So FMIL is throwing our rehersal dinner, FH has alot of OOT guests. I dont really have many. except for my best friend since 4th grade and her husband who are BM and GM in my wedding. They live far and the original plan was Rerhersal dinner on friday nite before the wedding sat.
FMIL expects 60 people and thinks its to many people so she wants to throw the rehersal on wednesday, and do a dinner for the OOT guests on friday both of which me and FH will attend.
Problem my BM and GM wont be here then, so i told FMIL that i would like them to be invited to the dinner friday since they are OOT as well...she gave me a big attitude that she has to see, she doesnt even know how many people yet, or the place etc, just gave me the run around. i fought her on it, saying well my friend and her husband are OOT and in teh wedding party and will miss the dinner wednesday...she just blew me off and my request.
DO I have a right to be severely pisssed off right now?
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Espo22
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W** is wrong with this woman seriously. First she doesnt want to invite her side to your shower, now she doesnt want to invite your side to the OOT dinner she is throwing. Why is she keeping her side and your side separate. Does this woman realize that at the wedding they will all be together, is she ok with that
I dont kno how youre handling all this, it can be so aggrevating...For my e-party when at first i felt like what i wanted didn't matter in the beginning, i flipped out and just said 'how about you send me a f*IN invitation and maybe ill show up to YOUR party'
Lee needs to talk to her ASAP, and inform her that the wedding is about the joining of BOTH families.
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I agree Nicole...you have to get Lee involved and ask him to deal with his own mother right now. It is not fair to you to have all the stress of the FMIL placed on yuo and you dealing with it all the time. The RD is there for you to thank your BP and what's a wednesday night RD going to do if part of the bridal party can't be there. And even if she still has the OOT guests dinner on Friday what is the big deal if your friends come they are OOT!!!!!
Good Luck, but I agree, if possible it might be easier if Lee and yourself pay for the RD so you can say 'hey we are paying cut the crap'.
This is one major reason we are paying for our wedding ourselves! FH and I did NOT want to deal with the crap= even though we still get it from time to time!
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So i spoke to FMIL this morning, i told her what she said last night really bothered me, and that when i asked her about my best friend coming on friday night if the rehersal is on wednesday i wasnt realy asking but telling her, they will be there.
I said to her i dont appreciate your answer of i dont know how many people yet, or i dont have a place picked out. I said if the rehersal is on wednesday and you have a dinner friday, My BM and GM will be there end of story! I said its non negotiable. She is my family period. She kept saying like she doesnt even have a place yet, i said i dont care if you have it at the four seasons or the deli down teh corner...she is coming.
She kinda told me i blew it out of proportion i think cause she could tell i was upset and mad. So she goes ok so then your BM and GM are a definate that day...and i said YUP!
I finally grew some balls and put my foot down!!!! YAY
But thanks everyone for telling me i wasnt wrong!!!!
LeeLee111
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I hope you feel better, I've noticed FMIL's tend to lose it when they think they're losing their sons. We need to make a pact right now that when we have sons who get married we will be nice to their fiances.....LOL
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Posted by TheFutureMrsM
So i spoke to FMIL this morning, i told her what she said last night really bothered me, and that when i asked her about my best friend coming on friday night if the rehersal is on wednesday i wasnt realy asking but telling her, they will be there.
I said to her i dont appreciate your answer of i dont know how many people yet, or i dont have a place picked out. I said if the rehersal is on wednesday and you have a dinner friday, My BM and GM will be there end of story! I said its non negotiable. She is my family period. She kept saying like she doesnt even have a place yet, i said i dont care if you have it at the four seasons or the deli down teh corner...she is coming.
She kinda told me i blew it out of proportion i think cause she could tell i was upset and mad. So she goes ok so then your BM and GM are a definate that day...and i said YUP!
I finally grew some balls and put my foot down!!!! YAY
But thanks everyone for telling me i wasnt wrong!!!!
GOOD FOR YOU!!!!
Future Mulligan
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well im glad to hear you called her and said something and that its worked out....
i hate your FMIL - she seems mean and selfish
ETS: that sounds bad i meant i hate the drama she causes.....she sounds very rude!!
jeffamanda080808
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Now just remember to do that everytime she starts with you!!!
TheFutureMrsM
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Posted by Future Mulligan
well im glad to hear you called her and said something and that its worked out....
i hate your FMIL - she seems mean and selfish
I actually said this to her face when i woke up this morning...i live with them!
i have to agree, i dont think she is really getting it yet...that its our wedding not hers
