything.

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let her give you the list, you pick and choose from there

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Posted by Kerin2804

You need to speak up or have fh speak to his mom. We as brides have all made considerations for different reasons/people and apparently you have already done so by marrying in the church FMIL wanted. Tell her to pick 1 or 2 songs she really wants and that is it because there are other people that she has to consider (your guests) Remember..it is your day !!!

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Thats the whole thing, I feel like its not my day. I am having a ceremony that follows non of my traditions but I went along with it and now this, I just want it to be about me and my fiance and not everyone else, but I am to shy and nice and will never say anything to her about it, I will just keep it bottled up till I cant take it and then take it out on fiance.

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Posted by teenigrrl

you might be surprised at people's reaction to the music. before dinner, all the DJ played was american music, and not too many people danced. my DH is portuguese, and everyone on his side pretty much just stayed glued to their seats when american music was played. after dinner, they started to play portuguese music, and that's when people really started to dance and get into the party. both his side and my side were up dancing. had i known that would've happened, i would have requested more portuguese music!

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its true, when we had ethnic songs come on since we had to play both my side and his side, a few songs though, everybody got up and even i was surprised, young, old and no matter what background everyone participated

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Posted by teenigrrl

you might be surprised at people's reaction to the music. before dinner, all the DJ played was american music, and not too many people danced. my DH is portuguese, and everyone on his side pretty much just stayed glued to their seats when american music was played. after dinner, they started to play portuguese music, and that's when people really started to dance and get into the party. both his side and my side were up dancing. had i known that would've happened, i would have requested more portuguese music!

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same here; none of DH's side danced until the spanish music came on; then they were all up there. I told the DJ to just keep playing more of that!

Well i am marrying a greek also, and I am italian, so we compromised, we will be playing greek, italian and american. We let the band know that if he sees no one is dancing, switch up the music.

In the end, it doesnt matter what music is playing, as long as people are up and dancing that is what counts!

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Posted by winkie07

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Posted by Kerin2804

You need to speak up or have fh speak to his mom. We as brides have all made considerations for different reasons/people and apparently you have already done so by marrying in the church FMIL wanted. Tell her to pick 1 or 2 songs she really wants and that is it because there are other people that she has to consider (your guests) Remember..it is your day !!!

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Thats the whole thing, I feel like its not my day. I am having a ceremony that follows non of my traditions but I went along with it and now this, I just want it to be about me and my fiance and not everyone else, but I am to shy and nice and will never say anything to her about it, I will just keep it bottled up till I cant take it and then take it out on fiance.

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honestly, then greek music being played isn't your biggest issue. You need to communicate with your FH and let him know how you feel and make sure he takes your wants into consideration. This is not the right way to go about things, its better to talk about it now before you blow up on him. ALso you dont want to deal with this for the rest of your life, try to fix the problem now

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Posted by FinallyEngaged

Well i am marrying a greek also, and I am italian, so we compromised, we will be playing greek, italian and american. We let the band know that if he sees no one is dancing, switch up the music.

In the end, it doesnt matter what music is playing, as long as people are up and dancing that is what counts!

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YOu are 100% right it just matters that people are dancing...my problem is that i am TOLD not asked what to do or what is going to happen. Fianace and I are paying for the WHOLE wedding rehersal honeymoon everything, so i would just like to be asked and not told!!!!

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Posted by winkie07

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Posted by FinallyEngaged

Well i am marrying a greek also, and I am italian, so we compromised, we will be playing greek, italian and american. We let the band know that if he sees no one is dancing, switch up the music.

In the end, it doesnt matter what music is playing, as long as people are up and dancing that is what counts!

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YOu are 100% right it just matters that people are dancing...my problem is that i am TOLD not asked what to do or what is going to happen. Fianace and I are paying for the WHOLE wedding rehersal honeymoon everything, so i would just like to be asked and not told!!!!

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you need to say these exact words to your husband

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Posted by winkie07

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Posted by FinallyEngaged

Well i am marrying a greek also, and I am italian, so we compromised, we will be playing greek, italian and american. We let the band know that if he sees no one is dancing, switch up the music.

In the end, it doesnt matter what music is playing, as long as people are up and dancing that is what counts!

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YOu are 100% right it just matters that people are dancing...my problem is that i am TOLD not asked what to do or what is going to happen. Fianace and I are paying for the WHOLE wedding rehersal honeymoon everything, so i would just like to be asked and not told!!!!

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I am sorry sweetie.... i totally understand about this whole I am told nonsense. If you need someone to talk to, feel free to FM me.... i know how these Greeks can be

well u should def stand up and say how u feel.. You can't let her do what she wants at your wedding, is your wedding after all... Just let her know that she have to realize that the majority of the ppl are non-greeks so u cant be playing 90% of the wedding greek music..................tell her that u wanna be fair, so it should be better if u guys only pick a few and then, switch to other type of music....
i understand you, my FMIL is controlling too to the point where she frustates me, but if u dont say anythin, she would keep imposing what she wants/.....good luck