Sorry Girls I need to Vent it is a little long ! My sister is planning my bridal shower but it is turning into a nightmare. I am at the point right now where I don’t even want one. I have a bridal party of 8 girls. So first it was everyone is busy and they could not find a date to agree on. This might sound crazy but I thought when you agree to be in the wedding party a few months b4 you shouldn’t really make plans until you set the date for the shower. Now last night my sister called my mom because she doesn’t want to involve me to discuss that my BMS are giving her problems again but won’t tell me who so this stressed me out. (My mom wasn’t suppose to tell me what is going on) Then I asked my sister for a lunch and not a buffet. My mom told me that my BMs want to have a brunch and a buffet. I know I am supposed to be surprised but it is my bridal shower shouldn’t I have want I want. My mom told me I am acting like a child and that I am being very high maintenance. UGH just want to scream!
mybabylovesmoi
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I'm sorry! I am having issues with my shower myself and I know how frustrating it is. It's not a surprise but no one seems to be doing anything and the fact is, I said I was fine not having one but was pressured my FH and his side because some people can't make the wedding.
Kinda unfair since my MOM is paying for the whole thing anyway.
Also, I don't even think my moh sent invites yet although she says its may 1st. I really didn't want it that late.
My point of my ramble is that I'm the kind of person that rather have NOTHING than have something last minute and half a$$ed and I have a sinking feeling that's what this is going to be.
SoonToBeMrsCali
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Hopefully everything turns out okay... Sorry that both of you are having issues with your bridal showers. This should be a happy time for you both...
smilesjc81
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awww that stinks
i knew my shower might be an issue, so i basically planned it myself LOL
i told them the theme and I picked the date.
i agree that the BM's should be more accommodating. saying yes to being a BM doesn't mean their life revolves around you, but they need to make 'wedding stuff' priority.
juggle as best they can so you have a GREAT shower.
hope it works out, try and go with the flow try not to worry about the food and such, just think about the great gifts!
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Soon2bMrsB91511
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I think you'd be a lot happier/less stressed if you took more of a backseat and just chilled out about it. It's just a shower, not a wedding.
At least that's how I feel.
I don't care where mine is, I don't care whether its sit down or buffet. I don't even wanna bother with a 'theme'....As far as I'm concerned the theme is show up, bring a gift, and let's eat, drink, and celebrate together!
All I care about is that all the people that matter most to me are in the same room.
LoveyDovey
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I had some bridal shower issues
and the way I handled it was I told them I want to be involved and I don't want it to be a suprise
I honestly really didn't want it to be a surprise anyway
My mom and aunt(BM) were actually totally OK with that and since Ive been involved I feel sooooo much better about the whole thing. I had so much anxiety knowing there was drama between the people planning it
I know the date and the location and that's it...I don't know any of the little details, I let them keep that stuff a suprise
get involved ONLY If you think it will cause you less stress
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Posted by Soon2bMrsB91511
I think you'd be a lot happier/less stressed if you took more of a backseat and just chilled out about it. It's just a shower, not a wedding.
At least that's how I feel.
I don't care where mine is, I don't care whether its sit down or buffet. I don't even wanna bother with a 'theme'....As far as I'm concerned the theme is show up, bring a gift, and let's eat, drink, and celebrate together!
All I care about is that all the people that matter most to me are in the same room.
Totally agree 100% with this statement.
IrishAli
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Posted by smilesjc81
awww that stinks
i knew my shower might be an issue, so i basically planned it myself LOL
Same here
And it is tomorrow! But yes, I found the place, negotiated the price, etc....mom and MOH are basically just writing the check
BlushandBashful
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Posted by Cataverri
Posted by Soon2bMrsB91511
I think you'd be a lot happier/less stressed if you took more of a backseat and just chilled out about it. It's just a shower, not a wedding.
At least that's how I feel.
I don't care where mine is, I don't care whether its sit down or buffet. I don't even wanna bother with a 'theme'....As far as I'm concerned the theme is show up, bring a gift, and let's eat, drink, and celebrate together!
All I care about is that all the people that matter most to me are in the same room.
Totally agree 100% with this statement.
So do I. I never knew bridal showers had themes until I came on this site. I'm just happy someone loves me enough to throw me a party!
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You girls are right!! It is about the people and the thought I shouldn't worry about all the details. I am just going to tell my mom to stop asking me questions and plan it and I will show up in a nice dress. Thank you for helping me see what the day is all about. With everything going on with the wedding plans the stress sometimes doesn't make me think clearly
adelz
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Everything will turn out great - whether it's a brunch, lunch, picnic or buffet :) You will be surrounded by loved ones that day celebrating YOU!
