So FMIL is throwing our rehersal dinner, FH has alot of OOT guests. I dont really have many. except for my best friend since 4th grade and her husband who are BM and GM in my wedding. They live far and the original plan was Rerhersal dinner on friday nite before the wedding sat.
FMIL expects 60 people and thinks its to many people so she wants to throw the rehersal on wednesday, and do a dinner for the OOT guests on friday both of which me and FH will attend.
Problem my BM and GM wont be here then, so i told FMIL that i would like them to be invited to the dinner friday since they are OOT as well...she gave me a big attitude that she has to see, she doesnt even know how many people yet, or the place etc, just gave me the run around. i fought her on it, saying well my friend and her husband are OOT and in teh wedding party and will miss the dinner wednesday...she just blew me off and my request.
DO I have a right to be severely pisssed off right now?
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BNBride60
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OMG YES!!!!!!!!
Honestly that's insane - she wants to make the rehearsal on a date they can't attend, and then she says that they can't come to a dinner. Your only request is 2 people!! *** - if I were you I'd tell FH to take care of it b/c otherwise I'd go off myself!
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she is getting out of control! honestly at this point id tell her to go fuk herself and tell her you arent going to the dinners! and to have fun without you!!!
shes insane
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That is frustrating!! I think they should be there & its still your party not hers I think some people forget that the wedding isn't about them!! My FFIL told us we have to invite the out of towners to the dinner and I didn't want to but hes paying and FH wont say anything to him but I just wanted the bridal party there.
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how rude!
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Posted by angl2001
she is getting out of control! honestly at this point id tell her to go fuk herself and tell her you arent going to the dinners! and to have fun without you!!!
shes insane
Nicole...I'm going to have to agree with Heather on this one!!!!!!
I thought my FMIL was/is insane...but yours seriously does take the cake!!!! They are in the BP, they should be at the rehearsal, she moves the rehearsal to Wednesday now they can't make it...ok you can give them the instructions on Friday at the dinner they are throwing...but she doesn't want them there. If I were you and Lee I'd just say...'You know what, we'll pay for the RD ourselves and have it on Friday so the OOT BP an dguests can attend.' JMO!
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I'd be mad too! It's your wedding!! And yes, it is nice of her to take care of the R.D but it still doesnt change the fact that it's your wedding and your RD. So if she is changing your RD to another night without your blessing- that is bad enough. But for her to have another dinner on the night before and to tell you that she doesnt know if your two guests can attend-that's just totally uncalled for. You should tell her that you're not sure if her friends are allowed to come to the wedding- tell her you will think about it and let her know.
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Posted by angl2001
she is getting out of control! honestly at this point id tell her to go fuk herself and tell her you arent going to the dinners! and to have fun without you!!!
shes insane
It really is, im sitting here steaming mad...FH is still working im waiting for him to get home so i can tell him this latest news
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that is absurd if she is doing this FOR YOU GUYS; she should let you invite who you want otherwise, what's the point???
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You're not wrong, that would upset me too. She is being very unfair
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that is absurd if she is doing this FOR YOU GUYS; she should let you invite who you want otherwise, what's the point???
SO TRUE!!!
So whats the point then....she is off her rocker maybe shes just stressed ( we all get like that) but maybe FH should talk to her, because she needs to remember who the focus is...even tho she is paying its not HER dinner
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Posted by madseason remember who the focus is...even tho she is paying its not HER dinner
I wish all FMILs could remember that!!!
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she is getting out of control I know she is paying but put your foot down this is your day no one has the say but you
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I think she may have forgotten the whole purpose of a rehearsal dinner!!! I'm sorry you even need to deal with this, I'd be soooo pissed also.
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I have read a few of your posts and IMO it sounds like your FMIL just wants things her way and thats it. This is obviously very rude of her and FH needs to speak to his mother and tell her to smarten up.
If that doesnt work is it possible for you guys to pay for your own RD. I have friends that did that because the Grooms Parents told them if they were paying they could only invite certain people. They didnt like the restrictions so they just decided to pay for it on their own.
Hope this helps you and good luck to you!!!!
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Yes... and Nicole... You NEED to get Lee involved in this. It's not fair for you to have to deal with his mother when she is being difficult.
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Yes... and Nicole... You NEED to get Lee involved in this. It's not fair for you to have to deal with his mother when she is being difficult.
Oh absolutely....I have FH on FMIL patrol these days....I cant deal with her....dealing with everything else....ultimate way for FH to help out IMHO takin care of his MOM! Keepem in line..lol
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I think your FH needs to remind her what this wedding is about A the 2 of you and B the rehearsal dinner is for you to celebrate and thanks those closest to you and in your wedding. It's not about OOT guests...and what's a rehearsal dinner wednesday with out the bridal party? isn't teh point to rehearse and then thank them? She needs a big wake up call. I'd throw a fit here. I'd say then we won't be attending your OOT dinner and FH and i will take our BP out for dinner....so not cool
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I think that she is being unreasonable- its your wedding not hers & it sounds like someone needs to remind her of that- it seems like as you get closer to your date she is giving you more and more trouble- any chance that Lee can talk to her and get her to cut this out? sorry that you have to deal with this
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Posted by TheFutureMrsM
So FMIL is throwing our rehersal dinner, FH has alot of OOT guests. I dont really have many. except for my best friend since 4th grade and her husband who are BM and GM in my wedding. They live far and the original plan was Rerhersal dinner on friday nite before the wedding sat.
FMIL expects 60 people and thinks its to many people so she wants to throw the rehersal on wednesday, and do a dinner for the OOT guests on friday both of which me and FH will attend.
Problem my BM and GM wont be here then, so i told FMIL that i would like them to be invited to the dinner friday since they are OOT as well...she gave me a big attitude that she has to see, she doesnt even know how many people yet, or the place etc, just gave me the run around. i fought her on it, saying well my friend and her husband are OOT and in teh wedding party and will miss the dinner wednesday...she just blew me off and my request.
DO I have a right to be severely pisssed off right now?
