I wouldn't have to deal with bs from my FMIL this weekend! All week I kept saying, 'yes they will be away, I can have a weekend without my FMIL driving me insane and spend it relaxing with my FH'.
I was dead wrong! FH and I go out to eat last night. We get back to his house and there is a note from my FMIL. In the note is about addressing an invite to Mr. & Mrs, despite my FMIL not knowing what the marriage situation is with the people. It was fine her letting me know how to address someone. What isn't fine is her telling me AFTER I finished my invites. I told her last weekend I was putting together the invites that weekend. I even called her TWICE last Sunday to find out about this person. She didn't answer the house phone, so I put Mr. & guest. She could have easily picked up the phone and called me. Nope, she leaves me a note.
I told my dad all of this, he goes its a power struggle. I totally agree. She feels I'm taking her son away from her, etc. So, she needs some kind of control over something.
Just like I cannot wait to have a conversation with her next weekend when I see her, about her food choices for the rehearsal dinner! For a mother who claims she knows her son real well, she sure didn't prove it! All 3 food choices, FH doesn't like!!! How do you do that? Now I need to convince, no tell her, to change the chicken choice to chicken parmesan instead of chicken marsala.
Don't get me wrong, I love FH's mom but I feel like the second he put the ring on my finger, she's turn psycho! FH is going to be 31 years old in a couple of weeks. Its time for his mother to accept that he is getting married. I know for a fact she isn't happy. She told my grandmother, of all people, this at my bridal shower! I cannot wait to cut the apron string!
Sorry for the long vent. As you can see, my FMIL drives me crazy! If I had all day, I could tell you all the things she's done, but I wouldn't want to put you all through that. Thanks though to those who sat here and read this long vent! I knew this was the only place I could really let it all out.
Love you girls!
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I'm sorry this is all going on. I don't know what to do about FMIL since I have given up on mine. All I can say is just remember to stay level headed when dealing with her
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Oh, I'm with you hun ... believe me ...
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I FEEL ya. Hopefully it will get better. =) Just try to 'kill em' with kindness as hard as it may be.
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She's lucky she hasn't seen my nasty side. I've been nothing but nice to her and have bitten my tongue numerous times.
I'm tempted to not change the envelope but I know that could possibly turn ugly. I really don't have the time or energy to deal with that! So, I will be the good DIL and change it.
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I am so sorry you are going through this... but I know exactly how you feel.
I am constantly going through a power struggle with FMIL in regards to FH and I'm sure it will be a never ending battle.
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If it makes you feel any better - I'm going through the exact same thing! If I say up FMIL says down, if I say go right she goes left. She has something to say about EVERYTHINGGGG and she just doesn't get that it's not her wedding. I even had to get involved in my SURPRISE shower because she was pisssing my mom of so much - and I don't know it you remember my mom but she is not an easy person to upset-she's like the most easy going woman in the world. FMIL is just impossible!!!!
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I am so sorry you are going through this... but I know exactly how you feel.
I am constantly going through a power struggle with FMIL in regards to FH and I'm sure it will be a never ending battle.
Thanks! Sorry you're going through drama with yours.
The ironic thing of it all is, in the beginning of starting to plan for the wedding, FMIL told me that if she ever did anything to annoy me, for me to tell her! Like I would really come out and tell her it all! She struggles with problems dealing with her MIL, so you would think she wouldn't make problems for me!
Oh well. In the end, I get the greatest gift of all.... Spending the rest of my life with my FH!
Last night when we were out to eat, I was looking at FH and was saying in my head, 'I cannot believe and wait to marry this man! ' Just that feeling alone, makes all this drama with his mother, insignificant! At the end of the day, it will be just FH and I!
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Wow I am So sorry chica...
My FMIL turn into a pyschho too when I got engaged.... I dont know why they behave like that!!!!!
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I'm so sorry that you have to go through this!
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Posted by MNM0805 I'm tempted to not change the envelope but I know that could possibly turn ugly. I really don't have the time or energy to deal with that! So, I will be the good DIL and change it.
Not for nothing, its her own damn fault for taking forever to get back to you. Why can't you tell her that, due to her lack of communication, you already finished all the invites and addresses?
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Posted by MNM0805 I'm tempted to not change the envelope but I know that could possibly turn ugly. I really don't have the time or energy to deal with that! So, I will be the good DIL and change it.
Not for nothing, its her own damn fault for taking forever to get back to you. Why can't you tell her that, due to her lack of communication, you already finished all the invites and addresses?
I know its her fault! All I have to do is reprint the envelope through my printer. I'm going to just do it, but I will mention that I had to reprint an envelope because she never called me to tell me how to address it the way she wanted!
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I know its her fault! All I have to do is reprint the envelope through my printer. I'm going to just do it, but I will mention that I had to reprint an envelope because she never called me to tell me how to address it the way she wanted!
Oh ok, well if it's that easy ...
I'm sorry, I get testy when it comes to FMLs making us brides nuts! haha.
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Oh, I'm with you hun ... believe me ...
Me 2!
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Oh ok, well if it's that easy ...
I'm sorry, I get testy when it comes to FMLs making us brides nuts! haha.
Its ok. She had my FH just text me telling me about one of the guests only being a Mr. Its like, I know his wife died. I changed it on the list when she passed away. I swear, I think she feels like I'm an idiot!
My FMIL's problem is she has no control over anything!
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Posted by christine825
I am so sorry you are going through this... but I know exactly how you feel.
I am constantly going through a power struggle with FMIL in regards to FH and I'm sure it will be a never ending battle.
Thanks! Sorry you're going through drama with yours.
The ironic thing of it all is, in the beginning of starting to plan for the wedding, FMIL told me that if she ever did anything to annoy me, for me to tell her! Like I would really come out and tell her it all! She struggles with problems dealing with her MIL, so you would think she wouldn't make problems for me!
Oh well. In the end, I get the greatest gift of all.... Spending the rest of my life with my FH!
Last night when we were out to eat, I was looking at FH and was saying in my head, 'I cannot believe and wait to marry this man! ' Just that feeling alone, makes all this drama with his mother, insignificant! At the end of the day, it will be just FH and I!
thats def the right attitude to have!!!! i know how you feel tho.. my FMIL is almost impossible as well and we havent even really started planning our wedding yet... i cringe to think about how thats gonna be....ugh...
