i'm asking this question because i always send a gift if i'm invited to a shower and can't attend. however, 16 people declined my shower and didn't give gifts. 2 of those people were girls that i had sent gifts too, even though i couldn't attend their showers.
i know this sounds petty, but it's been bothering me, so wanted to get a sense of what everyone else does.
CarolAnn721
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I am 50/50. I send a gift if I really care about the person and I can't make.
Soon2BNavi
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I always send a gift if I decline I feel that it's just the right thing to do. There were a few people who didn't come to my shower that didn't send me gifts either one being a long time friend of mine who decided basically to ignore that she was even invited
vv117
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i ALWAYS send a gift and i had an e party in may where MANY guests who attended did not bring a gift and ALL guests who did not attend did not bring a gift.
eta: one person who did not attend and didn't send a gift was a bridesmaid. why didn't she attend, you ask? bc she had an ear infection.
no i'm not bitter
julesrbf
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I always send a gift.
jme78
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It depends who it is.
If it is someone I am close to, yes. If it is some random distant cousin or someone out of state, no.
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Posted by AwaitingAugust
gotta be honest ... in the past, i wouldn't really give gifts if i couldn't make an event (shower / engagement party / wedding / etc) ...
BUT now that i've had all these parties myself, I can say that i'll def be sending gifts regardless of whether i go to other peoples' events or not.
ETA: but it would be something on the smaller side, most likely ....
This. Though I think I've only not attended a shower once and I was like 16 and my mom put my name on her gift.
christine2010
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I have never been in that position. I guess it would depend on who the person is.
AdriandSteve
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Depends on who it is. But if it's an acquantance then no I wouldn't. A fam member then yes. A friend... not sure. Depends on the friend.
Mrs Z To Be
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Posted by Lisalana
i'm asking this question because i always send a gift if i'm invited to a shower and can't attend. however, 16 people declined my shower and didn't give gifts. 2 of those people were girls that i had sent gifts too, even though i couldn't attend their showers.
i know this sounds petty, but it's been bothering me, so wanted to get a sense of what everyone else does.
You know, it's funny you should post this, because I am in a similiar situation, and I'm not going to lie, I'm pizzed about it!!
My shower was 7/17, and a few people that I always gave gifts to , could not attend,, fine. But, I never got a thing from any of them... And they are 'friends'
Oddly enough, a few of FH's cousins that I have never met, and he has never met, (don't ask), sent shower gifts, which was very nice of them .
Oh well...Lesson learned....
olganfreddy
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If I'm invited to a shower....I always send a gift...how much I spend depends how close I am to that person. NOW THAT BEING SAID! - i just had my shower and almost all the people that didnt attend did NOT send a gift...so maybe I should learn from that...or they're cheap....not sure...but I'm pretty bitter about it.
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I would def send a gift if i couldnt attend. I think its kind of rude if you dont. Maybe they plan on bringing it to the wedding even though they shouldnt
flibbertigibbet
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i think it depends on how close you are with the person.
stacey516
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I have always sent a gift even if I didn't attend.
elp6421
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I guess for me it depends on the person. Usually I will send a little something if I dont attend.
Lucky2010
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I always send a gift. It hasn't been the case for people who didn't attend my shower. However, I did get one gift the day after and just got another gift today both from our honeymoon registry.
LaurenJosh
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Yes, I would.
Lil OC
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I actually have declined 3 baby showers in my life and did not give a gift off of their registry....BUT I got them a gift after the baby was born when I went to visit. Not sure if that's the same thing. Also, I declined 1 wedding last year and did not send a gift but the people live in a diff country. Now after having my own events I feel very different and will prob always send a gift if I cannot attend something.
Cookie De La Devine
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Usually I send something, Most of the time Id rather send a gift than actually attend whatever shizz is going on. NOW my feelings have changed- it comes down to how do I know you and if I like you. The only thing I have to say for some of the non gift givers is sometimes they make it up at the wedding - sometimes
