I ordered...UPDATE!

I ordered...UPDATE!

My dress last night! And it wasn't all happy emotions for me. I will post up pics later.

I went to show my mother the dress. And just by the look on her face, she didn't love it. And i was truely upset. I know that we have completely different tastes, but to not even tell me, you look great was just ...disappointing. The train is beautiful to me, and the bodice has some beadwork on it, but it's simple. And i think she had pictured me in some puffy, lace dress with sequins all over it. And it's not me. I am a simple girl! I fell in love with it, and i felt beautiful in it. And to think of myself pretty is hard for me. But, when i put it on, i can just see myself a year from now in it and say 'I am beautiful.'

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My response might be annoying to you so I apologize if it is but I am going to
throw it out there in case it has the effect I am hoping for.

My mother and I have very very different tastes just like you are describing and
if she could be with me for this process (she had a very bad stroke 9 years ago
and is unable to walk or talk) I am sure I would be in the same situation but
try to remember just bc she doesn't like and I stress the word like doesn't mean you
shouldn't fully appreciate that she is able to be with you and share this
amazing moment bc I would give anything for my mom and I to be arguing in the
salon together like the mother daughter we once were

It may not be your dream experience but its special so just focus on good things
and try to make a joke out of your different tastes and styles... I promise if you take the high road you will develop
a stronger bond

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I think you must look stunning in it and it is YOU that needs to feel beautiful that day! Not your Mom! By the way, not to sound like an idiot, but what is a blusher?? And why do you have to wear it??

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Posted by PROBM

My response might be annoying to you so I apologize if it is but I am going to
throw it out there in case it has the effect I am hoping for.

My mother and I have very very different tastes just like you are describing and
if she could be with me for this process (she had a very bad stroke 9 years ago
and is unable to walk or talk) I am sure I would be in the same situation but
try to remember just bc she doesn't like and I stress the word like doesn't mean you
shouldn't fully appreciate that she is able to be with you and share this
amazing moment bc I would give anything for my mom and I to be arguing in the
salon together like the mother daughter we once were

It may not be your dream experience but its special so just focus on good things
and try to make a joke out of your different tastes and styles... I promise if you take the high road you will develop
a stronger bond

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i am so sorry to hear that...i know what it's like to have someone in the family deal with that. My grandfather had a stroke and i was very close to him.

Thanks...i will try to remember that the next time anything happens

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My mom was the same way - why are you not wearing a blusher? why are you seeing FH before the ceremony? why why why? Things have changed from when they were marred 20++ years ago. Unfortunately not everyone is going to agree with what we want even tho we want them to - but she doesnt have to wear your dress that day, you do, and as long as you feel beautiful, you will radiate beauty - and girl - that is ALL that is important

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While true that not allpeople will have the same taste try to remember its your day & what you love & try to enjoy every bit of it.

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It's your day hun, and your dress! You're only concern should be making youself feel beautiful b/c i guarantee on ur wedding day she will tell you your beautiful. As for the blusher situation......im in the same boat. Im being told u should wear it, you have to, thats how a bride looks and i keep saying yeah ummmmmm not me. I dont like things in my face! haha

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Mom's usually aren't on the same page with their daughter's taste. My Mom and I sure weren't on the same page! YOU are the one that has to feel beautiful. It's YOUR day, not Mom's!

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thanks girls! i really felt terrible...but after thinking about it, i think i am allowed to be a little selfish (which is really hard for me) and if i am happy then, everything will work itself out.

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YAY!

CONGRATS!



Can't wait to see pics!

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UPDATE! I added some pics in my album. Check it out! Let me know what you guys think.

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Just be happy about your dress, it looks beautiful in your pics. I'm sure your mom will tell you how beautiful you look in it

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I'm sure you look beautiful in your dress. Don't worry about others' opinions. You are the only one whose opinion counts!

edited because I just looked in your album. The dress is gorgeous! You are going to look stunning on your wedding day!

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aww, you're dress is lovely give your mom some time to come around.

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It is your day-you wear whatever you want. Don't let people get you down about your chooses. My family put their 2 cents in all the time. I just ignore them. My thing is my Fh and I are paying for this wedding and we do what we choose. You are going to look beautiful in your gown. Not everyone has your taste. Your mom probably wanted you to get what she wanted you to get-it does not work that way. You have to be 100% happy- that is the most important thing. Congrats on finding your dress.