I THINK I AM THE SADDEST PERSON IN THE WORLD RIGHT NOW

My dad is moving to Florida tomorrow. My whole life he has either lived with me, or around the corner from me. Although we have had many differences, in the past 6 months we have become very close and now he is leaving. I just finished making him a care package for his and my stepmothers ride down. I baked them chocolate chip, oatmeal and oatmeal raisin cookies. I also bought things of crackers, candy, gum and chips and put it all into a bag for them. Oh and I packed plenty of tears in there too. I also just wrote a good bye card to them. It was the second hardest thing I ever had to do. I know I am going to be a wreck when I go see him tomorrow, well today, to say good bye. I know he'll only be a two and a half hour plane ride away, but its just the fact that he'll no longer be around the corner.
And the fact that he is getting older and recently had some heart trouble and had a pacemaker installed scares me even more. Just the thought now, of if something happens, I won't be able to just run around to his house. I am so scared, hurt, sad and upset over him leaving. I know I sound selfish, but It just hurts so bad. I know with time things will get easier, but right now, this is truly the second hardest day of my life, the other being the death of my brother. Thank you for letting me share. I really feel better telling someone how I feel. And DH is already sleeping and I don't want to wake him. Thank you and wish me luck tomorrow that I can get throgh the day and the good byes without totally losing it!!

OHHH Jamie Im sorry! Many Coming ure way, Hey we are going to Florida in Oct. Its 59.00 each way. Wanna Come?

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Posted by june262004

OHHH Jamie Im sorry! Many Coming ure way, Hey we are going to Florida in Oct. Its 59.00 each way. Wanna Come?

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Thanks!! I am actually booking a flight for the third weekend in October already. I'll be working at a new job, hopefully, so I can only go from Friday to Sunday!!

What part of Florida? My Brother lives in Deerfield Beach. And mikes entire family Brother, Sister her hubby and their 4 kids mom (dad is moving in Oct) just moved to Florida they are in Boca Raton, Boynton Beach and Jupiter.

We just booked to Ft. Lauderdale out of LGA on Jet blue 59.00 each way. I love jetblue and I love it even more when it's cheap!

I can understand how you feel, I am extremely close to my parents and when we moved to Ireland, I was so upset, I broke out in hives at the airport. And it was only a temporary move. Recently my parents just bought a piece of property in North Carolina and are planning on retiring there. I am so sad with the thought of them moving. I don't want them to go even though it is for selfish reasons only.


Goodbyes are hard, so let the tears flow I find it helps.

I can sympathize also About three days after our wedding, I moved to London with DH. I haven't been home since April and I'm just so sad and homesick I've had a few bad nights recently where I just cry because I miss everyone so much. DH tries to comfort me. It's so hard to move away from people you are close to (or have them move away from you), but it's that much better when you finally do get to see them!!! And now you have someplace warm to visit!!!

It's totally natural that you'd feel sad about this big change. On the plus side, it sounds like your dad will be very happy in his new home, AND you have a great excuse to go to Florida all the time!

It'll be ok!! Why is he moving? I feel for you...leaving my daddy back in NY was the hardest thing I've ever done! You've got a great place for vacations now!!! Hang in there!!!

I'm sorry
But it will get better....

My dad moved to FL about 10 years ago and like everyone else is saying it's a quick and cheap flight. Plus we talk on the phone, etc.

It's hard at first but it does get more bearable.

My FH's family moved to Fl a couple of years ago. I know it is very difficult, he still misses them, but we try to go down as much as possible to see them. You'll work something out so you can see him, I'm sure.

My mom just moved to Palm Harbour, FL in May - at first I was sad to see her go. But from talking to her and visiting there, it's clear this is the best thing she could have done. Her quality of life has improved 10-fold. She met a bunch of nice people and is doing things she would never do here.

I understand how you feel, but when he gets settled the pain will ease a bit. Watch for airfare sales - my uncle flies back & forth to Islip (he lives near tampa also) for $110 r/t sometimes.

Thank you everyone. I knew I could count on everyone here to help me feel a bit better. DH and I already bought my dad and ourselves one of those webcams so we can see my dad and talk to him whenever we want. That was our good bye gift to my dad and stepmom.
I think it just really scares me that my dad just retired and is now moving and he's gettig older, and I just got married and plan on having kids in the near future and he won't be here to watch my babies grow up. I really don't accept change well. DH doesn't fly, so we plan on taking at least one road trip down to Florida every year to visit and then I will go down by plane by myself a few times. Its just so hard. My dad and I share the same birthday, and we have spent every birthday for the past 27 years of my life together and now thats all going to change!! One thing I did tell him is that every year for my birthday, I want a gift certificate to Jet Blue so I can fly down at some point when I am off from work. Oh well, life goes on, thank you for all your hugs and sharing your stories.

Aww I just read this thread and tears started welling up in my eyes

I know this must seem like the hardest day in the world right now, but as the other ladies said I'm sure things will get easier once you are used to the adjustment of your Dad living in FL. I cannot offer any better advice than the girls have already given ya, but I can certainly send you lots of these!

I can relate.

My parents moved to Fl. when I was 20 and my sister was 18. I will never forget the day they got in that car all packed up. My sister and I cried ourselves to sleep.........

It was a rough couple of years because both of our parents moved. We had no parents in NY. But, they were moving and we didn't want to go (we had boyfriends and friends). They allowed us to stay and my Mom paid our rent for us for a long time..

In time, we ended up moving to Fl. lived there a year then came back. And then 3 years later, our parents moved back to NY. We all just hated being away from each other. Now with my Dad being sick, I thank God they are back.

You will be ok and NO one knows what the future holds. My parents never planned on moving back to NY!