a graduate school classmate's wedding. Him and i are friendly and work at the same place, but I really won't know anyone there, so I'm not going to go.
Now here are my questions:
1 - When I return my RSVP declining should I include my gift then or send him a seperate card after the wedding with my gift?
2 - I'm thinking of sending him a check for $50. Is that enough?
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a graduate school classmate's wedding. Him and i are friendly and work at the same place, but I really won't know anyone there, so I'm not going to go.
Now here are my questions:
1 - When I return my RSVP declining should I include my gift then or send him a seperate card after the wedding with my gift?
2 - I'm thinking of sending him a check for $50. Is that enough?
I think $50 is absolutely fine and i would put it with the rsvp
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I would send it separately with a wedding card. Depending on how well you know him..I may bump the amount up to $75 or $100.
Ooooor buys something off the registry for less..then you can get away with spending less.
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I'd probably do 100 - but anything you give is a nice gesture.... I'd probably send it with the RSVP or like 2 weeks before the wedding.
roan126
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Are you going to invite him to yours?
I think etiquette says to send the gift with the response card, not that its worked out that way with any of my no's.
I'd probably send more like $100, but thats just me.
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I think I would send back the RSVP no and then send a card to him and is FW after the wedding and the amount is fine if you are not going- at least that is what I would do.
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I would feel funny sending cash...I would probably buy something off their registry, or send a gift card to the store they registered at.
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I think I would send back the RSVP no and then send a card to him and is FW after the wedding and the amount is fine if you are not going- at least that is what I would do.
I agree with that - or I would buy them something off their registry - maybe something that isnt moving - or a piece of china worth 100
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I would send it separately with a wedding card. Depending on how well you know him..I may bump the amount up to $75 or $100.
Ooooor buys something off the registry for less..then you can get away with spending less.
I don't know where he is registered, plus I rather give him $$. I know I'd prefer the $$.
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Posted by deb08
I think I would send back the RSVP no and then send a card to him and is FW after the wedding and the amount is fine if you are not going- at least that is what I would do.
I agree with that - or I would buy them something off their registry - maybe something that isnt moving - or a piece of china worth 100
I agree!
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i think you can rsvp no--and then buy an item off the registry and have it shipped to them.
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i would send the RSVP separate. you can either send a check or send a gift from the registry to him and his FW.
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Are you going to invite him to yours?
I think etiquette says to send the gift with the response card, not that its worked out that way with any of my no's.
I'd probably send more like $100, but thats just me.
I'm inviting him to mine out of courtesy. I honestly didn't think he would invite me to his. I think he'll decline also because he won't know really anyone at mine as well.
I'm trying to gauge what's a 'good gift'. I know him, we were classmates and former co-workers and now we both work for the same company but different areas.
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Send him a check with your RSVP.
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Depending on how you feel I think if you don't go $50 is enough to give as a gift and also I would include it with the RSVP with a little note of congrats to the couple.
When we got our 'no's' some did it that way but also wrote something on the RSVP or included a nice note.
bluekat16
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Thank you girls for the feedback
cherish83
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I would send it seperate from the RSVP. I would put the check in a wedding card and send it closer to the date.
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IMHO- What goes around comes around. Your wedding is after his and you are inviting him to yours... IF he deciedes to decline your invite then I would expect him to send you a check for the same amount most likely
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I would send it separately and would give $75. That is just me tho!
bluekat16
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Thank you girls!
I'm going to send him $75, in the RSVP with a nice note thanking him for inviting us and apologizng for not joining him and fiance on their special day.
