I want to send this to guests who haven't RSVP'd. What do you think.

AllJoy Posted: Aug 03, 2007 08:54 AM

I want to send this to guests who haven't RSVP'd. What do you think.

Surprisingly, we are only missing 15 RSVPs. The majority of them are FH's relatives. FH's mother is in another world and it would be a major deal asking her to call the relatives. I was thinking of sending them this little card.

Here is what I want to send,

About a month ago, you received an invitation to our wedding.
The RSVP date has since passed and we have not heard from you.
We hope that you will be able to join us in our special day.
Even if you cannot attend, we really need to know.
Kindly send back back the RSVP card immediately.
If for some reason you no cannot locate it, please email or call us at
___________.

Thanks,
Joyce and Tony

TnOiOnL Posted: Aug 03, 2007 08:56 AM

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i personally would call them. or better yet- ask your FH to call them since it's his side... i wouldnt go through that extra aggrivation of mailing yet ANOTHER card... im sure you already have alot on your plate!

Kathryn Posted: Aug 03, 2007 08:57 AM

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I wouldnt send anything.....I would just call them myself. but in a couple weeks, not yet.

AllJoy Posted: Aug 03, 2007 08:58 AM

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Posted by MrsBartonToBe

i personally would call them. or better yet- ask your FH to call them since it's his side... i wouldnt go through that extra aggrivation of mailing yet ANOTHER card... im sure you already have alot on your plate!

Yeah, I see where you are coming from, but FH doesn't really have contact w/these people and I think he would feel wierd. Also, I have a feeling they might avoid the call. I figured this way its in their face.

BTW congrats to both you. You were a beautiful bride.

rkl1130 Posted: Aug 03, 2007 09:10 AM

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I would also suggest just calling them. I know it's a little uncomfortable at times, but it's probably the best course of action. Can FH's dad possibly help out in the calling? I know that this task was left to him.

Nina_m74 Posted: Aug 03, 2007 09:10 AM

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I would call, rather than send the card, the card can be read wrong and possibly come across a little snotty. Also with the card you aren't guaranteed a response.

If you call you'll get the answer right away.

EGreene79 Posted: Aug 03, 2007 09:22 AM

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Posted by Nina_m74

I would call, rather than send the card, the card can be read wrong and possibly come across a little snotty. Also with the card you aren't guaranteed a response.

If you call you'll get the answer right away.

This is exactly what I was going to say!

thelastresort Posted: Aug 03, 2007 09:26 AM

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Posted by Nina_m74

I would call, rather than send the card, the card can be read wrong and possibly come across a little snotty. Also with the card you aren't guaranteed a response.

If you call you'll get the answer right away.

I agree with this. Although, quite frankly if they are that rude that they can't respond, if it comes across as snotty, who cares? But that's me and I'm the argumentative type

I would just make him call. Tough tookies if he doesn't like it. If he doesn't talk to these people, I'm sure you speak with them even less. I would let him handle it.

TheFutureMrsM Posted: Aug 03, 2007 09:28 AM

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I agree with everyone else, you should call them, if your FH wont do it cause he doesnt talk to them, you should make him or just call yourself.

RGV07 Posted: Aug 03, 2007 09:30 AM

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i agree it better to call them, then to send them another reminder where they will simply igmore it.

Summer07Bride Posted: Aug 03, 2007 09:37 AM

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I say call. I made our parents do the calling for their respective sides and it worked out fine.

PattyK Posted: Aug 03, 2007 09:37 AM

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I would definetly give them a call rather than send the card. A call is more personal than a card and besides with a call they will have to give you an answer.

Colette Posted: Aug 03, 2007 09:42 AM

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I'd agree - you only have about 15 people. If you and FH don't feel comfortable there may be other family members who can help? Maybe to half of the list each?

I think a call would be better, since...if they didn't reply to your original RSVP they more than likely won't reply to the re-RSVP!

bellaro782 Posted: Aug 03, 2007 09:45 AM

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Yes I would call.....

jaiese Posted: Aug 03, 2007 10:10 AM

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It's going to be extra work, but you should call each of them. Maybe your parents can help call relatives and you and FH can call friends to split it up?

twinkletoes807 Posted: Aug 03, 2007 10:12 AM

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Posted by Nina_m74

I would call, rather than send the card, the card can be read wrong and possibly come across a little snotty. Also with the card you aren't guaranteed a response.

If you call you'll get the answer right away.

I'm with Nina! I would make the calls so you know right away and you save money on stamps!

cherilicious16 Posted: Aug 03, 2007 10:37 AM

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I know its annoying but call

magbride Posted: Aug 03, 2007 10:39 AM

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I would call. It'll be faster.

Kara and Todd Posted: Aug 03, 2007 10:45 AM

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Even though it might be awkward, I'd call before I sent something else in the mail.

Are you certain FH's mother won't call them? If she won't, he should try to get their phone numbers so he can call them.

We had about HALF of our RSVPs missing by the RSVP date. FH's parents were a giant PITA about calling people, but we just kept on them.

It's so frustrating! I feel your pain!