If I have to hear this one more time... SO FRUSTRATED!

And it begins...

I had a feeling my future inlaws would... not make the planning difficult... but just kind of subtley do and say things to drive me nuts.

They have very generously offered to pay for photography, which is great. I have started searching for a photographer. FH tells his mom that we have started searching for a photographer. What is her reponse? Guess! It's my favorite response! I get it so often from people who have no idea what planning a wedding on Long Island entails, I should get a dollar for every time I have to hear it:

'Don't you think it's a little early for that? Isn't the wedding a little far away?'



NO, the wedding is NOT too far away! Photographers are already booking up for my date! This is LONG ISLAND, things work differently here than in other places, and people plan these events way in advance. As my mom was saying to me the other night, it's smart to plan your wedding this far in advance, it allows you to relax and take your time and research everything out, and you have a lower likelihood of getting closed out of vendors that you want - my parents booked my sister's Bat Mitzvah photographer a YEAR in advance, and they weren't able to get the guy they wanted, they had to go with a secondary photographer from the company and didn't end up being happy with his work.
Not to mention the fact that right now I'm in grad school and only working part time, and I get Fridays off as well as Saturdays and Sundays, so I have a LOT of free time, whereas I hope to be teaching full time this coming September (wish me luck with that), and if I'm teaching I will have NO free time.

And yet somehow this just does not communicate to some people... they just don't get it. It's so bloody frustrating. Even my fiance thinks I'm getting a little overexcited. At least MY mom thinks I'm doing the right thing!

Oh, and FH STILL doesn't understand why I think a videographer is an absolute must have. He keeps saying that they just get in the way and that we'll never watch the video.

Ug. I intend to have fun planning this wedding. I hope that everybody in my life will have fun planning it with me, but I can't force them to if they don't want to.