I need your help girls .....doubting my Aruba decision

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Posted by sassygirl9

you can totally pull it off. When is your wedding?
Look for places by the water that will allow you to have a day wedding. Or a Sunday wedding or Friday night. This will cut your costs big time

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I really want to keep my date which is May 17 and I also really want it by the water ...so I have to start looking because I have no clue where to go

I'm sorry the Aruba thing didn't work out.

We thought of one too, but decided not to.

I think people see at as an inconvenience, but I know a lot who've done it and had an enormous turn out. It really depends on your guests. I think a DW is beautiful and romantic

So remember do what you want not what everyone else is telling you.

lets make a list of venues by the water

Danfords on the sound
Russo's
Chateau L.....
swan club (it's no by the water, but they do have a lake and beautiful garden)

i was thinking NJ ...my mom was telling me about this place on the water in Long Beach Island that I am going to look at on Sunday


( im from SI so its kinda easier for me to go to NJ)

but Im up for any suggestions

oh scratch my LI list then

I found this website:

New Jersey Bride

As far as photogs go and such, you need a SI based vendors or NJ based vendors?

Kim, go with your gut mama... We can help make this happen for you!!!

I think you mentioned NJ. One of my friends got married at Ocean Place in Long Branch. The prices are a little high, but she ended up doing a buffet style reception and it worked out to be in her budget. The food was plentiful and very good.
So thats an option. The place was absolutely beatiful. It was also on eof the only places she could find that would let her do her ceremony right on the beach (although it ended up raining that day which was a bummer)
http://www.oceanplaceresort.com/

I also looked at a bunch of places in NJ, I dont think any were on the water but there were some really nice places at affordable prices!

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Posted by kimnsteve

i was thinking NJ ...my mom was telling me about this place on the water in Long Beach Island that I am going to look at on Sunday


( im from SI so its kinda easier for me to go to NJ)

but Im up for any suggestions

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is your mom talking about bridgeview? i think so

On a set budget, you could defintely do $35,000. I know many people that had weddings for less, and they were as beautiful as any other wedding. I am not a fan of destination weddings...I think that a bride and groom do not have the right to get mad at people who do not go. It's a major imposition on people to take off from work, pay for airfare and hotel and then give a gift. I would never attend a destination wedding, unless FH and I were planning a trip and could make that our trip.

I do, however, like the idea of getting married and doing a second wedding in the Caribbean..just the two of you....soley for the purpose of pictures. I think Caribbean beach pics are amazing wedding pics...Nicole, how pretty are your sister's pics, right? BUT, it's not fair to family and friends at all!

On a set budget, you could defintely do $35,000. I know many people that had weddings for less, and they were as beautiful as any other wedding. I am not a fan of destination weddings...I think that a bride and groom do not have the right to get mad at people who do not go. It's a major imposition on people to take off from work, pay for airfare and hotel and then give a gift. I would never attend a destination wedding, unless FH and I were planning a trip and could make that our trip.

I do, however, like the idea of getting married and doing a second wedding in the Caribbean..just the two of you....soley for the purpose of pictures. I think Caribbean beach pics are amazing wedding pics...Nicole, how pretty are your sister's pics, right? BUT, it's not fair to family and friends at all!

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Posted by kimnsteve

I have no clue even where to start .....I know I can prob find a place but I am worried about the photo, video,dj and flowers

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I'm getting really good prices & I'll share that info w/ you via FM if you want.

I found this hall:

Channel Club

And here's a list of all NJ halls:

Halls

Also, someone on here got married in NYC at the Marriott East Side - her photos are amazing! I'll find out who her photog was and let you know...

ETA: Found her, here's her review, and her photog was Roberto Falck... Look into him!

what about the shadowbrook in nj or nanina's in SI i think or is it NJ

what about bridgewaters in manhattan i heard their prices aren't that bad but check first and gorgeous view

omg! girls you are amazing
thanks soooo much for everything and keep it coming ..lol

i am going to look at everything a lil later because I am at work


you have no idea how much this is helping me

I'm going to a reception in Jersey on July 21st. I don't remember the name of the place off hand but when I get home I'll check and let you know where it is.

btw you can DEFINITELY do it on $35k. Our budget is $40k and we are able to do it without having to really skimp anywhere. We got all the vendors we wanted and were even able really splurge on photo/video.

Don't worry even though it's not LI we're still here to help you!

editing because your budget isn't $353K.

I don't think you'll have a problem at all on that budget!! Our wedding is on the water in Long Island and with hotel dress limos officiant hall flowers dj rings photog is just under 15k..... so think you'll find something! I agree with your decision I'd want those important to me there as well!

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Posted by MrsDtoBe

On a set budget, you could defintely do $35,000. I know many people that had weddings for less, and they were as beautiful as any other wedding. I am not a fan of destination weddings...I think that a bride and groom do not have the right to get mad at people who do not go. It's a major imposition on people to take off from work, pay for airfare and hotel and then give a gift. I would never attend a destination wedding, unless FH and I were planning a trip and could make that our trip.

I do, however, like the idea of getting married and doing a second wedding in the Caribbean..just the two of you....soley for the purpose of pictures. I think Caribbean beach pics are amazing wedding pics...Nicole, how pretty are your sister's pics, right? BUT, it's not fair to family and friends at all!

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Kristina- I totally agree, my sisters pics are gorgeous, but its such an inconvience for guests,
i dont get why people need to go so far to get married, I really love the idea of vow renewals on a beach in the carribean for pics, that is such a great idea!!!!