I will not let this bother me!!! (A little long)

I'm not going to go too much into this,,, but have you ever been a MOH? It is a lot of work, stress and hassle to plan a party with all these other people involved. She may have been trying to involve the other members and they just didn't respond. Regarding your FMIL - did she know this was an issue from the beginning?

Just keep in mind, it is very hard to be in charge of all this planning and making sure everyone is happy. Sit and talk with her before you get yourself crazy -

Yes I have been a MOH (when the wedding was in another state no less)


I know its not easy to plan this but she has plenty of BM with a lot of experience... offering to help and there hasn't been any communication..

I am better now that i vented though.. thanks

I would try to talk to her then. Let her know how you feel. It can only make things better, not worse.

Sorry - my MOH experiences were not any fun. None of the bms wanted to do anything or help with anything. They would come up with the cheapest suggestions for my sister's wedding!

thanks.. I think I should just sit her down and talk about this... I dont want her stressing out either.... it should be fun!!!

I am in a new frame of mind now that I got that off my shoulders.

Unfortunately she is going to be hurt over this, but someone really needs to explain the situation completely to her. And it needs to be mentioned that you would not mind a backyard shower. I've been to one and LOVED it! Good luck!

Now FSIL said she will not help at all if her family( aunts and cousins are not invited). I have asked FI for his list for weeks.. now he is pissed becuase the list I gave MOH was friends and my my family ( becuase he has not provide his info). So count for bridal shower is wrong...

Wow, it sounds like both the MOH and your FH is lacking in the planning dept!!!

If I were you I would:

1. Make FH get a list together, or call FSIL yourself and get a list (since she is the one who wants these people there)

2. Sit down with MOH and tell her you have heard of all the problems, that you don't really want to be involved with planning, however, you would not mind a backyard shower since it will help eliviate problems with FMIL and then you can reschedule the date when all the BP will be able to attend. If she gets really upset just keep talking and explaining. I am sure that she will understand.

Good Luck and I am sorry that you even have to be dealing with this. My Aunt (also my wedding planner) will not even let me talk about my shower and she now has it so my mom won't talk to me about it either. She says I have enough things to worry about and that is not my problem, LOL