I THINK I WANT TO UNINVITE MY AUNT TO MY WEDDING !

I THINK I WANT TO UNINVITE MY AUNT TO MY WEDDING !

I posted a few weeks ago about my aunt and how we changed our wedding date because she was so upset that it was her 50th birthday. Then I had heard rumors that the friday night before my wedding her husband was planning a little party for her. Well, she came out on Saturday for my bachelorette party, and while we were eating dinner says how she is having a little get together on the friday day and night before to have a cake for her birthday. My mom is telling me not to get upset over it, but I am sorry, I am. Ya see, I had plans to get all my OOT bridesmaids together for the whole day to get our nails done and to go to dinner and such, because I haven't seen them. Well, now my plans are ruined because everyone is going to want to go to her house because everyone will be there. I don't know what to do. I want to send her an email telling her how she was so upset I wanted to plan my wedding on her birthday, but now the tables are turned and she is going to take away from my wedding. Do you think I should. I am just really pissed at this. I changed my wedding to accomodate her and now she is just taking away from me. I don't need this crap!!

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why dont you just have a conversation with her and explain your feelings? she might not realize what she is doing, or she may think that you are fine with this. just talk to her about if you can and try to be civil and polite, it will get you further.

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im so sorry, i would be very pissed...

has anyone brought the idea up of using sunday instead????
that way your wedding and its 'beauty', will be completed before the party...

i would say to still go along with your plans out with your bridemaids,
id honestly tell them 'im getting married, this only happens once, thousands of dollars go into this one day, and now my aunt is trying to take away from it having her birthday(which comes EVERY year) right before my day, taking away people that i need at that time.


i dont know about the uninviting her, but i would definatley let her know that you are 'disappointed'(good word to use)... especially after you changed your wedding so it would not conflict with her birthday... it almost seems like it didnt matter when you would have your wedding, that she would have done a party then..

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I'm sorry your so upset
.. but, maybe you can some how compromise.

How about getting together with your girls early in the morning for breakfast/brunch and then go get your nails done together.. this way by the late afternoon your all done with your OOT BMs and you can still do the cake thing w/ your aunt.

Im sure things will work out!!!

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i agree with butterfly20, tell her you are disappointed and that you have been very accomodating for her, now its her turn t be accomodating for you. let us know how it turns out.

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OK.. I usually joke around on here but I'll be serious now.. Here's what I think.. from a guy's point of view.. mind you.. I am awful at confrontation.. but... you can't just email her and uninvite her that way. This is a something serious that needs to be talked about. You should have the right to tell her exactly how you feel and she should sit there and listen to every word of it.

Now.. what she has done is a crappy thing. Very crappy. But you can't just email her and leave it at that. That's High school stuff.

I understand your annoyance.. the hurt.. all of the negative stuff you feel now.

But I think you need to take the higher road. No one will forget your wedding.. Everything will go fine. Your FH and you will have a day to remember for the rest of your lives.

You must judge carefully whether to uninvite her. There will be many ramifications. Your relationship with her may never be the same.

I agree with you 1000%. You should be given the spotlight for this wonderful day.

But in this case.. if I were you.. take the higher road.. I think you'll feel better when it's all said and done and sipping mixed drinks on your honeymoon!

Hope this helps and everything works out!

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Don't uninvite her.

But DO tell her (in person not e-mail or phone, confrontations better done in person I think) that it is VERY inappropriate for her to do this considering you changed your wedding date to accomodate HER, and now she is not accomodating YOU. Tell her you had wanted to ask the girls out for dinner and that by her beating you to the bullet you feel that she is upstaging you a bit and while you know it's just cake at her house, you would appreciate it if she changed her mind about it.

If she wants people over for cake, ask her or tell her you would really appreciate it if she had them over the day AFTER your wedding day.

She sounds like a very jealous person who is normally accoustomed to being in the spotlight and the fact that she's stealing your thunder is really pathetic.

I would also call these girls you wanted to go out with and tell them the situation and that if they want to go to the aunts, you obviously cannot stop them but you had wanted to do this and you would still like to and it's the only viable date for you and would they mind switching for you.

Man if I were you I'd be seething. Good luck

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OK, I guess I was a little extreme with the uninviting, but I am just sooo upset. She is the kind of person that only thinks of herself and I am just sick of it. I am tired of her walking over everyone and especially at one of the most important times of my life. Instead of offereing to help us do all the last minute stuff the friday before our wedding, she is throwing herself a party. That is what pisses me off the most. She is my mothers friggin sister. But, I hear what your all saying, thank you. I just feel like FH and I changed our wedding date for her, because she cried like a baby, and now after all that she is doing this the day before our wedding. Why did we bother to change our date?? She won't do it on Sunday, because everyone is leaving. This is how everything has been with her her whole life. She thinks she is the most important thing in the world and everyone is second to her and I am just so tired of it. Thank you all!!

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I would confront her. Tell her your feelings. Birthdays come once ever year, same time. Weddings come but once.

My daughter recently had her e-party on Jan 2nd. With many obsticles on her planning, this was the first avalible date for her. I was very upset with this date because I don't live near her, I in upstate NY, where the winters are just horrible. Snow flies anytime in any amount at any given time. I confronted her with my feelings and axnieties on this date.
Then I just had to say, 'Its my place to be at your side for your party, but if weather conditions aren't favorable, I can't'. We did go around and around, not fighting about this and in the long run it worked out just perfect. I was able to attend with bells on for my daughter. My daughter is far from a selfish lady, its her day and no one or anything was standing in her way. Mom or not. See my point?

So i guess the point I'm trying to get across is 'its' your time to shine, and don't let anyone rain on your parade.'. I would continue your plans with your guests and if you go to her birthday, you go, if not, then thats that. This is your weekend, your wedding.

Good Luck

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I agree with everything OctGroom said.

Sorry you're going through this...

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Definitely tell her how you feel, or you will just be pissed off that day if you dont. Good Luck!

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