I think that this is very insulting:

Gonnacatchapeacock Posted: Sep 22, 2005 08:39 PM

I think that this is very insulting:

When someone sends a No response with NOTHING written anywhere about why they cannot attend.
I could never do that. I really think that it's very rude to just send back a card with a zero in the '___persons will attend' spot.

AND I'm still tracking down some RSVP's that are outstanding. A verbal (ie: telephone call) would suffice right now for those.

OCT05B2B Posted: Sep 22, 2005 08:45 PM

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Hi...

Totally understand. I felt the same way when I received my declines.

Actually with a week left almost...10.02.05 is my date at WM too. Unfortunately, I got a decline who was an original 'yes' so don't be surprised if at the last week you'll get a no from someone who said 'yes'. I hope it does it happens but like I was told at least I know now (today was my due date to give WM my count). And not have to pay for extras.

Good Luck!!

10.02.05

Mrs. dleeny Posted: Sep 22, 2005 08:57 PM

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I hear you! I got a no RSVP from my boss last week with nothing at all written on the card. Not only that, but she never even acknowledged that she got the invite. not one word.

Love_my_Freddybear Posted: Sep 22, 2005 09:28 PM

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i get so insulted and take it personal when they reply no and not leave as to why. My mom says not to worry about it. how could I not take it personal???

Soccer_Girl Posted: Sep 22, 2005 10:03 PM

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SummerBride2005 Posted: Sep 22, 2005 10:17 PM

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Yeah, I hear u...I was surprised at how people didn't provide reasons why they couldn't attend. We had a few of those. Some people! But they weren't close friends or family members soooo

ShortBride Posted: Sep 23, 2005 08:51 AM

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I agree! I got one back from my cousin with just a '0'. To me, they don't have to explain why, but write a nice 'congratulations' or something!

Summer05 Posted: Sep 23, 2005 08:58 AM

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Eventually I was just happy to get them back at all!! What a waste of stamps!!

IrishBride-05 Posted: Sep 23, 2005 09:21 AM

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I was kind of peeved too when we got a couple with no explanation. Now I'm just happy to get any response. We have called 2 particular couples a few times and have not even had a yes or no. That peeves me even more

DAVALJO2 Posted: Sep 23, 2005 09:22 AM

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That is kinda rude. At least a phone call to explain.

nylibride Posted: Sep 23, 2005 09:36 AM

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I couldn't agree more! And....please people, just REPLY at all! We have to give our # to Carlyle on 10/2 and we're currently tracking down people (including family!!!!?!?!?!?). Pain in the tush.

brooklynbridezilla Posted: Sep 23, 2005 09:50 AM

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To tell you the truth- before I got to this site I didn't know it was considered bad etiquette to not give a reason you couldn't attend. Maybe they just don't know?

Preshy7 Posted: Sep 23, 2005 10:30 AM

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Posted by brooklynbridezilla

To tell you the truth- before I got to this site I didn't know it was considered bad etiquette to not give a reason you couldn't attend. Maybe they just don't know?

same here- i will write no then send a nice gift
and explain it on the gift.

ouch...i bet people are now walking around hating me behind my back

SomethingBlu Posted: Sep 23, 2005 10:37 AM

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I don't know...I might be in the minority here but I didn't expect my guests to give a reason. I mean, the card says 'will attend...will not attend'. And they have a space to check, there's nothing that says 'explain reason why'. I think it would be awkward to have to 'explain yourself'. Of course it hurt when certain family members couldn't attend, but I wasn't waiting for an explanation...I figured they couldn't make it and thanked my lucky stars they sent the card back.

You're prob being sensitive because, well, weddings make us nutty. Don't take it to heart!

littlebookworm4 Posted: Sep 23, 2005 11:14 AM

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I know - out of 10 declines so far only 2 wrote anything

darlene Posted: Sep 23, 2005 12:39 PM

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At first I wanted the 'cannot attend' with an explanation, but now with all the lame excuses I'm getting, like 'Oh it's on a Friday, and we didn't know...' Hello, I sent them save the date cards in late Feb. with the date! So maybe an honest explanation is better, but I would not rather have one at all.

On the other hand, I think sometimes people feel uncomfortable explaining themselves, that's why they like the card reply as opposed to a phone call reply. On the card they can just check off the 'cannot attend' line and not explain why not. Sometimes with a phone call people feel like they are defending themselves or something.

But I agree, at this point any reply in any manner is preferable...

sarahthegreat Posted: Sep 23, 2005 12:51 PM

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i'm definitly in the minority on this one. i've never heard of writing an explanation as to why someone couldn't attend a wedding. i'd just be happy to get the rsvp back - jmo

103005FallBride Posted: Sep 23, 2005 12:53 PM

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HA! We got one of those. We told FH's Mom and she said...

'I'll get right on this...I don't know why they wouldn't be there! I'll call them right away!'

Times like this...it's good to have a pushy MIL!
HA!

ETA: So far we've only rec'd two declinations and one phone call (missing RSVP?), but we expected the declinations from the two. We're not insulted though.

Katherine121 Posted: Sep 23, 2005 02:20 PM

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Posted by ShortBride

I agree! I got one back from my cousin with just a '0'. To me, they don't have to explain why, but write a nice 'congratulations' or something!

Exactly!