I wanna cry...well I already have, and now I can't stop

Original post by Bebalina

Apr 08, 2005 10:53 PM

I'm so depressed, this wedding is making me miserable! April 6th was our rsvp date...and things aren't looking good...our minimum guarantee is 175, which should have been no problem at all. Well although I'm still missing a few, currently we have a 127 people! I don't understand what happened....originally we had too many and had to cut. Now I feel like if I send it out to the ppl we had to cut after the rsvp date, they'll feel insulted.
What to do?

Then on top of things, and please tell me if I should be upset, but my bridal shower, was this past wknd, and FHs immediate family lives in FL, so they couldn't make it. But for the shower, FH's mom sent us a check and packaged it nicely so I can at least open something from her. Which was great. but then his brother and SIL didnt send us anything for me to open that day, and then yesterday I get a card in the mail with a check for a $100...from his own brother and SIL????????????? I was appalled, other ppl that couldnt make the shower, bought me gifts more expensive then that....I just feel like they don't care, they didn't send that on time, then sent $100, and on top of it SIL isn't coming to the wedding, bc she can't find anyone to babysit her 2 dogs! I just feel like they dont care and that with my rsvps is just depressing me! and then on top of it, there's a possibility within due time, that I may be getting laid off too!

When does it stop? I'm starting to hate weddings!

angelbear217 Posted: Apr 09, 2005 12:04 PM

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I am sorry you feel hurt. But You know how people are so last minute so don't worry about the RSVPs just yet. Even though the date has passed, I'm sure you will get more in soon. I probably wouldn't have been insulted by the $100. In my family that is a lot and would be grateful that I got something. Hang in there!!!

lilacwine Posted: Apr 09, 2005 03:36 PM

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Can you start calling people who haven't responded yet?

If you think $100 is bad -- it's 10 times better than the shower gift I got from my cousin's wife -- a blanket for the park that cost $9.99! (I know the cost because I already have one.) This is from a person whose wedding shower, baby shower, wedding, bachelorette party, baby's christening, communion and birthdays 1-8 I attended and gave gifts to.

jimmysgrl Posted: Apr 09, 2005 05:36 PM

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i'm sure it feels like everything is going wrong around you but please just take some time off from the whole wedding planning thing and do something nice for you. Pretty soon, you will be a Mrs. and will actually miss planning such a wonderful union. So, follow me, deep breath in, run to your FH, plant a big kiss on his lips and say 'I need you to take my mind off of things....' and see what he comes up with

Mrs. dleeny Posted: Apr 09, 2005 05:56 PM

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Posted by Bebalina

and on top of it SIL isn't coming to the wedding, bc she can't find anyone to babysit her 2 dogs!

Ok, that is SO wrong! WOW... they do have these great things now and they're called kennels. GEEZ! She's going to miss your wedding because of dogs, very nice!

Bebalina Posted: Apr 10, 2005 11:10 AM

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Thanks for all of the support ladies. I appreciate all of it, fh is going to call his dad today to start calling all of the folks that haven't replied yet, and we'll call the remainder,
I calculated with the folks who are left, and if the remainder of ffil's list replies yes, we can actually make our minimum...thats a big if...
but going to keep my fingers crossed.

thanks ladies!

Backinneyork Posted: Apr 10, 2005 11:52 AM

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Posted by ML110

i agree with the others... i think $100 is an excellent shower gift... especially from somebody who didn't come to the shower- they really didn't HAVE to send you anything.
with the possibility of getting laid off, you of all people should realize that there are more important things in life than the amount somebody gives you for a gift... be grateful for whatever you are given.

Ditto! I am sorry you are going through a hard time, but try to think of the big picture.

marc_rai Posted: Apr 10, 2005 11:58 AM

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I say send out the other invitations. Maybe you can just order new RSVP cards (these online places can send you new cards in like 2 days). Or do it on plain white cardstock.

I think the $100 was a nice shower gift.

dm24angel Posted: Apr 10, 2005 04:26 PM

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Sorry about the lay off possibly! Try to not stress.
I do have to say I think the comment on the $100 gift was harsh though. one of My BM's and now sister in law is a millionaire, they won the lottery 3 years ago. HEr shower gift to me did not add up to $100. And I think I got MAYBE 3 gifts that were over that amount. So I cant agree or understand your frustration there.