I need to VENT. Very long, sorry.
This is a long story, and I just need to vent.
Here is some background family stuff. My dad doesn’t get along with my aunt (mom’s sister) or most of my mom’s side. Therefore he never goes to parties at their houses. When I got engaged, my aunt said to my mom that since my dad never goes to any parties then no one will want to come to our parties (implying my wedding).
Cut to a few months after my engagement, my aunt said she wants to throw me a shower, and I was so grateful to her. Before the invites for the wedding went out, she was complaining to my brother that she was never told what day the wedding was on. So I called her, thanked her for offering to throw me the shower, and told her the date of my wedding. I had already told her during Christmas what day it was going to be, but she had forgotten. So I jokingly said, “Make sure you write it down. Go get a pen now and write it down, so you don’t forget.”
So earlier this week, we get a call from a family friend that she is having a party the day we had planned for my shower. Then my aunt leaves a message asking if I’d mind to change the date of the shower. That is when all hell broke loose. I had no problem changing it. So when my mom called our friend and said we will come to her party, my aunt got mad and said that she didn’t want to go to the party anyway, and why did we change the date of the shower. I don’t know all of the details of the conversation, but at some point my mom said to her that my dad doesn’t understand the custom of showers anyway, so it doesn’t matter if we have one for me anyway. I called my aunt when I got home from work to talk about the date of the shower, and she proceeded to scream at me for about 5 minutes straight. She said that I am rude and obnoxious for telling her to get a pen and write down the date of the wedding. And that my parents are ungrateful to her for offering to throw me a shower. She then went on to say that she doesn’t care about my wedding, and she won’t throw me a shower or come to the wedding. Then hung up on me.
Now I know my wedding may not be a big deal to her, but it is a big deal for me. I don’t expect people to throw me a parade or even a shower, but don’t tell me you don’t care about my wedding. I was just so upset at the whole conversation. I have always been so respectful to all my aunts, and the one time I try to joke around with her, she becomes so angry. I would like a shower, but it’s not a big deal. I feel like because I am this normally quite girl, everyone thinks they can say anything about me and I won’t care. She really hurt my feelings, and I’ve been so depressed since the phone call. This wedding has become a nightmare. All I want is to get it over with and go on my honeymoon. I’m going to go cry now.
Here is some background family stuff. My dad doesn’t get along with my aunt (mom’s sister) or most of my mom’s side. Therefore he never goes to parties at their houses. When I got engaged, my aunt said to my mom that since my dad never goes to any parties then no one will want to come to our parties (implying my wedding).
Cut to a few months after my engagement, my aunt said she wants to throw me a shower, and I was so grateful to her. Before the invites for the wedding went out, she was complaining to my brother that she was never told what day the wedding was on. So I called her, thanked her for offering to throw me the shower, and told her the date of my wedding. I had already told her during Christmas what day it was going to be, but she had forgotten. So I jokingly said, “Make sure you write it down. Go get a pen now and write it down, so you don’t forget.”
So earlier this week, we get a call from a family friend that she is having a party the day we had planned for my shower. Then my aunt leaves a message asking if I’d mind to change the date of the shower. That is when all hell broke loose. I had no problem changing it. So when my mom called our friend and said we will come to her party, my aunt got mad and said that she didn’t want to go to the party anyway, and why did we change the date of the shower. I don’t know all of the details of the conversation, but at some point my mom said to her that my dad doesn’t understand the custom of showers anyway, so it doesn’t matter if we have one for me anyway. I called my aunt when I got home from work to talk about the date of the shower, and she proceeded to scream at me for about 5 minutes straight. She said that I am rude and obnoxious for telling her to get a pen and write down the date of the wedding. And that my parents are ungrateful to her for offering to throw me a shower. She then went on to say that she doesn’t care about my wedding, and she won’t throw me a shower or come to the wedding. Then hung up on me.
Now I know my wedding may not be a big deal to her, but it is a big deal for me. I don’t expect people to throw me a parade or even a shower, but don’t tell me you don’t care about my wedding. I was just so upset at the whole conversation. I have always been so respectful to all my aunts, and the one time I try to joke around with her, she becomes so angry. I would like a shower, but it’s not a big deal. I feel like because I am this normally quite girl, everyone thinks they can say anything about me and I won’t care. She really hurt my feelings, and I’ve been so depressed since the phone call. This wedding has become a nightmare. All I want is to get it over with and go on my honeymoon. I’m going to go cry now.
