I no longer have a MOH (very long but worth it).

I called her to tell her all of the things that were bothering me.

Like......

1- When my shower was being planned, she was in the process of moving. At this time she got a new phone number and mentioned to one of my BM's not to give her new phone number to my mother because she was a 'pain in the ass' and didn't want to deal with her.

1- She couldn't look for a place to have the shower because she lived too far away (even though she is around at least once a month). She had no money to chip in (which is okay). It was then decided she would just be responsible for decorations. She called my BM the day before the shower and said she couldn't do it (she never got around to buying the decorations). So, not only did she have NOTHING to do with planning my shower but she was the last one to arrive (10 minutes before me) and the first one to leave (1/2 hour before it was even over). She also loudly proclaimed that my shower 'cost more than her wedding' for all to hear.

2- She showed up to the shower with no gift. Not even a card. She gave me a gift certificate that she chipped in with her sister for 1 month after the shower.

3- She has no interest at all in my wedding. I mean she doesn't even ask about it when we speak (which is hardly ever since the shower).

4- She lives about 3 hours away but has family who lives right near me. She comes in all of the time (at least once a month) and doesn't even call me to tell me she is in town (probably out of fear of having to do something wedding related).

I brought all of this up to her (and more). Basically her defense was that she lives far away and has a baby. When I explained that she managaes to find time to do things for herself and her sisters, she told me that I did nothing for her wedding. I told her she has 2 sisters and a mother who were VERY active in planning her shower and wedding. My mother lives in Florida and we are not so close. I have no sisters. Plus, I was not her MOH. She is supposed to be mine.

Long story short she wound up telling me-

'I am sorry that I am not all as privilaged as you to have a rich boyfried who supports me while I sit on my ass' and hung up.

First of all, I wish that I had the ability to sit on my ass. I work a 50 hour week. My boyfriend is not 'rich' ( I wish he was). This is just her being jealous because her husband is a loser. This just confirms what I have suspected all along. She is jealous of me and FH. So jealous she can hardly see straight. I called her back and her machine picked up. I told her a few choice words and told her not to bother showing up to my wedding. I also told her what I thought of her, her husband and her jealousy.

So that's it. It's over. Some friend, huh?